ExH address

[Iris3456]

In our child arrangement order it clearly states we need to disclose our home address or any other address the children stay overnight. Ex has just moved into his new house following the divorce, he has the kids this weekend but is refusing to give me the address!

Probably because it will highlight him lying on the financial order. But the truth will out eventually anyway.

What do you do with a breach of order?

Should I care where they are? They will be safe but of course I like to know where my kids are.

And of course it would be interesting to see where he is after crying poor in court too.

But the whole thing makes me very uneasy.

Ime the thing is if you aren't sticking to the court order what was the point? My exh repeatedly brought dc back half an hour late. Solicitor said within 45 mins a judge wouldn't care. So the new accepted time was 30 mins later. Once this was The Norm he started being 30 mins later than that. So an hour extra. Not ideal when you /other dc are sat waiting and plans have been made etc. I kid you not with this - he turned up about 10 mins early and sat beeping his horn.(my ndn reported him to the police.) Ds rang him and said they finishing x box game. He rang me, ranting I was denying him his dc and the police helicopter was on way to arrest me. Screaming down the phone like a mad man. Other dc heard him and they became worried about drop offs and collections. If he won't adhere to rules up then you must. It really won't go again you.. More likely so if you agree the address ruling can be ignored imo..

No, I must clearly state that I am not going to prevent access not start a scene at the school!

I'll send the email with a deadline to disclose, attach the court order (THAT HE DEMANDED!) and then go through official channels. Keeping your nose clean is the best way in these cases, as much as going ballistic is tempting!

I just wasn't aware of the best procedure but I've had some helpful advice so thank you.

Get hold of your Solicitor ASAP. Explain what he is doing because if he is breaching a Court Order it is considered to be Contempt of Court ( and I think it carries a possible 28 day Custodial term!). I would be inclined not to send them until he discloses his address. I had a similar problem with my Ex who soon backed down when he was told he was considered to be in Contempt!!

@Iris3456 yes sorry, I have only just seen your response, the court that issued the order.

There is usually a warning notice on the order for a breach that sets out the consequences to both parties about what will happen if they do not comply with the order.

There are powers the courts have but hopefully it won’t come to that and the address will be forthcoming.