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Original poster

To not share every single treat with kids

41 replies

PumpkinDumplinRumplin · 18/01/2021 19:44

It's trivial and petty but whatever...

AIBU to think it's perfectly normal not to share every single 'treat' with children.

DH has been to the corner shop for bread and milk as we're close to running out. Whilst there he picked me up a 'treat' I like. He's also asked the kids if they'd like anything so they've chosen something too which he's got (chocolate bar kind of thing).

Anyway, DC has now decided that my item looks much better and wants some of that.

I'm the worst person ever because I've said NOPE Grin

Usually I'd hide any such treats but I couldn't in time with this one.

Is it acceptable to be all 'Joey doesn't share food' with kids? Grin

OP posts:
SweatyBetty20 · 18/01/2021 19:46

I don’t share chocolate - with anyone. I don’t have kids so when it’s Halloween I turn off the lights, draw the blinds, and go to bed with my chocolate Grin

Oysterbabe · 18/01/2021 19:46

They had their own treat so it's fine.

SpudsandGravy · 18/01/2021 19:46

That sounds perfectly fair to me! DH offered everybody a treat, and got what they asked for. If DC now likes the look of yours then they can choose that next time.

SpencerGregson · 18/01/2021 19:46

Never share treats. It sets an unreasonable precedent.

HeckyPeck · 18/01/2021 19:46

Definitely not unreasonable!

They could have chosen the same thing, but didn't. Unlucky for them!

ParkheadParadise · 18/01/2021 19:48

I would give my dd a Kidney without thinking about it, BUT she has known from a very early age mummy doesn't share Jelly babies or Percey Pigs ever.

EssentialHummus · 18/01/2021 19:51

Nope nope nope. The sole purpose of the kitchen in my house is as a place to hide away and quietly snaffle biscuits while the toddler does imaginative play.

BlueGreenDreams · 18/01/2021 19:54

Letting a child pretty much demand something from an adult and then giving it to them is a way to create an entitled brat. Of course, you need to explain to them why they can't have it. Teaching moment.

lorn195 · 18/01/2021 19:59

Definitely not unreasonable, DH and I have just had some clotted cream shortbread biscuits which I have hidden from our teenagers. If I had left them cupboard, all that would have been left is the empty box.

Godimabitch · 18/01/2021 20:02

No, they have their own, I actually think you would be doing them a disservice by giving them yours when they chose their own.

Aimee1987 · 18/01/2021 20:02

They picked there treat and got it. This one is mummies is perfectly acceptable. I dont think theres anything wrong with kids not getting whatever they want in fact I think it's a good life lesson.

Scarlettpixie · 18/01/2021 20:08

Yanbu unless your treat is loads better than theirs!

ParkheadParadise · 18/01/2021 20:15

@Scarlettpixie

Yanbu unless your treat is loads better than theirs!
😂😂😂😂
itsgettingweird · 18/01/2021 20:19

Of course. As long as you don't expect them to share theirs either!

I went to shop for bread and milk on Saturday. Ds has been working for 3 hours on a college assignment so I picked him up some chocolate as a treat.

I didn't fancy anything. I didn't expect him to share. Even when I then decided that actually I did quite fancy something! (I didn't even tell him I did!)

SupermarketStress · 18/01/2021 20:19

I need to know your treat item and what the kids’ items were before I can pass judgement. Grin

Longdistance · 18/01/2021 20:20

I don’t share my treats. Dds have their own. I rarely treat myself to anything, but when I do, it’s mine and no one else’s.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/01/2021 20:21

They’ll know for next time to choose what you had.

VimFuego101 · 18/01/2021 20:26

Tell them your treat is spicy. This kept DS away from Rolos for at least 5 years.

thelegohooverer · 18/01/2021 20:36

I had no idea you could just say no Shock I thought the normal thing was to hide in the utility room scoffing chocolate with my back against the door claiming that it’s stuck again.

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PumpkinDumplinRumplin · 18/01/2021 20:54

@thelegohooverer

I had no idea you could just say no Shock I thought the normal thing was to hide in the utility room scoffing chocolate with my back against the door claiming that it’s stuck again.
Grin this would be a normal course of action but I was simply not speedy enough this time! Also may have been known to hide nice things in old cracker box in cupboard...maybe.
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DNAwrangler · 18/01/2021 21:07

Come on... admit that they got a chocolate button each while you have a family sized chocolate gateau.

Still not unreasonable Grin

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MaskingForIt · 18/01/2021 21:32

@VimFuego101

Tell them your treat is spicy. This kept DS away from Rolos for at least 5 years.
You’re an evil genius!
C152 · 18/01/2021 21:33

Not unreasonable at all! Enjoy the treat!

MaskingForIt · 18/01/2021 21:34

It is a tricky one. On the one hand I agree that they made their choice and you made yours, too bad so sad. On the other hand I suspect asking to share is them sort-of checking you love them. They don’t actually want the treat, they just want to know that you would share.

I still think we need to know what the respective treats were to make a full judgement!