He bought chicken burgers

[Mouseylu]

Lighthearted. Yesterday dh went to do food shop. Two lists - one for supermarket, the other for our local butcher. The butcher list had two items on it: chicken and burgers. I wanted a whole chicken and some beef burgers. He bought chicken burgers - items were listed on separate lines as were the supermarket items but somehow he claims it read chicken burgers. Aibu to despair?😫

@UghNotThisAgain36

I don't find this funny at all though I know its meant to be light-hearted. Why do people put up with such 'selective helplessness'? Why would you saddle yourself with someone incapable of reading a shopping list? Just smacks of infantilising men. Yuck.

I'm all for men not being given free passes for being useless, but that's a bit much in this instance. He misread the list! The "do it yourself next time" comment is shit though

@ColdTattyWaitingForSummer

I do remember writing "salad pots" on a shopping list, and giving it too my then DH. I meant the pots of coleslaw / pasta salad / potato salad, that type off thing. He came back with a bag of salad potatoes. To be fair, that one maybe wasn't his fault!

I would definitely have thought that was salad potatoes. I'd called the things you wanted "pre-prepped salad-y sides in tubs"

@Notimeforaname

I do know my size and its not superplus, I tried one off a friend and it got stuck

Whilst I do know tampons are about flow and not size I must say I've had a similar experience the two times I tried to use super or superplus?! (was all that was available) it really hurt to put them in,was uncomfortable and really hurt trying to take it out... I assume its because I wasn't used to them and perhaps wasn't using them/placing them correctly.

Eurgh! Nothing like the discomfort of removing a "dry" tampon

If I am buying batteries he has to spell it out to me in great detail as I avoid all things to do with power in our house at all times. That's normal.

Slight tangent (if that's mathematically possible) but these people who leave a significant part of basic life admin - like cooking or technology or financial stuff - to their partner, what do they do if they split up or one of them is incapacitated, or even dies?

We have a death book. DH and I work as a team but there are things s organises and does that I never have and wouldn't know where to start. Whereas everything I do he can do, albeit not like I would, and there are a few admin things that might not get done but wouldn't affect the children so I don't care . Since he was ill we now have a death book and many instructions are being written in it. By both of us.

@Nunoftheother

If I am buying batteries he has to spell it out to me in great detail as I avoid all things to do with power in our house at all times. That's normal.

Slight tangent (if that's mathematically possible) but these people who leave a significant part of basic life admin - like cooking or technology or financial stuff - to their partner, what do they do if they split up or one of them is incapacitated, or even dies?

well, I can only speak for myself (the battery person) but basically of course I can do all this stuff. But we've got into the habit of one person taking on the "thinking" for various things. So, in the case of battery/power etc, I choose not to spend time and energy thinking about this because he's on top of it. Of course I could do it if I had to. Similarly, DH spends almost zero time thinking about food preparation/cooking/shopping.

I'd argue that even in a fairly evenly split household like ours, I still take on far more of the thinking. So I'm certainly not feeling any need to rush in to take on the few thinking jobs he has unless I absolutely have to.

I was ill in bed and asked my husband to get some potatoes when he went to the shop, he came home with 2!

When we first got together now dh made his first meal for us all. A roast I think.
Watched him prepare 2 carrots..
There were 11 of us!!
His shopping skills are 9/10 these days. And he cooks tea every night. Only 7 of us now!!
No complaints here!!