Am I being unreasonable to my partner

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Am I being unreasonable to my partner,
I am up with both children from 5am in the morning and playing and doing bottled up untill 9pm my partner don’t do nothing at all during the day as he gets up at 11am and then sit in the bathroom for 2 hours so he don’t have to deal with the crying baby, he then don’t offer to help me at all when I need to have 5 mins to me self, as baby girl will constantly cry if she’s not held or sitting up in my arms,

But my partner does her midnight feed and brings her to the bedroom once she’s fed and then leaves her to me!

But he says I’m selfish because he can’t GAME with his friends at night because he has to feed the baby! But he’s 36?

Am I in the wrong for moaning that he does nothing at all!

I’m not one to jump straight to leave him, but god I couldn’t/wouldn’t put up with that!

YANBU

No point to him

You are his child minder and housekeeper.

Get rid of him

Good God OP what did you really think we are all going to say????

Erm so tell us about his redeeming features that make you stay in a one sided relationship??

Tell him to change. If he doesn’t, walk.

Does he not work?

Is this a JOKE? If it's not, I'm so sorry you have found a 'man' like this.

LTB he is a prick. He should have stopped gaming when he grew up and became a father.

urgh so tiresome. better off on your own OP, you will end up resenting him.

My best friend was with a guy like this, she wasted 6 years and two kids with him until she woke up one day and said I cannot do this anymore. She's absolutely thrived since walking away from a mid thirties stoner who's obsessed with video games and can't be bothered to wear a condom or be responsible to the by product from that.

Of course it was hard, he made life as difficult as he could for her but they've gotten to a place of somewhat decent co-parenting (of course the brunt still falls on her) but more importantly she is happy. It won't be easy but it'll be worth it. Leave.

I find the saddest part of this post the fact you even have to ask if this is unreasonable. Please up your self respect and show him the door

If it was me, he'd have been long gone. He's a waste of space, a selfish wanker with misplaced priorities who you're probably having to feed and clean up after, too. no thanks.

No you’re not being unreasonable, and it won’t get any better.

You keep calling him your partner, but it’s not much of a partnership.

Does he have a job?

He sounds sexy. I guess you can’t kick him out because you need both of your benefits to survive?

He would rather sit in the bathroom than help you? Or spend time with his family?

And you are still with him??

@MaskingForIt

He sounds sexy. I guess you can’t kick him out because you need both of your benefits to survive?

Wow. That’s a low blow.

Why doesn't he have a job?

He's a grown arsed man with two kids and his priority is playing games. Tell him to shape up or ship out. No woman needs a man child in their life.

YABU for bringing children into the world with someone not fit to be a father.

He sounds like a lazy waste of space! What does he bring to the relationship? How does he make your life better?
Honestly if he doesn't add any goodness to your life you need to really think about being with him

Wow. That’s a low blow.

He must be making some sort of contribution, and it doesn’t seem seem to be physical or emotional.

Are you really asking YABU based on the facts given??

Either you have been so contolled you think that acceptable or you have changed the facts to make yourself look like some kind of abused saint.

Men generally aren’t keen on caring for babies.
If he resents it, I’d not let him do it as baby will pick up on his lack of care/ hostility.
When kids are more “ Fun” they become more hands on, according to an experienced health visitor.

If he was inattentive to baby number one, having another won’t make him any better.

Men who are good with babies are rare .

I'm going to take a wild guess that this loser doesn't work either.