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Anyone else losing it with poor behaviour from children?

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bridgerton · 15/01/2021 11:42

I cant homeschool my DD (5). Shes in reception and acts like an absolute clown every single day. I'm fed up. She cant sit down and do her daily activities, she always gets distracted by the trains outside or stares in to space chewing on the collar of her t-shirt. I cant get her to engage.

I've been leaving her with my mum whilst I work and she's very compliant. When I'm there, she just fucks around, argues, climbs everything and has been deliberately wetting herself. I honestly cant take this anymore. I don't recognise my 5 year old. What is going on with her?

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FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 15/01/2021 14:09

Also our school work was really boring. So instead of phonics worksheets I'd try and find a free phonics game online eg phonics play. The handwriting practice was v boring so instead we would write a birthday card for a friend then cycle and deliver it. You dont have to do the work set if there is something else that would hold her interest better

Teddy1970 · 15/01/2021 14:17

Good idea Cigars!

PumpkinPie2016 · 15/01/2021 14:21

OP you have my sympathies Flowers

My DS was 6 and in year 1 during the last lockdown. I am a key worker but was wfh so kept him home. My Nana died the day lockdown was announced (not covid) we were very close and I was absolutely devastated.

As a result,I did no school work with DS for the first 3 weeks Blush I just couldn't function. When we did start,we didn't do loads as he wasn't that engaged either. He likes maths so we did that and I bought a CGP english book which he enjoyed. We read anyway but did little else. As a secondary teacher I really worried he'd be behind the others who were all posting masses of work.

He started Y2 in September and hasn't been behind at all, smashed the phonics screening in Dec as well.

Point is,your daughter will be fine honestly! She is so little still and it's probably quite confusing for her to do school work at home because that's not where she normally does that. Lego is an amazing toy -she will be using her imagination and developing her fine motor skills -great, let her keep going!

Try to weave 'learning' into other aspects of life. Can you maybe do some simple baking with her - let her help weigh things, look at the numbers together, count how many cakes you made, if we eat two,how many will be left etc. If you can get out - counting how many red cars pass, how many houses have a blue door etc. All helps.

Try to read but remember, you reading to her is massively valuable -just as much as her reading to you. You don't have to read school books only - I have read all sorts to my son. Gangsta granny was a favourite!

Easier said than done but try not to worry too much Flowers

Teddy1970 · 15/01/2021 14:25

Oh yes other parents exaggerate, even my SIL claimed her DD was doing six hours of school work everyday, (she's 8) until we found out it was a load of bollocks, why do they lie? Do they think they'll look like perfect parents or something?

Movedtothedge · 15/01/2021 14:45

When DS was in nursery his nursery teacher once told me “parents lie” - this was in response to me talking to her about how we were going through a bad patch with his behaviour and all other kids seem to behave.

She said a proportion of parents will always claim their child is an angel, does all their schoolwork, is great at their hobbies and sports, eats everything, is always so kind and polite etc. As time has gone on I've seen she’s right - many parents do lie or exaggerate.

And right now except for the rare child who is engaged and motivated with homeschooling, everyone is battling in one way or another. We certainly are with DS(6)- I cant believe we could have months of this. I want to cry daily.

GrolliffetheDragon · 15/01/2021 15:11

DS is 7 and getting him to do school work is a nightmare. He drags his heels, gets distracted, runs off to do other things, and gets really stroppy and rude.

He was ok with it last year, but I think that was the novelty of. Now the going back to school then them being closed again, it's been more difficult for him. DH and I decided not to push him too much and as long as he does a little bit everyday it's ok.

Uhhuhoyaye · 15/01/2021 15:18

We all thought my sister was a bit thick. What a naughty, day-dreamer she was. She never did any work until at 13 she totally changed, worked hard and got into a top university. She's also is and was very good at lego.
Admittedly that was in the early 1990s so things have changed, but 5 is far too early to worry about falling behind.
I don't know how anyone works and home-schools. It must be impossible.

DappledThings · 15/01/2021 15:29

Her classmates are all eager to work but her.
I'm sure that's not true. I have a 4 year old in Reception and our class WhatsApp is very honest about how tough we are all finding it and how hard it is to get concentration.

The last hour on ours has been lots of great ideas about games that are slightly learning related and how important play is.

Nobody is claiming their kid is full of phonics based enthusiasm.

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