To be PISSED OFF WITH MY HUSBAND for saying I love you to bits?

[ScaryScaryNight]

I LOVE YOU TO BITS?

WTF?
That is something a friend says about another friend, when there is something wrong, like in:

I love her to bits, BUT really she is wy out of line on this one and she should just shut up now. Or something.

Or, is "I love you to bits" something passionate you expect your husband to say?

So I am asking you my fine ladies: what is the meaning of "I love you to bits".

Msn, we only ever talk on msn when he is away, and then most of the time he tells me off for keeping him on the screen as he hates msn... I should go out and get some shopping done before my mosters tear the house to pieces.

We have built a puppet theatre (cut and painted a cardboard box) and made puppets out of old socks and odd buttons, feathers and other bits!

I think 'I love you to bits' is a diluted way of saying I love you. I agree its not husband and wifey. My hackles would be up if my dh said it to me, but then I'm an old harpee

I don't get why she has to be "grateful" that her husband loves her

I'd be grateful if someone took my clothes in when raining, or watered my plants when I was on holiday.. I wouldn't be grateful to my husband for loving me

He married me, he has to love me....

I understand scary wondering where her dh heard it at, if it's not a phrase she & he use often.

I'm sorry - I wouldn't be suspicious at all if dh came out with it on a pc and had never actually said it to me before - is it wrong for men to come out with something new? Poor guy!

...and yes I am grateful that my dh loves me and tells me he loves me......I've so many friends that have split up - in fact quite a few this year alone - and yes I am grateful that my dh loves me and I have to tell myself not to take that for granted.

think dh last said he loved me when we had sex whixh was friggin ages ago

I'd be grateful if I were you, it never gets said here

me and my dp say all sorts of weird things i think its nice i see it as i love every part of you

i get love you shed loads and all sorts the fact it begins with i love you is what counts and not i love your bits lol

i like it i see chilish behaviour like that refreshing between me and my dp as we have to be so sensible and parent like and when its us its nice to have an element of childness about us stops us being so serious all the time keeps things fun

Scary it's a typical man-putting -his-foot-in-it whilst -try-to-be-romantic phrase isn't it?!!

It is always unnerving I think when they do something out of character like that & I think that's the point here it was odd FOR HIM to say that. it's so hard maintaining a long distance realtionship, eveything gets distorted & stilted whether on MSN or in letters.

Keeping counting the days Scary & hang on to the thought of that lie in!!! Can anyone else have the kids or afew days so you can lie in together?

Since day dot my dh has been signing birthday cards etc with "Lots of Love".

I write that in family members cards

Recently he has started writing "With all my love" & as it changed it was a shock! lol I asked him why the change & he said he got fed up with writing "lots of love"!

When we got married we got our handwriting enscribed into eachothers wedding rings, My ring (that he got enscribed) says "To XXXX Lots of love from XXXX"

His says "XXXX with all my love, forever yours XXXX"

So he's always been a creature of habit

mosschops

jellish .. what about a tart comment along lines of ...what you just posted!

dh does say it.. and one day ds told me that he 'loved me babes' ..

mmam
i dont get the hand clenching but just sort of melt when looking at him

your 'love you so much i havent got the real words' is poetic i think

just love you to bits, it aint
really grates on me

and yes i did start a thread over this very phrase once and it was kindly 'explained'
but
i should have put it in aibu cause i will NEVER like nor not shudder when its uttered..

MALO ...doesnt come over to me as blokey phrase more trisha trash tv show overused nil thought out tripe that people repeat cause they cant nor wont verbalise their own feelings
sad imbo

Scary!!! O.K:

I love you to bits:

I love every bit of you

Every bit of you I love

All of your bits are lovable

Lovable are your bits

Enough said?

HE LOVES YOU

It's just your mind fretting because you are apart,if he had said that to you at home it would have been different.
I love you to bits when you are apart is cuddly and warm. A long distance hug

Trick...you're right. As usual!

If a bloke says he loves you does it matter what words he uses? The fact he actually said he loves you is surely enough?

I'm grateful I have a bloke that loves me - I do take this for granted and I'm lucky he chose me actually cos I'm sure I'd be a lonely old spinster if he hadn't.....

My dh and I had two years apart whilst he served with the Forces in Germany. With him going on exercise I could go two months without talking to him and we relied on writing to each other - well me writing to him and then getting a scruffy note back!

We had so many long distance phone calls and if he said anything 'out of the ordinary' it never bothered me - I knew him too well to read anything into any comments he may make. He ended every phone call with I love you and that was good enough for me. If he failed to say it that didn't bother me either.

I think when you're apart, especially for a few weeks at a time your mind can play tricks on you and I know I took every letter or phone call far more seriously than if we were talking face to face.

MALO, isn't he lucky you accepted his proposal?

Isn't he lucky that he's not a lonely old batchelor

Actually I proposed to him!!!!

...in a leaking tent, in a storm, in Bavaria on holiday.....he'd just got divorced and I thought I'd grab him and he said yes!

Would he be a lonely old bachelor if I hadn't have grabbed him? Probably not. He's too nice to have been left on the shelf. Someone would've had him.

I wrote a letter to 'any soldier' when the first gulf war was on - he got my letter and that was it - blind date a few weeks later and we've never looked back. 14yrs of marriage, two children and we're happy and he may on the odd occasion tell me he loves me but not that often and it doesn't worry me because he's never been one to say it other than when he's been away and then he'll say on every phone call or on every text. Bless him.....

...it'd worry HIM more if I asked him if he loved me because I know it'd be followed by 'why, what's up?' so I guess you could say we take it for granted that the feeling is mutual - it just isn't a common phrase in our house...especially with two kids listening who would be heard saying 'oh yeuck'.!!!

Oh crap I spelt Bachelor wrong! Oh I'm affronted!

I have never asked dh if he loves me.. I wonder if he'd get worried if I did!

i think any genuine Heartfelt declaration is smashing, he loves you bits and all ScaryScaryNight . how smashing is that then a man who loves your bits

stop faffing about blethering on MN go grab yer man (and love his bits right back)

I am going to grab his bits friday 9th november, mark my words! And I shall stop faffing about, and not let my mind play silly tricks on me!

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Come on you cold hearted witch, count your chickens! :-)

Good 4u scary.....you got there eventually!!!! x