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What do I do with all these presents?

100 replies

Astressie · 14/01/2021 18:29

Covid restrictions hit us at Xmas and DD couldn't spend Xmas with us or her birthday (just before). She has just moved into an unfurnished flat, not much stuff of her own, so we wanted to help her out. I have a load of presents sitting here wrapped up for her including a large piece of furniture. Feel a bit sorry for myself and her. I haven't seen her for months (or anyone else for that matter). She is in her flat holding off buying things as her presents are sat here.

Any ideas on how to get them to her without costing a fortune and within restrictions? Really lacking in energy to find an answer to this one at the moment!

OP posts:
Summersun2020 · 14/01/2021 18:31

How far is she? Honestly I would just drop them off-dont make any stops if possible, leave on her step, wave from the car and drive home. I would consider it an essential journey if she has very little by way of furnishings.

HollowTalk · 14/01/2021 18:32

What sort of distance?

Smarshian · 14/01/2021 18:33

I would also say that this is essential if she is without furniture

TheCap · 14/01/2021 18:33

Just drop them off but limit yourself contact

TheCap · 14/01/2021 18:34

Your

isupposeitsverynice · 14/01/2021 18:34

i'd drop them off too

Onekidnoclue · 14/01/2021 18:35

Drive them over for a doorstep delivery.

OhioOhioOhio · 14/01/2021 18:36

How far? I'd go too.

updownroundandround · 14/01/2021 18:36

Depends on the distance involved and whether you'd be crossing Tiers to do it.

Tenyearsgone · 14/01/2021 18:37

Just take them.

MissMarpleDarling · 14/01/2021 18:38

Must drop them off or get her to collect them

B33Fr33 · 14/01/2021 18:38

As above. Presumably some of these things are essential house items. If you can, no stops drop and wave from the drive. If you need two to unload wear face masks and use hand sanitiser before and after. Maybe add a small shop of household nicer basics (fancy biscuits, a nice tea, coffee)? As a treat.

MissMarpleDarling · 14/01/2021 18:38

Just not must

Lilmzsnowflake · 14/01/2021 18:39

I would take them and drop on the doorstep for her. It’s no different you doing it or a delivery company IMO. As long as you stay outside and keep distance. She’s got no furnishings! That counts as essential to me.

updownroundandround · 14/01/2021 18:40

But I completely disagree with all the PP's who say it would be an essential journey though !

It's certainly NOT essential, as she obviously had what she NEEDS, but perhaps not what she wants ? Hmm

But if it's from one end of town to the other and you can fit it in your car/van, then I'd probably do it if you can leave the stuff on her doorstep, but I think that crossing Covid Tiers would be taking the piss Hmm

Tal45 · 14/01/2021 18:49

If she could have a delivery driver deliver all this stuff to her is it really different from you delivering it to her? It's not if you just drop it off so it's ridiculous that you can't, and if you stay in the car it makes no difference how far you go. But it does seem to be against the rules unless she's quite close which I'm guessing she's not. I don't think there's much you can do :-(

Frouby · 14/01/2021 18:51

Does she live alone? Could you be providing support to a single person in distress?

HollysBush · 14/01/2021 18:54

Yes depends how far away she is. I have same problem but my son is a 2.5 hour drive away and I def wouldn’t go that far.
Half hour drive would be my limit I think.

Womencanlift · 14/01/2021 18:56

Not sure where you are OP but certainly in Scotland moving house (and therefore the belongings) is allowed which technically this is. Crossing levels is covered by this even now in lockdown

So either you or your DD can move the belongings to their house. May want to unwrap them though in case for whatever reason you are stopped en route (if your DD can’t come to you because she is outside your bubble then maybe you open them for her on a zoom call, shit I know but so is everything else)

If your are not Scotland then maybe check if it is similar in your area

GameSetMatch · 14/01/2021 19:06

My Hermes is really cheap to send parcels, I know lots of people don’t like them but I’ve never had a problem. I sent my nephews Christmas gifts in a large box around 9kg and it was just over £10.

ComesAsTheEnd · 14/01/2021 19:06

Aside from the piece of furniture, how much stuff is there? We’ve occasionally sent huge parcels to DS at uni (he’s about 200 miles away) and have found prices to be very reasonable.
We’ve used dpd, Parcelforce etc, they’ve collected from us and delivered to him next day and so far the service has been excellent.
Might be worth a look online.

Classicbrunette · 14/01/2021 19:08

Just keep them until you see her.

Adifferentstory2 · 14/01/2021 19:08

Man and a van, removal companies, courier or just take them
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HermioneMakepeace · 14/01/2021 19:09

Why can’t you post them?

notalwaysalondoner · 14/01/2021 19:16

Moving house is essential and you are allowed to have help to move, you’re even allowed to stay in a hotel if you’re moving so I would just take them. If she’s super super far and you’d have to stay the night or something then I’d maybe wait it out.