What do I do with all these presents?

[Astressie]

Covid restrictions hit us at Xmas and DD couldn't spend Xmas with us or her birthday (just before). She has just moved into an unfurnished flat, not much stuff of her own, so we wanted to help her out. I have a load of presents sitting here wrapped up for her including a large piece of furniture. Feel a bit sorry for myself and her. I haven't seen her for months (or anyone else for that matter). She is in her flat holding off buying things as her presents are sat here.

Any ideas on how to get them to her without costing a fortune and within restrictions? Really lacking in energy to find an answer to this one at the moment!

@updownroundandround

Depends on the distance involved and whether you'd be crossing Tiers to do it.

Are we not all in lockdown now rather than tiers?

I’m normally super strict on Covid rules but I think you should take them.

Will she let you use her loo when you get there?

Does she drive? If so she could hire a car or van and come and collect the things, moving is allowed and this is part of furnishing her new home.

Does she live on her own? Can you not bubble with her and take her her stuff? (Even if you can’t, just go anyway)

I just drove 140 miles there and 140 miles back btw to see my mum (bubble). No problems at all. Drove past police but they did nothing. Lots of cars on the motorway.

There is no maximum distance you can travel for any of the permitted purposes.

If she is a single adult household form a bubble and deliver the presents in person, including a visit. If not a doorstep delivery should be fine.

I'd definitely go by car... Your daughter needs furniture, you're moving it...

House moving is allowed.

Just saw the comment about the will she let you use the loo? If i decide to drive, this has prompted a real issue I'm always dying to go to the loo will there be anywhere open to go, risky!

You haven’t answered why she can’t be in a bubble with you?

I suppose she could but we already have Mil and DM. Also main thing is I don't want to drive and not be able to go to the loo anywhere !! So looking at delivery ££££!

Service stations are open. You’re obviously looking for excuses.

I’d drop them.

Oh for goodness sake, really. Just drive them there and use the loo when you get there taking sensible precautions. She’s your daughter not some random stranger.

You’ll be really pleased that you’ve done it and you and your DD will feel better for it.

Or if your DD has a car you could maybe meet at services half way if it makes you too nervous otherwise.

You obviously don't want to go there at all... just spend the money and use man with a van.

Of course you can use the loo. Service stations will be open and it would be minimally risky to pop in and use her loo if she keeps out of the way and you spray with anti bac after.

OP it’s clear you don’t want to do it. You don’t need to keep rationalizing it and making excuses about the loo, the rules, Covid tiers, your inability to control yourself from hugging, concern that your driving skills have lapsed after 9 months of staying local, partner’s preference and so on. If you wanted to do it there are rational solutions for all of the issues you brought up. But you don’t. And that’s OK.

The good news is you’re a grown woman and you have the choice to not do something you don’t want to do. It sounds like you are exploring delivery options so hopefully that will work.

Your poor daughter. Why don't you want to see her.

@FiveShelties

Your poor daughter. Why don't you want to see her.

Possibly because there is a pandemic on and contact with people is what's spreading it?! Bit much of you to assume the OP doesn't want to see her daughter!

Id do a Doorstep delivery myself

@CokeAndPepsi

OP it’s clear you don’t want to do it. You don’t need to keep rationalizing it and making excuses about the loo, the rules, Covid tiers, your inability to control yourself from hugging, concern that your driving skills have lapsed after 9 months of staying local, partner’s preference and so on. If you wanted to do it there are rational solutions for all of the issues you brought up. But you don’t. And that’s OK.

The good news is you’re a grown woman and you have the choice to not do something you don’t want to do. It sounds like you are exploring delivery options so hopefully that will work.

You read my mind!

It’s fine not to do it for whatever reason you want! Just decide not to and move on

If she drives, can you not meet half way. You could meet at a service station or large supermarket car park...you can also then use the loo!

Possibly because there is a pandemic on and contact with people is what's spreading it?! Bit much of you to assume the OP doesn't want to see her daughter!

I assumed (rightly or wrongly) that if OP wanted to see her daughter she would have gone along with one of the safe suggestions offered.

We've just used Shiply for a courier for a piece of furniture, really reasonable. You could send the furniture and the other presents alongside it in a box.

I wouldn't go, especially if you say you're bubbling with your mum and mother in law which is already breaking the rules and increasing the risk to all involved.