To ask the teacher to change the live call time

[namechangestory]

DD is in reception and is attending school as we are both key workers (I WFH, DH goes out to work). There is only 3 others from his class and most of his friends are staying at home.

The class teacher is running a zoom call every day so the class can all see each other and listen to a story. The problem is it clashes with pick-up time so DD cannot join and she misses out on seeing her friends who all see each other on the video call every day.

AIBU to ask the teacher to change the time slightly so DD can attend? Push back by half an hour so we are home?

YWBVU to do that. She's chosen a time that suits her and, it seems the rest of the class. It really is up to you to try to fit in, not expect her to change to suit you.

I think YABU. It’s a shame that your child misses out but they they do still get that interaction in school. The teachers have such a huge job managing the time tables and remote learning and bear in mind it has to not clash with other timings for parents with siblings in school. Do they not record it so that your child could watch back and see their friends? We have the same situation and when we watch back he likes seeing his friends even though he obviously can’t interact live.

How long does it take you to get home? Would she catch it if she does it on your phone straight out of school?

Otherwise you may as well ask politely, all they can say is no.

They can’t record the other children, Fisty

Of course YABU. If it bothers you that much keep your child at home and juggle like everyone else.
Your assumption is that it’ll be fine for ALL the other parents who are trying to work and look after their kids and home school.
You can’t have everything.

I think it's fine to ask but the teacher obviously knows it clashes with pick up time so I would perhaps ask why they chose that time. Perhaps she feels your DD gets to see 3 other children for the whole day and so wouldnt benefit as much as the other children. I wonder if this time has been chosen as it may be easier for working parents as it is towards the end of their day.

If you’re WFM can you pick her up early and get her home in time to take part?

Your daughter/son (you’ve used her and his) will be getting more interaction at school than those children on the video call will though.

YABU. My children are missing half their Zooms because they clash. It’s just unfortunate.

Thanks all. The call is at 3pm every day, which is exactly the same time as school pick-up unfortunately.

YABVU. You could always suggest doing a zoom call to the parents of her closest friends (not teachers) once a week or something if she’d like to see her friends on screen.

So you want the teacher to work later in the day to accommodate you?

*WFH

Is your child a boy or girl? I'm confused

Hahahahaha

I didn’t realise yours was only schedule that matters.

Yabvu.

If one of my class parents requested this I would compose a polite reply but would be internally screaming! Juggling timetables/workload etc is exhausting and that would tip me over the edge.

Get zoom on your phone so your dd can stay in touch as you walk/ drive home.

Your daughter/son (you’ve used her and his) will be getting more interaction at school than those children on the video call will though.

sorry I name changed and was vague on DC's sex as I'm a regular and don't want to be outed. Should have just said DC!

So is the teacher working the school day, and then doing a Zoom call afterwards to include all the children who are stuck at home?

If that is the case, then you are being unreasonable. You're asking her to make her working day longer just to accommodate your daughter who has a school place.

I think you just have to put this one down to hard luck unfortunately

YABVU to expect the teacher to work around you. Your child is getting to socialise with friends at school even if its not his/her closest friends unlike the majority of children who arent seeing anyone. If your that worried organise a phonecall with your children's friends yourself.

You hardly expect the schedule for everyone to change to accommodate your child who's already getting contact with other children in person and the teacher.

I have to drop my daughter to preschool when my son has his morning zoom registration. We do it on his scooter. I hold my phone towards him and he scoots and talks (or gets muted if needed!). I think you could suggest it as my sons school has a fed from the class room so the children in school are on at the same time. But be prepared that there's prob a reason for the teacher choosing that time.

But thanks - it seems the majority feel IABU so I won't ask. Just feel a bit sad for my 5YO DC who comes home from a school asking about missing friends.

I don't understand how the teacher could be zooming so that the class can see the other children if it done when the class children aren't there. Or is this done only for those who are staying at home?

I think you are being really cheeky. You want the whole routine amended just for you. As others have said put zoom on your phone for the journey home.