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AIBU?

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To ask the teacher to change the live call time

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namechangestory · 14/01/2021 16:02

DD is in reception and is attending school as we are both key workers (I WFH, DH goes out to work). There is only 3 others from his class and most of his friends are staying at home.

The class teacher is running a zoom call every day so the class can all see each other and listen to a story. The problem is it clashes with pick-up time so DD cannot join and she misses out on seeing her friends who all see each other on the video call every day.

AIBU to ask the teacher to change the time slightly so DD can attend? Push back by half an hour so we are home?

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PrivateHall · 14/01/2021 16:35

OP you are very lucky to be able to send your DC in to school, rather than feeling sad, I think you should be feeling bloody grateful! This teacher sounds like an absolute gem, just shows no matter what a teacher does, someone will complain. Dear love them. I have opted to send my DC to childcare rather than school as I personally don't feel they should be going to school unless there is absolutely no alternative and there are already over half the DC in their class attending. It means my DC misses out on live meets like this, but I don't feel sad; I feel bloody grateful that childcare is open this time round as last time was the most stressful period of my life.

Thank you so much teachers and childcare providers for taking some pressure off this very stressed NHS HCP!

Seriously op, get your priorities in order!

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:36

Lots of harsh replies on here but a lot of people seem to think KW across the board are getting some sort of magical rainbow ride of joy at the moment. I don’t think you should ask the teacher to change the time as it’s unfair but I do understand how seeing just two other kids that aren’t her/his friends could confuse and upset a 5 year old, some KW are in a bubble of one despite the widely held opinion on MN that every school is packed to the fecking rafters with kids 😂 Could you organise a zoom as parents for the kids to see each other at the weekend?

1AngelicFruitCake · 14/01/2021 16:36

I’m a key worker with my children at home. It’s rubbish for children at home so if they get something extra then great! Your child gets all day in school!

Orlania · 14/01/2021 16:36

Could she not do it in the car on your phone? If you're driving that is.

C8H10N4O2 · 14/01/2021 16:37

It's only those that are at home can join the call because of the time

Suggesting its targeted at the kids stuck at home to keep in touch with school/teacher.

If they made it a bit later then the critical worker kids could also see their friends online

Or, you could set up a call with your child's friends yourself instead of expecting someone to facilitate your child's relationships.

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:38

I’m pretty sure kids would rather keep in touch with their classmates rather than the teacher.

wifterwafter · 14/01/2021 16:38

Pick up DC after zoom call?

sundowners · 14/01/2021 16:39

Keyworker or not you are SO fortunate to have your kids in school right now. You appreciate that- right? You have no idea what the rest of us working parents are having to deal with right now. So if the time suits the poor souls being home-schooled right now- it is THOSE pupils that it should be based around, not your kids.

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:39

@Orlania

Could she not do it in the car on your phone? If you're driving that is.

👌

1AngelicFruitCake · 14/01/2021 16:39

@Fembot123

I really think it depends on the school. I’m a teacher and in the last lockdown it was tough on the key worker children but then it was only the children that had to be in that were going in. Now more people are sending them in I think it’s a more enjoyable experience (in some cases) for key worker children. It was hard for children at home last time as there was no guidance to schools whereas now schools are doing more to involve at home children.

1AngelicFruitCake · 14/01/2021 16:41

I say all this as a teacher in school everyday with my children at home with full time working parent, trying to juggle home learning as well as our jobs.

WombatChocolate · 14/01/2021 16:43

Isn’t the point that the children are not altogether at the moment. Those coming into school get the personal contact during the day and those at home don’t. It’s the ones at home who could do with a bit of social interaction.
So those on their way home don’t get to join in, but they have had time at school with other children.

The aim isn’t to have the whole class together or the time would be different. It’s not for those who were in school but those who weren’t. You can’t have both the homeschool provision and the in school provision.

The teacher is choosing to spend some time outside school hours so those at home get some social interaction. That’s nice. To include the whole class would involve it being later. Possibly some don’t get home until later than you and to include all, the teacher might have to wait an extra 45 mins or hour to do it.....you see how this becomes never ending.

A choice has been made for something to help those at home. Your child isn’t at home so this provision isn’t for them and you shouldn’t try to have it adjusted so it includes them. It’s fine for your child to be a bit sad not to see their whole class....it’s part of Covid and they will be fine. Stop trying to have everything adjusted for your benefit which is essentially what this is about.

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:43

@1AngelicFruitCake, it does but if you read the squillion other threads of this ilk you’ll see that the consensus is that it’s every school and ‘everyone is a Keyworker’ I work at a secondary and have to go in look after the students as the teachers are teaching online so my son has to go in and there are 4 of them in his bubble but other bubbles are empty or have 1 child in them.

CremeEggThief · 14/01/2021 16:43

Well you can ask.
The whole school will be rolling their eyes and pissing themselves laughing at you though.

As am I, as a former Early Years teacher.🙄

WombatChocolate · 14/01/2021 16:44

And yes, you organise an online social gathering for the children if you want to. That’s fine.

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:45

@1AngelicFruitCake

I say all this as a teacher in school everyday with my children at home with full time working parent, trying to juggle home learning as well as our jobs.

And I say what I say with my DS in school and my senior school kids at home alone.

Fembot123 · 14/01/2021 16:46

@WombatChocolate

And yes, you organise an online social gathering for the children if you want to. That’s fine.

I think this is definitely the way to go, although it will be horrific for her ears 😁

GrumblyMumblyisnotJumbly · 14/01/2021 16:46

You are probably not missing much on a joint call - if your DC has a few friends in the class a one to one or small group facetime to say hello would probably work better

Dixiechickonhols · 14/01/2021 16:46

Pick up 2.30 or whatever to be home by 3pm?
Sounds like timed to be done once minded kids leave. Is it more a checking kids have done work and they know your child will have as been with them.

Littlepaws18 · 14/01/2021 16:47

Sadly there is a lot more organisation than just moving it 30 minutes. As a teacher myself I have no chance in changing the time of a lesson as it impacts other lessons, other year groups etc. Although this is primary this session will not be the only thing she is expected to run.

ParisJeTAime · 14/01/2021 16:47

Tbh, I hate it when the teacher tells my DC all about the kids in school and what they've been up to. It makes her sad as, although she gets why she can't go in while quite a few others can, it isn't very fun for her. So maybe it's deliberate. Sorry your dd is missing her buddies, but do you spare a thought for kids who see not one other classmate AT ALL at the moment? Worse still if they are only children and see no other children.

YABU.

pcmcgregor · 14/01/2021 16:48

YABVU sending your child to school when you are at home

crazyunicornlady73 · 14/01/2021 16:48

@namechangestory

But thanks - it seems the majority feel IABU so I won't ask. Just feel a bit sad for my 5YO DC who comes home from a school asking about missing friends.

Why don't you collect her a bit earlier or at lunchtime once or twice a week? That could work?

May09Bump · 14/01/2021 16:48

We wouldn't agree to it being moved out, but not sure why it couldn't be done within the school day with so little children in. Often, we have in class children popping into our zoom but would not be happy at them extending the day, as its demanding enough WFH, teaching, etc. So if the teacher as me as the other parent I would say no.

Thurlow · 14/01/2021 16:48

I'm not convinced YABU despite all the other responses. Why is the teacher running a class activity every day outside class time and at a point where those in school can't participate?

I'm going to say YANBU, unless I've read the OP wrong.

It seems a bit odd that the school/teacher have arranged a whole class call at the exact time that school ends and so one child is left out. If the call happened when she was in school, would she be able to join? Our school is arranging the weekly live chat during school hours, so the handful of children in school can join in as well from the ICT room.

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