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Original poster

To stay in the bedroom when DSC come?

43 replies

L62L9 · 14/01/2021 09:49

I'm not well. I have swollen glands, an upset stomach and feel really sick.

Them not coming isn't an option as he's already confirmed with their mum but I just can't find the strength or motivation to join in today.

WIBU to shut myself in the bedroom and leave it all to DH?

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pinkyredrose · 14/01/2021 09:51

YANBU. You're ill, you need to rest.

SADWinter · 14/01/2021 09:51

Obviously keep away as you don’t want to spread this around.

Is the relationship between you and his DC a good one?

FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken · 14/01/2021 09:53

Not to try and worry you but an upset stomach is often the first sign of corona in adults. Would he still want them there if you were coming down with it?

Original poster
L62L9 · 14/01/2021 09:53

Is the relationship between you and his DC a good one?

Yes we're very close, they seem to like spending time with me as much as they do DH.

I feel guilty for checking out today but I just feel so rough.

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YourHandInMyHand · 14/01/2021 09:53

Of course you're not being unreasonable. You're ill. Staying in bed is the sensible thing to do.

JamieLeesCurtains · 14/01/2021 09:54

If you've got a bug or virus, you don't want to be passing that on to the children.

Do you normally have to help your DP 'manage' his own DC?

Original poster
L62L9 · 14/01/2021 09:54

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

Not to try and worry you but an upset stomach is often the first sign of corona in adults. Would he still want them there if you were coming down with it?
I had the old strain last July, could I get it again so soon? Covid never crossed my mind to be honest. I feel totally different with whatever this is.
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NoSquirrels · 14/01/2021 09:55

You’re not well! Of course you should stay in bed. If they were your own children you should stay in bed. Rest up Flowers

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 09:56

@JamieLeesCurtains

If you've got a bug or virus, you don't want to be passing that on to the children.

Do you normally have to help your DP 'manage' his own DC?

I do yes, they're very boisterous.

One of us usually cooks whilst the other entertains them (and ours)

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1stTimeMama · 14/01/2021 09:57

Nausea and vomiting is also a symptom of the new strain. My Mum was taken to hospital last week, and as this was something she was suffering with the paramedics had to test her. Thankfully, she didn't have it.

billybagpuss · 14/01/2021 09:58

Pop your head around the door, say hi and then disappear back to bed, get DP to order something in for lunch and yes it might be worth getting a test.

LakieLady · 14/01/2021 09:59

I had the old strain last July, could I get it again so soon? Covid never crossed my mind to be honest. I feel totally different with whatever this is

There's just been some expert on the news saying that there have been cases of people getting it again as little as 5 months after testing positive the first time.

I'm afraid I missed the beginning, so I don't know if the second illness was the new variant or not.

ElspethFlashman · 14/01/2021 10:02

Definitely say hi to them, it'd be so rude if you didn't.

But say VERY clearly "Hi guys. I'm really sick today so I'll be spending the day in bed, see you later".

JamieLeesCurtains · 14/01/2021 10:03

@billybagpuss

Pop your head around the door, say hi and then disappear back to bed, get DP to order something in for lunch and yes it might be worth getting a test.
Yeah, I'd maybe compromise and order in pizza for everyone if you have the spare money.
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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 10:10

We could definitely order pizza in, that takes away half of the work. Good idea.

Crikey I had better see if I can get a test then, had it not been mentioned here I wouldn't have suspected covid at all.

I've been banking on having a degree of immunity post infection but in the absence of a positive antibody test I could be just as susceptible as anybody.

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billybagpuss · 14/01/2021 10:11

Also maybe let the mum know you’re getting a test, if she’s a reasonable sort you could postpone them until you know for sure.

Original poster
L62L9 · 14/01/2021 10:12

To add to matters it's my little DS' birthday today Sad

I dragged myself up to watch him open presents but I couldn't manage a whole day with everybody.

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billybagpuss · 14/01/2021 10:14

Aww, happy lockdown birthday to him, I think Easter needs to be the best time for everyone this year, hopefully better weather and allowed to mix.

MrsLuciferMorningstar · 14/01/2021 10:15

I would stay in my bedroom if it was my own son if I was that ill. No different if it was the step-kids.

Phoenix21 · 14/01/2021 10:19

My neighbour had symptoms akin to morning sickness tested positive a few days later.

Take care of yourself.

Phoenix21 · 14/01/2021 10:20

Positive for Covid I mean!

AlternativePerspective · 14/01/2021 10:27

Yanbu to stay out of the way but try not to panic.

It’s almost an automatic assumption to jump to COVID in the current climate, but bear in mind there are plenty of other bugs doing the rounds at this time of year, it is far more likely to be one of those, esp if you’ve already had COVID. Yes there are always exceptions but it’s really not the norm to get it twice, in fact they have said today that you retain at least 83% immunity for five months after developing antibodies, and it stands to reason that while that immunity will tail off, it won’t just disappear overnight.

So get a test if it helps, but don’t worry too much.

Hortuslover · 14/01/2021 10:43

I started with feeling sick last week and subsequently couldn’t get off the toilet, tested positive the morning after. Hope you feel better soon op.

Maxiedog123 · 14/01/2021 11:14

Whatever you've got you wouldn't want to pass it on to the stepkids, so you really ought to keep away from them

kittylion2 · 14/01/2021 11:17

My parents and I had it last April and all of us started with nausea and diarrhoea. I think it's less likely that it's Covid if you have already had it although it wouldn't hurt to get a test if you can - and yes, I think you should keep away from all the children.