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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To stay in the bedroom when DSC come?

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 09:49

I'm not well. I have swollen glands, an upset stomach and feel really sick.

Them not coming isn't an option as he's already confirmed with their mum but I just can't find the strength or motivation to join in today.

WIBU to shut myself in the bedroom and leave it all to DH?

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GoodLordyPete · 14/01/2021 11:26

@AlternativePerspective

Yanbu to stay out of the way but try not to panic.

It’s almost an automatic assumption to jump to COVID in the current climate, but bear in mind there are plenty of other bugs doing the rounds at this time of year, it is far more likely to be one of those, esp if you’ve already had COVID. Yes there are always exceptions but it’s really not the norm to get it twice, in fact they have said today that you retain at least 83% immunity for five months after developing antibodies, and it stands to reason that while that immunity will tail off, it won’t just disappear overnight.

So get a test if it helps, but don’t worry too much.

Agree with this. Everyone and his dog will tell you it's Covid no matter what symptoms you have at the moment. I appreciate the advice of get a test if you're worried but as PP said, there are lots of other bugs going round just like there are every other winter and it is more likely to be one of those. It's the time of year for it unfortunately. I've had plenty of colds, even a chest infection and cough recently (tested negative). There are still other things going about so try not to get into a panic and condemn yourself to 100% having CV.

Definitely keep away from DSC, not just for their sakes hopefully not catching whatever you have but for your own! Let your DH deal with the kids today, theres nothing wrong with that. You also don't need to 'compromise' and start ordering pizzas for everyone etc... You're ill. Leave it to him, it he wants to order pizza I'm sure he's capable of doing so, just forget about everything and rest up!

Aimee1987 · 14/01/2021 11:51

I've done this today. I have a kidney infection and feel exhausted. DPs looking after DS and DSS. Any parent should have the right to retreat when there not well as long theres another parent to take up the slack.
Hope you feel better soon.

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 12:20

I'm pretty sure it's not covid but if I get any of the common symptoms I'll get a test.

Whatever it is has triggered indigestion so I have that ghastly bile too. Yuck.

I'm going to do my best to rest up in bed with a book but I guarantee I'll have to get up at some point when they run riot.

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 12:21

Sorry to hear that Aimee, I hope you feel better soon too x

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PenguinUnit · 14/01/2021 12:22

I'll have to get up at some point when they run riot

Why? Is your husband incapable of parenting for one day?

VinylDetective · 14/01/2021 12:22

Stay in bed and get well. Hope you soon feel better. 💐

Lotsalotsagiggles · 14/01/2021 12:24

Stay in bed

Order pizza for the kids

And can always face time them to say hi too!

Have a bath May help xx

HeadIsFucked · 14/01/2021 12:25

YANBU at all. I would think the kids would agree too if it was up to them really. Noone wants to catch an illness.

I kind of quarantine myself whenever possible from my own if I have something nasty. DH does the same (though often, we both fall at the same time with the same thing, so its not possible, in which case it gets the kids too). Until reading MN threads, I thought this would be really common actually, as it makes so much sense. This one seems pretty unanimous..possibly due to covid so people care more, but have seen previously people being blasted for 'hiding' from their kids with a stomach bug, stuff like that.

PenguinUnit · 14/01/2021 12:28

Your husband should order any pizzas needed for the kids.

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 12:29

Why? Is your husband incapable of parenting for one day?

Not totally incapable but struggles with them all if he's on his own. One of ours and one of his are quite unruly

Last time I was supposed to be resting up I ended up having to get up and intervene with the cooking as it was pandemonium.

Hopefully the pizza takeaway will go some way to lessening the load.

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HeadIsFucked · 14/01/2021 12:30

There's just been some expert on the news saying that there have been cases of people getting it again as little as 5 months after testing positive the first time.

Some appear to have caught it twice. It seems like a bit of a chickenpox situation though, where a select few will be unlucky, but most don't. Or that was the consensus of last reading I did on the topic anyway..antibodies do indeed fade quite quickly, but its T Cell response thats important, not antibodies.

If theres been more stuff said about that, I might have missed it, but been trying to keep up with it all as much as possible as I had covid early last year..so been watching kind of out of curiousity to see if I could potentially fall again.

I think a massive part of the covid issue is, every cold/flu symptom (and even symptoms of stomach bugs) is also a covid symptom. So now many who would have just written it off as a cold will panic and think covid. My poor neighbour had herself so stressed when she got a cough and a runny nose. Shes really elderly and frail too. Luckily test was negative, but she scared the shit out of herself for a day or so first..poor woman.

PenguinUnit · 14/01/2021 12:31

He really should be able to cope for one evening whilst you're ill... 🤦

GypsyLee · 14/01/2021 12:32

I'll have to get up at some point when they run riot

Your dh will make sure all his children don't run riot, as he's their father and in sole charge whilst you are ill in bed.
He'll bring your food upstairs, and keep the children away from you.
All you need to do is rest and look forward to a healthy meal, not pizza.

TheVanguardSix · 14/01/2021 12:33

Oh you poor soul! Isolate.
DH's only symptoms for 5 days were vomitting and diarrhoea, after day 2 came the whole body pain. Then came the classic symptoms. DH got the entire party bag, god love him. He suffered. I am not saying you will, OP. Not at all. But with those symptoms, I wouldn't delay testing. You can do it at home.
www.gov.uk/get-coronavirus-test

twobrews · 14/01/2021 12:36

I had the old strain last July, could I get it again so soon? Covid never crossed my mind to be honest. I feel totally different with whatever this is

DD's friend has tested positive twice since he started working in the test centre in August.

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L62L9 · 14/01/2021 12:51

Really sorry to hear your DH has been through a crap time of it Vanguard, I hope he's ok now.

DD's friend has tested positive twice since he started working in the test centre in August

Do you know how far apart the tests were? I heard that you shouldn't retest within three months as you could still test positive because of the original infection

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romany4 · 14/01/2021 12:55

I had vomiting and diarrhoea with the old strain last March.
Take care

Twobrews · 15/01/2021 00:11

Do you know how far apart the tests were? I heard that you shouldn't retest within three months as you could still test positive because of the original infection

First positive was September/October, he tested positive again last week but has had negative tests between due to working in the test centre.

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