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To be a bit shook up about this?

122 replies

AriesTheRam · 11/01/2021 09:52

Walked ds to school (keyworker) and decided to walk up to the local supermarket about 1.5 miles away.Im wanting to lose a bit of Xmas weight and I really enjoy walking.Noticed a black SUV passing which then reversed to come onto the road I was on, Man asked if I was going to supermarket or new build estate and did I want a lift? I said no,he then asked again.He drove off but now I feel a bit nervous out and about.Things like that aren't common where I live and I don't know any man who would offer a stranger a lift.Would you be suspicious or just think he was a chancer trying to chat up a woman?

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Ellmau · 11/01/2021 12:00

Very creepy - you were quite right to report it OP.

notalwaysalondoner · 11/01/2021 12:01

I once thought about giving a very old man a lift in torrential rain, but as with anything you have to balance how it will appear to the person you're asking. This guy does sound creepy.

AfterSchoolWorry · 11/01/2021 12:01

@contrmary

Might have just been being nice.
I doubt it!
LegoVsFoot · 11/01/2021 12:04

No that's creepy - especially when he asked twice when you said no. Like others have said I would report it - he'll most likely try with someone else. Who asks a stranger multiple times where they're going and if they want a lift.

Mmn654123 · 11/01/2021 12:06

When I was 18 I had just moved to London and a car slowed beside me like this - driver offered me a lift and I realised it was my landlord (had only met him once - along with his lovely heavily pregnant wife). Stupidly I thought that meant he wasn't a stranger. So I got in the car.

Notnownotneverever · 11/01/2021 12:10

I think things like this are probably worth reporting to 101 as a non urgent issue. If say 5 people reporting this in a week then some police would possibly be sent to patrol the area. If no one reports it then the police would not know to patrol in that area and the outcome could be different.

ultrablue · 11/01/2021 12:14

Definitely report to the police and also any nearby schools too, you can't be too careful with people like this.

NoSauce · 11/01/2021 12:18

We’re in lockdown! Offering women you don’t know a lift is definitely not being “nice”.

AzraiL · 11/01/2021 12:20

Report it. Men who have their head glued on straight don't offer lone women lifts 'to be nice'.

Creamcrackersandricecakes · 11/01/2021 12:21

There seems to be a lot of this going on at the moment - in our local area, (west Kent), a guy has been kerb crawling and trying to get women and girls to get into his car 'for a chat'. Same description every time, but no one's got his number plate yet. Police are very interested and have put alerts on social media, so you're definitely not overreacting to report this. Dirty fuckers need locking up.

j712adrian · 11/01/2021 12:22

very creepy

Scarby9 · 11/01/2021 12:22

Highly suspicious, especially during lockdown when we should not be car sharing unless in emergency situations.

I have offered strangers lifts in the past (pre-Covid) in bad weather when I could see they were struggling or I know the bus was late but only elderly women ( I am also female).

Decades ago, when I was a young teenager, my mum and I were waiting at our local bus stop in the pouring rain when a black Mercedes pulled up and the lone middle-aged man driver offered us a lift. My mum accepted with thanks. She got in the front and I got in the back and we drove off.

I thought it was odd that she didn't introduce me but had been well trained not to ask (dad in a job that required lots of socialising and appropriate manners from the whole family) so I spent the journey appreciating the poshest car I had ever been in.

When he dropped us off in town, my mum's first words as he drove off with a wave were, 'Did you recognise him? Who was he?!?'

Turned out she thought he was someone she knew as she peered into the car through the rain and accepted the lift, but realised once in the car that she had absolutely no idea who he was. She had spent the whole journey panicking that she had led me into an abduction situation while I was happily sniffing the leather seats. Her one faint consolation was a Catholic missal she could see in a pocket under the dashboard.

It was a good month later that someone my mum volunteered with asked if we had managed to dry out after her husband had given the 'two drowned rats' a lift that day. He had recognised her and was just doing a good turn.

Tempusfudgeit · 11/01/2021 12:26

I gave a lift to a man who had run out of petrol and was walking the 2-3 miles to the nearest garage with a petrol can. It was a blistering 30+ degrees and I felt concern for him. I waited while he got it then took him back to his car. Didn't cross my mind I would be at risk, it was just a good turn. Each situation needs to be weighed up for potential danger.

Carolofthebellies · 11/01/2021 12:27

He could be sexual predator or worse.

mummax3 · 11/01/2021 12:29

Very odd, similar happened to me although I was walking my dog, he just kept appearing on different roads, you did the right thing xx

ilikemethewayiam · 11/01/2021 12:31

This has happened to me in the past. No nice man would offer a woman they don’t know a lift and especially not at the moment. Keep your phone handy and take a photo of the car and number plate if you can do so safely. The fact that he has a unique private number plate shows how bold he is. Report to the police.

Crunchymum · 11/01/2021 12:33

I am not one to overreact but I think this needs to be logged (and in all my years here I have only ever said that ironically !!!)

m0therofdragons · 11/01/2021 12:41

Why are you using a critical worker space if you’re walking to the supermarket? I’m assuming you’re working later in the day? Round here I’d just think it’s someone being friendly but I’d definitely decline and not really think any more of it.

TwentyTwentyOne · 11/01/2021 12:45

If he asked you, chances are he is asking others too and it is only a matter of time before one of them gets in his car and his intentions won't be good.

You will be doing other girls and women a favour if you report it.

Sometimes I wish these sleeves would try this out on me so I can rip their fucking head off and take photos of their car and cause them loads of aggro so hey wouldn't do it again. However, I am over 50 and they know it is younger women, many of whom have not realised what sleazes some men are, and whom are still in the polite, people pleaser zone, so they women people like me.

CherryBlossomTree7 · 11/01/2021 12:46

That would shake me up too.

Very strange to offer a stranger a lift unless the person walking wasn't well or there was severe weather conditions.

You should definitely report it.

Moltenpink · 11/01/2021 12:49

This happened to me a while ago, I just don’t buy it that a man doesn’t know how unnerving it is for a single woman to be in that situation. No one is that naive and I could tell by the expression on the man’s face that he was loving how uncomfortable he made me. Total power trip.

Fembot123 · 11/01/2021 12:54

I had that when I was younger, I was rushing to the train station and a man stopped and offered me a lift, when I declined he tutted and turned the car round and screeched off in the opposite direction!

nitsandwormsdodger · 11/01/2021 12:57

Definitely you did correct thing reporting it
Only a v odd person would ask a strange woman into their car

Carysmatthews · 11/01/2021 12:58

Please report this to your local Police. He could have done it before and could also do it to a child. Glad you’re ok.

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 11/01/2021 12:59

I will always remember going for a routine blood test when I was pg 7 years ago . The bus stop had moved so I asked the receptionist on the way out where to catch the bus now.
An older man heard me and followed me to the door and said he could give me a lift ..I didnt have far to go and the weather was fine ( citing those reasons to him to politely refuse). He was very insistent but I stood my ground
He even drove past the bus stop and asked me again, by this time I was worried as my belly was huge and didnt think I could run if I had to !
Any way I never forgot that and to this day something tells me it was a lucky escape

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