AIBU To quit uni?

[ClearlyFromTheBack]

Name changed because it's so outing, I don't want it linked to my other threads.

I'm a mature student, year three at uni but nothing handed in yet, 5 kids between myself and my partner now obviously all at home (two with SN and one with a life threatening medical condition that could hospitalise her any moment), and my partner and I run a business.

I'm just broken, and so stressed that I can't do anything well.

Last year, the uni gave us a safety net for our grades, this year we have nothing, they put me on a support plan when the kids were home and some of my deadlines were extended by as much as two months.

This year, we've had next to nothing in terms of teaching (not the lecturers fault at all!) and even then, I struggle without face to face, have no safety net, and although I've got a couple of standard extension it's just not enough. I have a 3500 word assignment due in tomorrow which just isn't ready, another 5000 on the 21st, and another 3000 on the 25th. The kids need huge amounts of attention, we can't afford to spend any less time on the business or we'll risk losing everything.

I'm going to email uni again when the kids have finished breakfast, and start working again, but I just don't see how I can get through this. AIBU to just give up now and maybe redo my third year next year or the year after?

I think it would be foolish to quit in your final year. Ask for extensions, remember they WANT you to pass. Also can you not bang out 3500 words ina day? It’s not a lot really. It doesn’t have to be ground breaking it just has to get done.

You definitely need to talk to them. Depending on the uni another option might be to switch to part time- that way you could reduce the amount of modules you take this term and spread it all out a bit.

They do have to take your circumstances account and generally they are very supportive, especially if students who were doing well until extenuating circumstances hit.

In the mean time I hope you are doing ok. Try to remember that things will be sorted and this time will pass.

I would also caution a bit about giving up your own independent career to put all into your DPs business. Even the best of relationships can go wrong and you don't want to put all your efforts into building something and then be left high and dry if the relationship breaks down.

I wouldn't quit either and agree with @GreenlandTheMovie - I know it sounds trite but if you can type a post you could be typing something towards your 3500 words instead.

The reality is you can't take a gift year (or whatever it's called) as you'd started a degree previously.

Honestly, when / where are you going to find £9k to redo it?

Head down and concentrate 💪

Back yourself. Don't panic. Don't give up.

Very few people who actually complete their assignments fail degrees.

Most people do better that they expected.

My daughter is at uni at struggling because of the lack of teaching and support. So you are not alone. Most of your fellow students/ competitors are struggling too. Keep your nerve and you will almost certainly be fine. Just don't worry. Whatever happens, It isn't the end of the world. Good luck.

OP can I ask why you didn't do the social work undergraduate degree? What degree are you doing at the moment which means you have to do the two year social work masters afterwards? You added an extra two years onto your student life.

I hope you read this, but I'm sure like me you went back into education as a single mum so you can provide for your children independently. I too met a partner while at university, however I hope you don't give up your career to rely solely on the kindness of a man.