DP is staying with me at present.
I’m finding him too attentive. We’re sat on the sofa various shite on the telly, I’m doing bits and bobs on my phone and iPad, etc.
He’s just constantly at me like “are you okay?”, “you look sad?”, “you seem a bit distracted”, “can I do anything for you?”, “how’s your insert ailment?”, “is your coffee okay?”.
God, it’s exhausting. I feel like I can’t just sit here with my resting bitch face and doom-scroll without having to appraise my emotional and physical state every 30 seconds.
This all sounds benign enough.
But there is a something that always makes me a bit more uncomfortable. He seems to unnecessarily concern himself with my concentration on whatever is on the TV at the time. In my peripheral vision I see his head swing in my direction to check if I’m paying it my full attention, particularly if I’ve been on my phone a little while. And occasionally he’ll try to catch me out by going “OMG, did you see that?!” at what he perceives to be a significant scene, and when I’m like “oh, I didn’t see it, what happened?”, he’ll get all huffy and make a show of rewinding even though I couldn’t give two shits.
I just feel so surveilled all the time, during what should be my down time. Is this normal?
It’s obviously nice to have a partner concerned with my well-being, as I’ve had one too far the opposite way and that was awful, but this is quite suffocating.