Failed dry January already

[BertyBotts]

My goal for this year was to get in shape and lose weight. I started off really well, eating better and exercising most days last week. Also decided to do dry January after drinking so much over Christmas.

Last night I caved in. Not sure why, probably lockdown stress and the simple fact it was the weekend. Opened a bottle of wine and ended up finishing it. Today I feel rotten. I've got headache and all I want to do is eat shit and be lazy. I've said it before but I really think I want to cut alcohol out altogether, it does nothing but make me feel rubbish and prevents me from achieving my goals.

Why oh why do I allow this to happen? Anyone else failed already?

Don't beat yourself up. If you want to do dry Jan then carry on from today.
I'm a bit the same, but if you're determined you'll get there eventually.
Read some sober lit and join some sober groups on fb, I find it all really helpful.
Back on the horse eh!

I can understand you having a drink . It has been a stressful January so far but you drank the whole bottle by yourself??

In my staff meeting last week, the head of department said she'd started dry January on the 1st, and finished it on the second!

I felt all smug until yesterday evening when I downed a bottle of wine in 2 hours. I feel like crap this morning!

I haven't left the house in 5 days and have done 0 exercise despite putting my gym clothes on every morning (cover with a shirt for zooms). I've probably walked about 400 steps a day between laptop, kitchen and loo. So you're doing better than me!

I've been taking really good care of my skin though so I'm taking that as a win.

I'll try again next week! I swear!

I don’t think this is the year to do dry jan. Personally I allow myself a few glasses Friday and Saturday as I have to differentiate weekdays and weekend somehow

I decided to do a 'less' January, I think it might be more achievable and not lead to bingeing.
Quite often moderation becomes a virtuous thing as you begin to feel/look better and then gradually consume less as a natural result.

@squeezeapples Clutches pearls. A whole bottle of wine.....

I think with work and homeschool us just about impossible to do dry jan this year.
I’ve heard really good things about an Allen carr book/audiobook on how to stop drinking. Might be worth a try

This is definitely not a good year to do Dry January. Doesn't mean you shouldn't try it, but it really means that more than ever, you shouldn't beat yourself up if you have a lapse. Look at it this way: You've had more non-drinking days than you've had for a while. That's a win. You can start over if you want to and get some more non-drinking days. But only if you want to and think it would benefit you.

I do Dry January every year - this is my 6th. I don't drink a lot, a bottle of wine would fell me completely, but even so I'm feeling tempted in a way that I'm usually not. Its a toughie and nobody should blame themselves for not managing it this year.

Don't beat yourself up. You did over a week with no booze, and you can get straight back on the pony.

I really fancied a drink after a shit day at work and confess that I only managed to avoid it because i got a phone call that distracted me - went for a walk while I was on the phone and I think that helped. What could you distract yourself with next time?

I've not failed Dry January yet, but I did eat most of a packet of chocolate buttons and most of a box of Matchmakers last night.

I'm supposed to be losing weight.

You are not alone.

It’s just a blip, you can get back on track, you’ve still cut down massively already. I try and find jobs to do and avoid sitting in front of the TV.
Not meaning to sound holier than thou- it’s a big trigger for me if I do that.

@notinthiseconomy

I've not failed Dry January yet, but I did eat most of a packet of chocolate buttons and most of a box of Matchmakers last night.

I'm supposed to be losing weight.

You are not alone.

I can’t do both and prioritised giving up the booze. Only so much a human can do

[quote MakeMineALarge1]@squeezeapples Clutches pearls. A whole bottle of wine.....[/quote]
That's a lot, it's not being a pearl clutching to comment.

Not really helpful or supportive though either is it?

But it wasn't about that.

Read Craig Beck alcohol lied to me, its £4 for kindle version.
I was drinking loads before, gradually creeping up and up over the last lockdown, I have no off switch so would often end up in a state, falling over, sick, feeling like death the next day.
I looked awful too, I'm the heaviest ive ever been.
I stopped drinking on boxing day and honestly I've not even wanted a drink.
I dont know how it works but its worked for me.
My skin is better already, my face is less puffy, not noticed any weight loss yet but im sure it will happen.
Best of all no hangovers or wasted days.

Just drink less
I think a lot of wine got opened last night
And
Tonight , back to trying to drink less
And maybe some fresh air and exercise today
Onwards
I also regret my wine last night

@Somebodyotherthanme

But it wasn't about that.

What’s it about then? Why do people post that and nothing else? I am sure op knows it’s a lot, I think a few of us on the thread would drink a bottle. It’s a pointless and judgement loaded comment which isn’t going to add to the thread.

Me too OP. Been exercising every night, running or yoga and no alcohol. Cracked last night when I get in from v busy week at work. Forcing myself to get my chores done then off for a long walk in the park. Don't give up giving up

DH and I are doing a dry spell. Last night I very nearly cracked as I was cooking dinner. DH just said no and that’s a massive deal because he’s a pretty heavy drinker. So I cracked on and pretty soon it passed.

By bedtime I was so pleased he’d stopped me. Do you have a buddy who can help you along?

And don’t feel bad. Just human and flawed like the rest of us.

Thanks all.

A full bottle over the course of a night doesn't feel a lot to me. It's 3 large glasses over several hours. It's pretty standard for me to be honest I did plan to only have 1-2 glasses last night but unfortunately I got carried away and thought if I left the bottle half empty I'd only drink it today anyway, might as well get it out the way

What annoys me is how it affects me the next day. There's no chance I'll exercise now and I'll do well not to reach for all of the carbs and chocolate!

I do agree now isn't the best time though, we do need something to differentiate between the weekdays and weekend. Just without the horrendous hangover the next day.

I think we might be at crossed purposes here and I'm not getting bogged down in explaining myself.
OP is evidently not alone, were all struggling.
She's had good advice, don't beat yourself up, try again or cut down and take it from there..

We are getting a takeaway to mark the weekend, it’s getting desperate here. I didn’t know what else to do.

Fair enough @Somebodyotherthanme

@notinthiseconomy

I've not failed Dry January yet, but I did eat most of a packet of chocolate buttons and most of a box of Matchmakers last night.

I'm supposed to be losing weight.

You are not alone.

Same

Not exactly the same...that would be weird

But ive been worse with food than I intended to be 😀

I think cutting down on the booze is the important thing, especially if you can be ‘good’ from now on

I remember talking to ds2 and he said that i drank a whole bottle of wine in one day, i said no i didnt, ive never done that,

And then he pointed out that have a glass or two of wine on Saturday at 9ish and finishing on sunday by 8ish was 24 hours....git