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Angry with my partner

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SnacksRLife · 09/01/2021 04:00

Hi, first post on here. :)

Due in May, all going okay so far, but....

My partner likes a drink at home, not all the time or every night, mainly at weekends. Sometimes he goes a bit too far at home and gets drunk enough to do stupid sh*t, throw up or trip over stuff. As someone who rarely drinks anyway, and obviously now not at all, it annoys me a bit, but hey ho.

As I’ve got further along, I’ve said to him a few times that he’s gonna have to stop the going to far while I’m pregnant and once baby is here, because I can’t pick him up or help him if he needed it. He generally doesn’t, but I didn’t want to be put in the situation full stop.

Anyway, last night/this morning he went too far again and got very drunk. He tends to listen to music in bed, using headphones but it is loud, and dancing a bit, so it doesn’t really let me sleep properly. I was woken up at half 3 by him leaping out of bed, falling over in the bedroom, getting himself up, to the bathroom and violently throwing up for about 10 minutes. He then returned to bed, leaving some small bits of not nice mess on the bathroom floor, to have another mouthful of whatever he was drinking and continue to listen to music for another half hour to so before essentially passing out in bed.

He generally apologises to me for whatever he does in the morning anyway, but this time it has angered me more than normal, because I feel like he’s putting himself in needless harms way, and not listening to me in the process.

I’m not trying to stop him having a drink at all, just going too far with it.

OP posts:
WhereDoMyBluebirdsFly · 09/01/2021 14:00

He is an alcoholic. He drinks to the point of vomiting when he's at home drinking alone. That is a serious problem.

You are having a baby. They are so fragile, do you really want some drunken idiot falling around the house and vomiting around your precious newborn? What if he tries to drunkenly pick the baby up in the night?

Honestly, I don't understand why you're being so calm about this. He sounds like an absolute nightmare and I wouldn't want him in the house.

MinnieJackson · 09/01/2021 18:41

Are you ok @SnacksRLife?

nimbuscloud · 09/01/2021 18:49

Poor you
And your child
Hopefully he will get help and moderate his alcohol consumption before it seriously impacts your life.

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