A couple of years ago things reached an ultimate low with DH where he barely spoke to me for an entire year and was talking about leaving. Whilst he was making things unbearable for me at home, had made a new friend through taking our DD to nursery. He became very invested, liking fb posts, joining groups that he knew this woman was in, etc. It was quite frankly awful and I'm in no doubt whatsoever that this would be classed as an emotional affair. At the time I was oblivious as I was so tired up with keeping my family together.
The following year things started to get better but now DH wanted me to make friends with this person. Wanted me to start inviting them out with us and subsequently they asked me for a lot of childcare help.
After I had gone to all this effort to be kind, regardless of how i felt about the situation, by September this person went back to acting like I didn't exist and I told DH that I didn't want anything more to do with her as she had used me.
Since then, everything is the best it's been in years with DH. He never mentioned her again. We no longer talk about her and she no longer consumes our lives and arguments. Things are fantastic. I knew there wasnt something quite right with her and could have said 'I told you so' to DH but I didn't.
Until today, she popped up asking for another favour and I could feel myself fill with dread. I couldn't bear the thought of opening that can of worms again.
Will I ever be able to get over this? I still have to see her all the time. DH seems to have just forgotten about the whole thing and moved on but I can't....