To be annoyed at grown ups siblings

[screamingchild]

Because they are still living 'at home' with both sets of grandparents at the ages of 34, 35 and 37 and going out to work, seeing gf/bf so we can't form a support childcare bubble with either sets. If my parents lived alone, then we'd form a support bubble with them as we can stay isolated and so could they but we can't because there are grown up children still living at home!!!! Annoyed.

But she doesn't want to break the rules? That's why she's pissed off with the grown up siblings. Nearly 40 years old and living with parents still is ridiculous IMO. And for those saying she can form a support bubble, are you deliberately missing the fact the adult siblings are meeting with others outside the house? Op isn't willing to take the risk of forming a bubble when there's a chance of one of the siblings carrying the virus in to the house.

Op you can meet one other person to exercise so the socially distanced walk sounds like a good plan for now.

Form a childcare bubble with them. Stop trying to control other people' living arrangements to suit your own ends.

@VodselForDinner

So you want your parents and siblings to not live together (a situation that I’d imagine suits all parties) so you can have free childcare?

Cheeky fuckery is alive and well.

😂

I thought the same.

This reminds me of when my brother told me (pre covid) that it was only fair that I stopped using my Mum for childcare while I worked (15 hour shifts 3-4 days per week) as she couldn't have his DC as often as he wanted.
I would have agreed only I was a single parent working full time, and there's no childcare that runs for the hours I needed. My mum very rarely had them extra days/nights so I could go anywhere. He's married with a SAH wife, so they only 'needed' childcare to facilitate a social life, which she did occasionally. About the same amount as she had my dc for socialising reasons.

Nearly 40 years old and living with parents still is ridiculous IMO

Posting shite like that is ridiculous IMO

This has got to be a wind up, nobody would be so self-centred as to that so they could get free childcare themselves... would they?

This is ridiculous. Whole households of adults who have freely chosen to Iive together (with all the advantages and disadvantages that brings) are being selfish for blocking the OP's D.C. from the occasional visit to the GP.

This situation is shit. It's shit for all of us. It's shit for me who hasn't seen my sister or my autistic niece for over a year. It's shit for my mum who lives on her own and is too deaf for phone calls. It's shit for my DH who took his 93 yo mum who suffers with dementia to live in a care home last Thursday. Because of CoVid restrictions we weren't able to visit the home beforehand and he wasn't able to enter the home to help settle her in and god alone knows when he will see her again.

Those of us who respect the rules are all missing people. It's no-ones fault (although this government hasn't helped). It's an international crisis FGS. Carping at other people because their legitimate life choices have inconvenienced you is petty.

so you're mad that the siblings see their parents meaning you can'y use them for childcare, when you'd prefer to use them for childcare and them not see them?

You said your siblings’ kids live there too. So if you got your wish and they all moved out and you formed a bubble, where would that leave your nieces/nephews? Unable to see the grandparents, just like you are now. But that’s fine is it, as long as YOUR kids get what you want?

Millions of people are missing loved ones and unable to see them. Them’s the breaks, why do you think your kids are more entitled than anyone else? YABVU.

Is this thread for real?

A grown ass woman who sounds like a petulant, spoilt child.

Definitely BU.

A childcare bubble is for childcare not play dates.

YABVU. You only want to see your parents so they can provide childcare? You sound selfish. It is not your siblings fault that you decided to have children and now have no-one to look after them for you.

@bluebeck

YABVU.

You want your siblings to move out so your DC can have a play date with your parents? Seriously?

this think the cf Is you

my sil lives with in laws (37yo) if my son hasn't seen them (indoors) is because it's not allowed not secured. you can see them out in the park as this is allowed.
my parents live abroad so my son hasn't seen my family for over a year

but seems like you want to cause family drama for some playday that actually it's not allowed...

CF

I smell the dreaded reverse. I know some people assume it’s all about their kids once they become parents, but surely most people have the sense to know that no one is going to uproot themselves in the middle of a pandemic just so your precious little ones can see their grandparents whenever they feel like it.

Am I the only one whose teeth are set on edge by the concept of a ‘play date’ with grandparents. Aren’t the children just seeing them?

These replies are hilarious.

Meanwhile back on planet reality, yes its pathetic for three adults to be living "at home" in their 30s and it's highly irritating with respect to your kids not being able to see their grandparents.

YANBU

It's just for my kids to spend time with their grandparents for their well-being

For whose well being? It sounds like it’s really yours. You just want a break and to off load them on to yout parents, and are pissed you can’t.

That’s fine, just own it.

Meanwhile back on planet reality, yes its pathetic for three adults to be living "at home" in their 30s

Seeing as you’re an expert on Planet Reality, you’ll presumably know that property prices have accelerated way more quickly than earnings, 100% mortgages are a thing of the past and first time buyers require huge deposits?

@screamingchild

I get there's an element of jealousy. Husbands sister is living 'at home' getting help with looking after her kids, not having to run her own household, shared cooking, cleaning, able to nip out in her own whereas I'm stuck doing everything. I know I need to put my n my big girl pants and be a grown up here

Then surely you have a DH problem, why isn't he doing anything? SIL is a single parent, you're not. Tell him to step up

No, not 'childcare' but a short play date with their grandparents once a week or once a fortnight.
So you want them to kick their kids and grandkids out so you're kids can go over for an hour every few weeks?
And of you're isolating and haven't sent the kids back to school since March, where's your DP?

Well, I'm sure they all agreed their arrangements based on assuming that a pandemic would occur and also to piss you off.. .

YABU.

EVERYONE would like to see their loved ones now. A great many of us cannot. Get over yourself.

I’d be very interested to hear how the OP feels in 15 - 20 years if her parents are in need of care. The ‘ridiculous’, ‘pathetic’ siblings who never left home may suddenly become more useful then...

@CrotchBurn

These replies are hilarious.

Meanwhile back on planet reality, yes its pathetic for three adults to be living "at home" in their 30s and it's highly irritating with respect to your kids not being able to see their grandparents.

YANBU

Lots of people, all over the world, the world live in multi generation extended family groups for many reasons. My grandparents moved in with us when I was a child so they could care for us when my parents worked and my parents cared for my GPs much younger children when my granny was ill (my grandad was often posted overseas). My SIL lived with his disabled granny and aunt until the granny died. As a strapping 6 footer he was able to shoulder the physically demanding parts of caring that his aunt couldn't manage. My own adult son currently lives at home while he saves for a flat. None of these people are pathetic or immature. They are sensible, supportive, loving family members.