Partner not sharing responsibilities

[piinkmarshmallows]

Married, DC nearly 2. He works from home (part time since recently), I'm a SAHM (plan to start working in summer/early autumn).
Whenever he have argument (which turns into a fight), he stops looking after DC at all for days and stops talking. (On normal days it's 1-2 hrs a day).
I couldn't care less if we don't talk, but I argue that it shouldn't mean he stops being a parent. He says that's how he punishes me, as I don't learn any other way.
Anyone at all thinks this is ok? Yes I am a SAHM but he should spend time with DC when he is free too

I have a different surname to my children, they have an indian surname, me British, they are mixed race, I am white but I’ve never ever been asked for a letter from their father saying they can travel, and we have travelled a lot in the last 16yrs.

@Darbs76

I have a different surname to my children, they have an indian surname, me British, they are mixed race, I am white but I’ve never ever been asked for a letter from their father saying they can travel, and we have travelled a lot in the last 16yrs.

The issue is that if the OP's destination country is a signatory to The Hague convention, she can be compelled to return and charged with child abduction. She needs to do this properly otherwise there are risks for her and her child. It's irresponsible to advise otherwise