To correct anyone who mispronounces my name?

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Hi all,
I’m starting a new job soon; it’s a working from home/ remote working role. I’m based in N. Ireland and the rest of my new colleagues will be based in England so there will be lots of video calls etc with them. The way my first name is pronounced is generally different here than the rest of the UK. Would IBU to correct my new colleagues if they don’t get the way I say it right? (I find people from outside my region generally don’t). Not to be a dick about it either, the UK pronunciation is definitely the more well-known one, but it’s just not my name IYSWIM! I always try to be polite about it but still wonder if it comes across a bit precious/fussy, obviously want to make a good impression with new colleagues. Thoughts?

Depends how fussed you are about it.

I have a name a bit like Carolina but people tend to call me Caroline or even Carol.

If people ask I tell them my name but I answer to either.

Frankly it's one less syllable so easier for people to say and more common. I can't get too worked up about it.

Yes please do. I once worked with a woman who allowed me to call her by the wrong name 5 or 6 times until I realised that wasn’t her name. I was mortified. Your colleagues will be grateful!

Just say it politely when you first meet people, they’ll get used to it. I correct my name all the time. Serial offenders I can’t be arsed with, but do make a mental note never to do any favours for them... ;)

It totally depends on the name so I can't judge. Is it their accent which is going to make it sound different in which case I wouldn't correct them. If it's a name like Siobhan which a friend of mine used to pronounce as Seeobahn then certainly correct them. Perhaps you should politely introduce yourself using your name during teams calls or whatever and the message will get across.

@NeverTalksToStrangers how is the name Âine pronounced? It’s funny, someone of that name was suggested to me for a Facebook friend earlier, and I don’t ever remember seeing it before.

Yes I know several Marie's. Some are ma-ree some are 'marry' . Went to school with a Helena. (Hel-leena ) all teachers called her Helin-ah. She hated it.

Áine in Ireland pronounced Awn-yah / Awn-yeh

Also know a Nadine who gets very angry when people dont pronounce it Nay-Deen

I think it's Deirdre. I prefer the Irish pronunciation and, as it's an Irish name it should preferably be pronounced that way.

[quote Lalliella]@NeverTalksToStrangers how is the name Âine pronounced? It’s funny, someone of that name was suggested to me for a Facebook friend earlier, and I don’t ever remember seeing it before.[/quote]
What @Notimeforaname said only I'd have spelled it On-ya.

I once spent a whole day with a girl I was calling leah (Lee-ah) she txt me later in the evening to tell me it was in fact Leia (Lay-ah) I was mortified. I'd have preferred she correct me immediately

Definitely correct them. I would much rather be corrected than continue to mispronounce someone's name.

Sure. It will take a week or so but people will get it.

Definitely correct them, your name is important.
And take your time to get their names right too so they have no excuse.

I have family in NI, when my cousin came to visit my friend Katie did not realise she waa speaking to her when she said
'Kee-uh-tee'. That's not what I'd consider getting it wrong though as that is about accent rather than mispronouncing Marry/Maree.
So if your name is Maeve, it will rhyme with Dave, and if your new colleagues pronounce it to rhyme with Dave in their accent they are not wrong, even if it's not how you'd pronounce it.
If your name is Caitriona and you pronounce it like Ca-train-ah, people need to say it like that, not as Ca-tree-na.

The way my first name is pronounced is generally different here than the rest of the UK.

I knew a (Scottish) Deirdre as a child but it wasn't until I was an adult, working with an (Irish) Deirdre that I was forcefully told the correct pronunciation is Deirdr-A. She would repeatedly and ruthlessly correct any mispronunciations.

As a general rule though, I think it can depend on the situation. I lived abroad as a child and the natives of that country never got my name right because their language doesn't use the particular vowel cluster in my name and therefore they were unfamiliar with that sound. Doesn't sound like that's the case here though.

Is your name Rodney but someone calls you Dave 😂😂

It depends. If the difference is purely an accent difference (on the same way that people from different parts of the UK pronounce “bath” and “glass” differently then leave it be. I live in the US and people pronounce my name differently here than people go in the UK. It’s not wrong, it’s just how they pronounce things. They often pronounce T as D here so “Betty” becomes “Beddie”, for example. My last name is 14 letters long and an Eastern European name with a combination of letters that just wouldn’t exist in English. My husband’s ancestors were immigrants from Eastern Europe. People butcher the name all the time. I can’t get too bothered about it. I know they don’t intend to offend.

I have a name which most people say wrong. I’ve tried explaining, correcting, not answering but generally I appreciate the effort and crack on. There are two colleagues who just haven’t got to grips with it but I can’t get offended as they try and are lovely to work with.

My bully used to deliberately say my name wrong and I loathed that. It was like a verbal ‘fuck you’ to me. He was quite capable of saying my name correctly when there were others around.

I do instantly take to people who remember my name. I don’t think it is hard or difficult but some clearly do.

Do it OP.
I would hate to think that I'd been calling someone by the wrong name but they didn't want to tell me because they felt awkward.

They often pronounce T as D here so “Betty” becomes “Beddie”, for example

Yes! And the other way around too ! Many Americans say 'Patty's day' when referring to 'Paddy's day'.

correct them - give them something it rhymes with or something similar so that they remember.

Had someone join work org recently (and remotely) and explain that her slightly unusual name was based on when she was conceived.
TMI, but remembered.

I think to address someone in the way they wish to be is how it should go
Any other way is disrespectful and rude if you've been introduced

Depends I think. If it's Deirdre (like Barlow) v Deidre (Deidra) then fair enough, but some differences I can't 'hear' let alone copy. I'd try, but getting pissy because I can't do it, is fairly pointless.

Please correct them . I called a colleague Paula for about a fortnight before she corrected me . Her name was Pamela . Same first letter was my excuse 😂

@Notimeforaname

They often pronounce T as D here so “Betty” becomes “Beddie”, for example Yes! And the other way around too ! Many Americans say 'Patty's day' when referring to 'Paddy's day'.

Same here in Australia. DH and I are British and so insist on the pronunciation of “t” in words “it’s water bottle child not warder boddle” and this meant that my smallest would refer to medals as “metals” and for one short glorious period of time to the hurdles as the “hurtles”.