To think my friend is a hypocrite ,a absolute hypocrite ?

[mammamia345]

We are in tier 4.
She lives with her mum.
She has been getting into her ex boyfriends car and having him driving her to the supermarket.
She's allowing her sister in the house (who has been seeing her boyfriend ) and her cousin (who has been seeing her boyfriend)
And obviously these boyfriends have been seeing family /going to work.
Today another friend dropped off her kitten at my house (I live alone ) to watch for a week whilst she gets work done to her house.
I told this friend about this and her reply
"You do realise we are in tier 4,your friend will have been touching the kitten and she isn't the cleanest person is she,well il be avoiding you if I see you in the street "
So I mentioned all the rule breaking she's been doing and she says it's ok as she "anti bacs"
I told her a few home truths how she bends the rules to suit herself etc
She ended up telling me to F off
How on earth can she say anything ?

She's clearly a dumb as a rock so it's no loss

Sigh. Isn’t anyone bored of the covid police?

The REAL Police and other emergency services, doctors and other medical staff, are all thoroughly sick of every second person out there believing they're some kind of special case or exception.

What part of EVERYONE needs to do this properly to save lives don't people understand? Why don't people realise that every dickhead out there behaving like this is literally helping to jeopardise our futures and possibility of returning to a more normal life?

YANBU OP

YANBU my relative has seen her boyfriend, random friends and was out with a few today driving around (they are only 19) then i get a call from her saying they are near my house in her mates car and she's bursting for the toilet can she come in for a wee! Was like WTF. She lives a 5 to 10 minute drive from me so I told her to go home for a wee. Idiots.

@FangsForTheMemory

Never mind your friend, have you got a kitten pic for us?

I agree. C'mon, this is mumsnet! You can't mention a kitten/puppy/baby guinea pig in your OP without posting a pic!

Sorry for late reply
Ha ha I would post her but I'm scared my other friend will be on here and see said kitten

Why does nobody ever bring me kittens.

Thing is, people always have a justification for their own behaviour that they think is valid, but don't accept other peoples reasons.

Why don't you find a friend whom you actually like rather than bicker with?

Your friend is a rude dickhead. One of those classic people who don't like the taste of their own medicine.

Stick with the kitten and ditch her I reckon.

@AlternativePerspective, when travel is allowed you will be very welcome to babysit my cats . I'm in Scandinavia if that's OK?

To OP, cuddle lovely kitten, with the high morals of your friend i bet no boyfriends get 'cuddled' or atleast they will be dunked in sanitizer and bleach first .

Have you ever heard of the parable about pointing out the splinter in someone else’s eye while ignoring the plank in your own? Are you yet so perfect? Have you never done anything wrong?

She sounds horrible and yes a total hypocrite. I'm not sure there is anything to be gained by getting dragged into it with her, your own stress levels get elevated and she hurls more abuse at you.

Can you try to develop some phrases that shut her down next time such as "I don't really think you're in a position to be lecturing anyone about breaking covid rules... No I'm not going to get dragged into mud slinging here. I feel justified with my behaviour. I appreciate you may not but that can go two ways so we should both just try our best individually."

@Nomnomarrgh I've done lots of things wrong yes...but I wouldn't criticise someone for doing the same/worse of what I was doing.

@Sillysandy I agree it's not worth the mud slinging
She things she's perfect and only sees things the way she wants too.

Have you ever heard of the parable about pointing out the splinter in someone else’s eye while ignoring the plank in your own? Are you yet so perfect? Have you never done anything wrong?

It was the "friend' who was telling OP she was breaking the rules. She's the one with the plank in her eye surely!?!

She ended up telling me to F off
How on earth can she say anything ?

You need better, less stupid friends.

She seems to have blocked me now so I won't have to worry about upsetting her with the truth again

If she was a hypocrite she’d been pretending to follow guidelines but not actually following them. It sounds more like she just doesn’t give a shit and is quite thick? There is no cure for stupid so I’d just cut her loose OP.

@mammamia345 I had friends like this in my twenties, I was very much a pushover until nearly thirty and they reacted very negatively when I found my voice.
Obviously nothing to with Covid then, but taking offense when I "answered back" to their criticisms or didn't just automatically agree to their plans anymore.
I say had because you just can't stay friends with people who react badly when you change.
Other friends were fine, or maybe didn't even notice because they hadn't taken the piss previously so didn't need to see me getting more assertive.
If you are becoming more assertive it will change your relationships, and unfortunately some you'll have to let go.