To tie him up?

[Chanandlerbong01]

Me and my partner aren’t getting on. I told him a few days ago I want to leave, he hasn’t taken this very serious. I’m keeping an eye out for houses and I’ve saved almost enough. The other day we made an agreement to sleep in separate rooms, I think he’s expecting me to change my mind after a few days.

Tonight he has gotten very drunk, he has knocked over some boxes in the spare room so setting a bed up in there would take me over an hour, I’m not willing to do it because I’m sick of having to look after him. I’m not giving him our bed because he agreed I could have it because he has been in the wrong and caused the fall out.

He’s come to bed 3 times, he’s beyond drunk and not something I want to lie next to. He passed out downstairs with the window wide open so it’s freezing so I’m not swapping with him. The cold sets me asthma off. He is so drunk that each time he comes back he has no recollection of coming up half an hour before. I’ve had a 2 hour sleep now so I am wide awake and fuming.

I am meant to be getting up at 6 to meet my friend for an early morning dog walk which I probably won’t manage now. How many things does he have to spoil. Every special occasion is overshadowed by him.

Am I being out of order in all of this?

@Wows3rs Did you get up on the wrong side of your bed? OP I sincerely hope you can get away from the inconsiderate drunk asshole soon

YABVU to tie him up in a freezing garage. Just pack your bags and leave him now.

@1forAll74

Put him in the garage, shed, or out on the lawn or paving stones, If he is that far drunk,he might not comprehend what you are doing. If you can't carry him etc, try and take him to the door, as if to get some fresh air, then shove him out, and lock the door.

Definitely leave him.

Much better plan than tying him up.

Yeah, you need a lock for your bedroom door. In the meantime you can make do (depending on the design of the door/bedroom) with a chair pushed at an angle under the doorhandle or a stck of coins wedged between the top of the door and the frame.

@ElizaLaLa

If he died it would be his own fault.

@ElizaLaLa A little harsh?

"If he died it would be his own fault."

What?!

[quote year5teacher]@Wows3rs you’re right, anyone in an unhappy relationship must not complain or it’s “entitled” because you, someone they have never met, couldn’t see your fiancé for new year. That makes total sense.[/quote]
Indeed.

Although I am living the absurdity of someone co-opting someone else’s thread about their crappy, drunk nearly ex partner ruining their NYE to whinge that she didn’t get to see their fiancé and claiming the OP is the ‘entitled’ one. And telling people off for not having what she considers good enough reasons for leaving relationships too. Because that’s completely relevant to this thread.

Imagine telling @Chanandlerbong01 that she’s very entitled because she just wanted to have a proper night’s sleep and go for a dog walk with a friend this morning. 🤷🏻‍♀️

When did this place get so fucking dry and literal.

Does the op's post really need a disclaimer to say she isn't REALLY going to tie the fucker up?

Does my post REALLY need lighthearted after it?

Seriously.

I'm buckled at the don't tie him up it's too cold do it in summer OP

Nobody thought she was going to tie him up

She did seem quite keen on the garage idea though...

Like a kennel for the night

You are not remotely ‘entitled’ and the person using that phrase to insult you for wanting to meet a friend for a walk in lockdown is clearly one of those people who throws woke words around whenever they feel a bit upset. Ignore.

The sooner this man is gone from your life, the better. Hope you made plenty of noise today while he’s hungover.