To ask if anyone else is as suggestible as I am?

[Tweaker]

I haven't met anyone else who is so suggestible and therefore very changeable. I am driving myself MAD with it as I lurch from one extreme to another. Big things and small. I've been thinking about this for a while and these are just some examples from the last few days:

• I've been wrestling with whether or not I want another baby. I see something about people travelling and maybe a thread about how hard parenting is. I think "they're good points/factors, I am better off not having another child." Then I hear about a friend being pregnant or a bloody happy advert, "I must have another baby! It's essential! What was I THINKING doubting it?" Until something happens and my position changes again.
• met a woman whose family live in Australia. Think, "I should move there, life's for living! Taking chances!" Then I have a zoom chat with my brothers or see a tv show about the Lake District and realise I could never move, what was I thinking!
• that's the perfect wallpaper/picture/style I'll get that! See something else...urgh! How could I ever have liked that!

And so on...Exhausting. For context, I am a reasonably intelligent, professional 40-something woman. Please tell me I'm not alone or at least how to tune in to what I really want/think...

@SquareEyes3523

I’m on my 3rd attempt in 5 years at studying for the same professional qualifications. I’m thousands of pounds out in fees, I haven’t opened a book since October and I think I’ve decided this career route just isn’t for me. But I’m just so embarrassed that if I don’t go ahead people will know this is the 3rd time I’ve dropped out of it. I’d really love to complete them (and ideally do well) but realistically I don’t think I’ll go further in that line of work. I’m working in something completely different hat I’ve been doing for years. I just don’t think I have the staying power for it. I mean if I was Meant to do it I’d have done it by now? Right?

Yes I feel like this too, my husband jokes about how suggestible I am and I honestly am. I change my mind (and beliefs) constantly.
Take for example covid; one day I am all worried about thinking god this is terrible, watching the news etc, then I read some stuff about how it's not as portrayed (not conspiracy stuff just like actual covid deaths in healthy people etc and then I'm feeling like it's all an over reaction.

Also have made many plans to move places, go live in Spain and then never do.

Like @ButterMeUpScotty says, it makes me upset as I feel like I maybe don't have my own personality as I change so much with each opinion I hear.

Err some people have no head voice? What is this concept? I thought everyone had one, mine is constantly on the go!

@SquareEyes3523 no I am not like that, but then I can make decisions and stick at things in a way that some others here don’t seem to be. Sounds like we all have our own wee quirks!

@smallsteps88 it's that whole thing of what others think isn't it, I feel shame when I drop out of things that I've told people I'm doing. I totally get where you're coming from.

What wait doesn’t everyone have a constant inner voice jabbering away? That must be so peaceful!

I am always justifying my decisions in my head to people who I don’t see/ speak to regular and like a lot here I do everything at super speed. I wish I could just decide things and not overthink

No I am the opposite.

A happy cynic.
I also know my own mind- I am open to challenges in my thing but not easily swayed- a missionary's nightmare.
My mother on the other hand has been baptised 6 times.

Get to know yourself then you won;t spend your life flip flopping about.

I have a head voice, but no longer allow it to be an inner critic.
It's more like the voice of a good friend.

So glad I clicked on this post! I could have written it myself.
I have sometimes wondered if I have some form of anxiety, I can’t make a decision to save my life and I have a permanent chatter in my mind. I weigh up the pros and cons of practically every daily event. It’s exhausting but I didn’t really know it was just me until I met my husband and I explained it one day and he was in utter shock that all these things went on in my brain. Glad to know there’s some other people out there feeling similar.

@Tweaker no not everyone hasa head voice. I've had extensive conversations about this with my partner. I don't it's just not how I think, he does. I'm creative so not lacking in imagination and have anxiety which I take meds for. So not sure it is an anxiety not/thing

Also to pp's it's been done to death re head voice. Everyone acts so surprised people don't have one. Why are people so shocked not everyone is like them?

@Plussizejumpsuit

Also to pp's it's been done to death re head voice. Everyone acts so surprised people don't have one. Why are people so shocked not everyone is like them?

Oh sorreeee must remember to never repeat a thread topic on MN incase someone remembers it being discussed before. Get a grip.

I'm just the same and easily swayed to different mindsets. Recently been diagnosed with adhd which might have something to do with it

This is me . Theres a running joke in my family that theres not a single country in the world i havent planned to relocate to at some point and not a single career choice i havent flirted with. I agree its exhausting.

@SmallSteps88 wow so fucking rude! I was saying that people shouldn't be so surprised not everyone is like them. So pointing out this had been previously discussed many times and people are always so surprised people aren't like them. Rather than policing what can be a topic. But sounds like you're just looking for something to get butt hurt about so carry on. Ffs

We live in a world now with constant input from TV, radio and social media, plus the business of jobs, families and organisational difficulties, and I think sometimes we just have a brain overload. If you hadn't seen something on Facebook about a new baby, or Instagram large families and so on, you wouldn't be faced with endless choices.

It's why mindfulness, meditation and so on was invented.

Some people also do find it hard to prioritise the important things in life and get so caught up with the minutiae they struggle mindful balance.

[quote Plussizejumpsuit]@SmallSteps88 wow so fucking rude! I was saying that people shouldn't be so surprised not everyone is like them. So pointing out this had been previously discussed many times and people are always so surprised people aren't like them. Rather than policing what can be a topic. But sounds like you're just looking for something to get butt hurt about so carry on. Ffs[/quote]
You seriously can’t see how rude you were by doing that? What was your point other than being a party pooper?

I'm a bit like this. Will visit a friend in a different town, for example, and convince myself I want to live there
Never watch 'A Place in the Sun', OP!

@SmallSteps88 I said what my point was. I think you need to stop taking a chat on Internet forum so seriously. Jesus christ I can't imagine being so upset by chit chat. Are you doing OK? I'm gonna step away from this because I'm not sure you are, or what point further involvement from me will have. You've clearly got a view and no replies from me over an innocuous comment will change that.

I'm exactly like this and I struggle with making even the simplest decisions like what to eat.

It’s ok @Plussizejumpsuit, I think stepping away is the right thing for you to do. Save you anymore embarrassment. You were rude and were called on it.

This sounds like me!! The other thing I do, not sure if it’s normal but after watching a period drama I’m almost in the period drama mindset or if I’ve watched a mystery I’m almost looking for clues. It’s hard to explain I’m not getting all dressed up but I definitely am influenced easily

I am just like this op, decided on a whim I wanted to buy my first home the next day I put down a holding amount for a new build which is now my home. As soon as an idea gets in my head I go crazy researching it and in my head its already a done deal.
I now have a cat for this reason and have been in the process for adopting a dog when I realised I was being ridiculous and had to take some time to think about it properly. I feel almost obsessed over things but only need the slightest suggestion of it to be that way

Everyone's responses have helped me make a lot of links in my mind. I'd like a stronger sense of self but how does one go about that?! I see people at work in particular who seem so certain about their opinions. I'm not wanting to be as sure as they are because there are benefits to being so easily influenced. I'm very empathic and will hear people out, never just dismiss them. But, I want to be more confident. I'm going to keep this thread and use it to instigate some changes. I think meditation is a great idea because I see strong links between my indecisiveness and generalised anxiety and imposter syndrome (v strong at work). I'm going to commit to trying to slow my brain and mind down. I'm curious to see if that will help.

@SmallSteps88

It’s ok *@Plussizejumpsuit*, I think stepping away is the right thing for you to do. Save you anymore embarrassment. You were rude and were called on it.

Hahaha Hahaha Hahaha So invested Fucking mental