If you could change one thing in your life

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What would it be ? I think mine would be to have changed jobs years ago . I now feel like that as I’ve been there so many years I lack the confidence to move.

I'd like to live nearer to my parents and sister.

Not possible as my job is 200 miles away from them.

Mine is impossible. It would be to still have my parents here with me.

Mine is job related too... I wish I had carried on with my retraining. It’s not too late (& I have applied to start again in October) but more complicated now and I’m older.

I wish I'd started training for my new career years ago

To go back to a decision I made in 2004 and do the opposite

I would change having an eating disorder for not having one. It has impacted on every aspect of my life since I was a young child. Now I'm older and understand it, i cope a little better, but it really has ruined my life.

To live in a house with a garden instead of a small flat. Hopefully will by this time next year!

My accent so people stop assuming I am stupid🤦

I wish I lived nearer my sibling. But both our jobs & spouses jobs mean it's not possible.

I also wish the houses behind my garden were 10m further away so not looking directly into my garden.

To have never have been told I was stockier than sister/friend/cousin. To have been allowed to do ballet (was the wrong shape apparently). To not have been asked in year 1 if I was having a baby (as I was so fat apparently). The list goes on. Looking back I really wasn’t fat but it became a self fulfilling prophecy and now for one reason or another the weight just won’t shift. Done lots of self improvement this year so hopefully will continue it in 2021 and maybe it might come off along the way.

I wouldn't have had DD. This year has broken me, it would have been hard child-free but it's been impossible with a 10-year-old. I just want to die at the thought of schools closing again.

Oh and also to have never moved house so much as a young child as I started stress eating and haven’t stopped for the past 23 years

To be thinner. It inhibits every area of my life and makes me ashamed.

Can I have two things?

My parents and sister living closer.
My husband working less.

Mine is also impossible, but sometimes I'd quite like to not be autistic so I could work fulltime and not have to rely on benefits anymore, then I'd earn lots of money, pay normal taxes and buy a house in the country.

I'm generally content with life now; we are housed, fed, warm, I love my part time job etc, but it's been a long hard slog to get to the point where I can accept and manage my limitations without feeling like a failure.

Have a fully functioning spine

@DrRamsesEmerson

I wouldn't have had DD. This year has broken me, it would have been hard child-free but it's been impossible with a 10-year-old. I just want to die at the thought of schools closing again.

I think you must be really struggling to have such an extreme response. I'm so sorry. I hope you have people in rl who can support you.

I would want my oldest DD to not have been born with severe learning disability and medical conditions. Life would have been so much happier for her, and all of us.

I'd have dragged my DP to the doctor when he first started getting "indigestion" in the spring.

They might possibly have diagnosed the heart problem that killed him at the start of November and given him a stent or a bypass.

@MattBerrysHair

Mine is also impossible, but sometimes I'd quite like to not be autistic so I could work fulltime and not have to rely on benefits anymore, then I'd earn lots of money, pay normal taxes and buy a house in the country.

I'm generally content with life now; we are housed, fed, warm, I love my part time job etc, but it's been a long hard slog to get to the point where I can accept and manage my limitations without feeling like a failure.

This really stuck a chord with me. I'm not autistic but health problems have made my life a lot worse frankly and I feel like a failure because of it too.

I wouldn’t have a chronic health condition/disability. It has impacted on every aspect ofy life - I have lost my independence, some friends, a job I loved, my marriage is not what it could be, my house is a mess, I haven’t become a parent. I try to find the silver linings but they are few and far between.

Not going to university in 1997 and thus not wasting 3 years of my life.

Everyone and their dog have degrees now to the point where having one feels irrelevant. I should have just gone to work after completing my A levels.

To have normal mental health. Having OCD & Anxiety is so tiresome.

I’d like just half an hour inside the mind of ds2 (3yo). He has asd and I just want to know if he’s ok and happy.

I'd like to go back and really realise that I wasn't hugely fat, like I believed I was after being picked on by bullies. Feeling so badly about myself has taken away my confidence, leaving me with very little self esteem.