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If you could change one thing in your life

66 replies

Wineisrequired · 29/12/2020 12:45

What would it be ? I think mine would be to have changed jobs years ago . I now feel like that as I’ve been there so many years I lack the confidence to move.

OP posts:
PattyPan · 29/12/2020 13:24

To not have PCOS. I even had a dream last night where I was crying over it!

Pr1mr0se · 29/12/2020 13:30

To be able to meet up with my dad (he died before I was old enough to know him)

madcatladyforever · 29/12/2020 13:32

I would not have gone back to work when my son was 6 weeks old. I would have claimed benefits until he went to school. The time I missed with him was too important to miss.

cherrypiepie · 29/12/2020 13:35

To be slimmer. Being overweight since a young age has held me back in every aspect of life. Especially the 80s and 90s when it sneered upon.

RaraRachael · 29/12/2020 13:37

Not to have got married young, under pressure from my mother as "People will think there's something wrong with you if you don't get married soon" Angry

Kumquatsquash · 29/12/2020 13:38

To have more money. Thankfully this is something attainable through hard work and sacrifice (although bloody difficult with preschoolers and no childcare).

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 29/12/2020 13:38

I would want dh & ds not to have life threatening medical conditions Sad

CakeRequired · 29/12/2020 13:43

To not have debt. It was all necessary and it's manageable, would just like to not have it. Just the loans too, not bothered about the mortgage although if that can disappear too, great. Grin

Sandalison · 29/12/2020 13:44

I wish I had been friendlier.

28andold · 29/12/2020 13:48

I wish I didnt have a baby with my thug ex, but I wouldn't have my DD who I adore.

Itmaybeus · 29/12/2020 13:48

For dc not to have chronic health problems and learning difficulties which has effected every part of life.
If I could have a second it would be for me to have not become disabled - my dc would then not be young carers (I'm a single parent so have no choice), I'd be able to work in a career I was doing well in and not to have to rely on benefits, not have lost friends and family, be able to take my children out/on holiday (their life has become like lock down every day even before March), not have to spend most of the day in bed and spend it with my amazing children.

FourEyedFreak13 · 29/12/2020 13:51

Either to not have listened to bullies my entire primary & secondary school life so that I'd kept my confidence to be able to now have the career I always wanted.

Or that I'd saved and kept money from I was young until i graduated uni, worked a bit & saved more and then met my partner (the same one at the same time as we did) and had enough money for us both to emigrate to Aus, NZ or Canada to a better life away from the UK.

frankie001 · 29/12/2020 13:51

To not worry so much, I have ocd which is under control but it’s always bubbling away.

Jackabobbo · 29/12/2020 13:53

To somehow get my ex dp to become my dp again and then one day my dh... Not sure how I could achieve that.

I kind of wish I'd left dd's father the first time he raised alarm bells (I didn't even fully recognise the alarm bells at the time tbh). It was the first time he screamed at me for going out with friends. Instead I stayed for 10 years as things got progressively worse. But if I had left then, I would not have my dd. I'd have more friends and much better career prospects and savings... But dd is pretty important.

Ripasso · 29/12/2020 13:53

I would want my lovely mum not to have incurable cancer. Mum has been getting treatment but has been shielding most of the year and it makes me so sad that we cannot spend this time with her while she is doing ok. FaceTime is great but I would give anything to give my mum and dad a hug.

nosswith · 29/12/2020 13:55

The government for a capable one. Read my comments on other threads as to why (if you wish).

EssentialHummus · 29/12/2020 13:55

For my closest friend not to have moved away. I really crave friendship and regular company and it's hard making connections in the middle of a pandemic. I have a good job, family, lots of acquaintances but just feel lonely and not very well understood a lot of the time.

Clarich007 · 29/12/2020 14:02

Lakie lady.
I'm so sorry to hear about your DP.💐

NoProblem123 · 29/12/2020 14:02

I wish I’d read up on narcissism 20 years ago.
Just one book could have made all the difference Sad

KatherineJaneway · 29/12/2020 14:18

To rewire my body so I don't crave food and can keep a sensible weight

2bazookas · 29/12/2020 14:19

I'd like longer legs.

TheBellOntheTree · 29/12/2020 14:20

I wouldn't have left my ExH.

I know he was abusive and violent but his life is made now. He has loads of money as he works in his dads business, how own home (in his parents name), a nice car.

Pays me £0 in maintenance.

I'm stuck in a top floor council flat which is unsuitable for my DDs medical needs but can't get a move with the threat of him winning full residency hanging over me because I know if he takes me back to court he'll get her as my housing situation is so bad. But I can't get a move as the council don't deem my DD "disabled" enough for a house/ground floor flat.

So yeah, I'd have stayed with him.

LakieLady · 29/12/2020 14:27

Thank you, @Clarich007.

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 29/12/2020 14:32

For my family to be well.

I want my mam to not have dementia.

I want my dad to be able to walk.

I want my sibling to not have chronic pain or a life limiting illness.

I want my other sibling to take it easier and to be happy.

That’s all.

CounsellorTroi · 29/12/2020 14:48

I would not have got on the IVF treadmill. I'd have kept the money and cracked on with my life.

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