To try and convince oh that this is a perfect time to get married.

[Dusty9729]

I appreciate that many couples want big weddings and covid has ruined that, it sucks.

But, I’ve always wanted a small wedding. I don’t like big groups of people, I don’t like too many eyes on me. Oh is similar. Nor have we got the money to have a big wedding. But we felt we’d always be obliged to invited loads of people and distant relatives we never see etc.

So aibu to think that right now it’s a perfect time to get married? For us anyway. It means there would be no guilty when we didn’t invited everyone we knew and just stick to immediate family.

We aren’t even officially engaged but spoke about getting married loads. We have two dc 🤣 one of which is autistic and wouldn’t cope with a large wedding anyway.

So yeah perfect time? Was hoping for an engagement ring this Christmas 🤣

Is it true that 15 people are allowed to socialise together just because of a wedding? maybe I should book one, I haven’t seen family in months, most nearly a year.

Just do it! Go to the register office, pick a date as soon as possible and go from there. Why not?

My DH didn’t propose to me, and I don’t have an engagement ring. We just said ‘Why don’t we...’ agreed to, got on with it and then told everyone the date. Sorted.

If you don’t want much fuss or anything with a long time needed to book - particular location, posh dress - then it takes only as much planning as you can be bothered with.

Start the new year with something to celebrate!

I agree for those who want a small wedding it is the best time. Even more in your case if your DC cannot cope easily with crowds.

We eloped in September. It was my second time and DH hates being the centre of attention. It was the best thing we've ever done

“DP, the town hall has space for a wedding on 23rd July. Shall we book that? Great. We can go ring shopping as soon as the jewellery shops are open again.”

Sorted

@MaskingForIt

Book it and then surprise him with the news on NYE?

Oddly enough, the OP’s boyfriend actually needs to be present for them to declare intent to marry. What with consent being important, and all that.

Depends where she in. We are in Scotland and just had to book it then send in the firms nearer the time. We didn’t have to go in person (although the firm did state they may ask 1 person to come to the office.

We eloped and had no one with us, the witnesses were the photographer and a piper. We returned home after a few days away and it was a done deal. No ‘party afterwards’ shite either just a nice family meal.

I did want the dress though so I got it.