Partner adding woman on Linkedin

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My partner left his email inbox open on the laptop and I noticed and email from LinkedIn inviting him to 'start a conversation with his new connection' who happened to be an attractive female member of cabin crew. The email said she had accepted his invitation.
One, I didn't know he even had/used LinkedIn, it could be a very old account. Two, I didn't know he knew any cabin crew.

He's a loving partner who have never given me suspicions before though I am quite paranoid and jealous. But the email was from 5 days ago. Could she be responding to a very old invitation?

How should I approach this?

AIBU to think this is suspicious?

My DH has loads of contacts, many of them are women, I wouldn’t give it another thought to be honest. I trust him completely, it’s LinkedIn not a dating app.

“It’s like a disease” sure op!

Do you want to catch him out so you can break up with him? Do you just want something to shout at him about?

Linked in is the most sexually charged social media site out there! Professional my arse. Loads of bored creepy old men. Some of the messages I've got on there are absolutely unacceptable. I'd watch him!

And here I am thinking I had nice profile pic but only getting messages about crypto currency. When I have nothing to do with crypto currency😂

@SchrodingersImmigrant

And here I am thinking I had nice profile pic but only getting messages about crypto currency. When I have nothing to do with crypto currency😂

Mine are all from recruitment consultants

If he’s having an affair I really don’t think he’d leave the laptop inbox open with no password protection whatsoever. I assume you can see his LinkedIn profile so you will also be able to see his connections or network.

What were you hoping to find when you started looking through his inbox anyway? Something more salacious than a LinkedIn invite?

@Bouledeneige only 49% 😂😂 (lighthearted)

@Bouledeneige

Just 800 of them? Come on girl. Get going. Keep up!

Eh, could be that it is someone he used to know or went to school/uni with? Not weird. But men also do use LI to just try and message women which is gross. Without further speculation it could be either way.

Oh wow. This is brilliant!

I have 1500+ linked in connections and have had zero creepy messages

So you snooped and found something to help you justify your paranoid jealousy? Well done.

Seriously, what are you doing reading his emails? I’d say he’s the one who should have trust issues, you’ve breached his trust by reading his emails.

I leave my phone around, unlocked, all the time, I would be massively pissed off if my DH read my emails and vice versa because it would show a lack of trust and a disrespect for my privacy.

If he’s having an affair I really don’t think he’d leave the laptop inbox open with no password protection whatsoever.

I agree. If my DH had an affair and just had it on a laptop accessible to me with no password, I would break up with him just for being stupid

Isn’t this the point of linked in though? Bolster your “connections” etc and find opportunities? Having more connections mean you can view more profiles as some kl

Most of my colleagues are men. Should I not have any of them on LinkedIn? What about business lunches, trips, etc? It’s a male dominated field. Should I keep myself sequestered?

As some profiles are partially hidden if you don’t have mutual/direct connections

OP clearly has no idea what LinkedIn is.

Does he have any reason to be connected professionally to cabin crew?

I use LinkedIn all day every day (or so it feels!) Does he use it a lot? I don't ask for connections unless I need them but I do sometimes accept odd ones.

The email is standard. There could be a million reasons for the connection request he's sent. Or he's a creep who likes connecting to attractive women. Both are possible.

Snooping never ends well, though.

"D"P actually used LinkedIn to message a woman he had an "affair" with ... its not intorely unheard of!

I’m really surprised by the answers here. I thought LinkedIn was meant to be building your professional network, not generating links to a bunch of randoms.

I would raise an eyebrow at that OP, if he’s not in the aviation industry. My experience of LinkedIn is that a lot of random blokes with no connection to my work try to “connect” with me on LinkedIn, I think they see it as a more acceptable or covert way to look at or chat to women. I get a new request about once a week, never from random women though

I disagree with it being weird of he isn't in avitaion. I have connections from many different fields. I found more things interesting than just mine.

I wouldn't find that odd at all. Although I'm on LinkedIn I have no time for it so I just accept whoever requests to connect with me. I then find I'm bombarded with messages from recruitment consultants, MLM recruiters and people trying to sell me places on useless course events. I just ignore them then clear the messages out every few months.

Is this really the only thing you're suspicious about?

@GlowingOrb

Most of my colleagues are men. Should I not have any of them on LinkedIn? What about business lunches, trips, etc? It’s a male dominated field. Should I keep myself sequestered?

If they your colleagues and people you've legitimately got business network interests with then yes. If they invited you then also yes. Randomly sending connection requests to cabin crew isn't networking! Unless he works in aviation or has worked with her previously or is recruiting then why? Other than to perv? Don't be fooled - it's full of pervs!

I have plenty of Male contacts on LI but it’s purely business and I only connect with people I have a legitimate business reason too
Some men do use it to send Pervy messages to women, although I’ve never had that, obviously my profile pic isn’t attractive enough
Does your DH have a business reason to connect with a member of cabin crew?

My DH has over 10,000 LinkedIn connections - assuming around half of them are women, I wonder where he gets the energy from to sleep with that many people?

I have around 2,000 which include some rather attractive blokes... I’m clearly doing LinkedIn wrong as I’ve only slept with a couple