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Deletion messages- more honesty?

38 replies

MichelleScarn · 27/12/2020 09:24

Not a TAAT in particular (still expecting this to be pulled!), but would probably have more respect if deletion messages said 'thread deleted as not going as op wanted, rather than "identified in real life' 'real life concerns' etc etc!
And know this isn't a new thing but its annoying all the same!

OP posts:
Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2020 09:26

I wonder if we're thinking about the same thread that has definitely NOT just been deleted with a message about the OP being 'identified in real life' bollox she was. Xmas Grin

Obviously the above is not a TAAT either.

OrigamiOwl · 27/12/2020 09:30

I always read those deletion messages with the subtext of "this didn't go how is hoped so I've had a tantrum and got it taken down".
There was definitely one of those yesterday.

Original poster
MichelleScarn · 27/12/2020 09:31

Of course not butchy Halo this is absolutely not a TAAT about a recently deleted thread. Pure coincidence Xmas Grin

OP posts:
Mdmd · 27/12/2020 09:34

Agree. If it’s a thread I was on this morning, no way was op identified.

dudsville · 27/12/2020 09:34

I think it's fine enough to know the likely truth but allow MNHQ the grace not to have to weigh in with a judgement!

HotSince63 · 27/12/2020 09:35

Ah - yet another "OP has been identified in real life" pulled thread. Hmm

We know it's bollocks, Mumsnet know it's bollocks, and posters know if the thread isn't going the way they want it to, they can contact Mumsnet and get it pulled.

Give it up Mumsnet. It's getting boring.

OhYesYouDidBoo · 27/12/2020 09:37

Funny, because I have asked before for a thread to be removed and was told MNHQ "don't do that anymore" Hmm

HotSince63 · 27/12/2020 09:40

OhYesYouDidBoo - you should have told them you'd received a text from someone IRL that had identified you.

They can't be asking for proof that you've been outed, because there was fuck all on that thread this morning that identified the OP.

Fairyliz · 27/12/2020 09:42

Arggg I hate those threads I always feel like I have missed out on something.

OhYesYouDidBoo · 27/12/2020 09:42

Maybe they just don't like me Grin

Meepmeeep · 27/12/2020 09:44

God it’s pathetic isn’t it. You don’t like the answers, all of a sudden your post is far too ‘outing.’ Nah, not buying it.

BuggerationFlavouredCrisps · 27/12/2020 09:45

I think you’re being very unkind. Why does it matter what the reason is?

No idea what thread you’re talking about as only just logged on but if there was a pile on, you can surely understand why a poster might want to remove a thread.

Not everyone is feeling very robust at the moment and I know that some people will burst into tears over a minor disagreement when ordinarily, they’d be fine and brush it off.

There are a lot of playground bullies on here lately...!

FourDecades · 27/12/2020 09:47

I agree.. l was on a thread this morning and the OP was "identified".... probably the same one Wink

GetOffYourHighHorse · 27/12/2020 09:47

It doesn't bother me at all. Mn is the only place i know that the op can't delete the thread themselves so who cares if mnhq do it for them, it's only a chat forum. Lighten up!

Minecraft4life · 27/12/2020 09:48

When you ask for a post to be deleted Mumsnet ask you to consider leaving it etc but will delete if you insist.
It’s easy to blab too much though and then regret it. It’s a shame you can’t edit posts on mumsnet.

FourDecades · 27/12/2020 09:49

@BuggerationFlavouredCrisps

I think you’re being very unkind. Why does it matter what the reason is?

No idea what thread you’re talking about as only just logged on but if there was a pile on, you can surely understand why a poster might want to remove a thread.

Not everyone is feeling very robust at the moment and I know that some people will burst into tears over a minor disagreement when ordinarily, they’d be fine and brush it off.

There are a lot of playground bullies on here lately...!

If it's the post that we are all assuming it is.. the OP drip fed the story with a very misleading title... to make the NRP look bad
Mustbe3ormorecharacters · 27/12/2020 09:49

Of course it isn’t about a thread in which the OP posted asking 1 question but the reality of the situation was completely different.
In that thread the op and her daughter were being unreasonable.

Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2020 09:50

No idea what thread you’re talking about as only just logged on but if there was a pile on, you can surely understand why a poster might want to remove a thread.

It wasn't. Extremely misleading, disingenious thread title and OP but definitely not a 'pile on' due to the nature of the topic. Hypothetically speaking, of course.

HotSince63 · 27/12/2020 09:50

Nobody is saying that MN shouldn't remove the post.

Why does it matter what the reason is?
If it doesn't matter what the reason is then why don't MN just admit in the deletion message "post removed at request of OP", rather that making up a load of old bollocks about identifying info.

PimlicoJo · 27/12/2020 09:50

I'm annoyed about the deletion - no way was the OP identified.

Mdmd · 27/12/2020 09:55

It wasn’t a pile on.

The op wrote a deliberately misleading title, designed to get people frothing about the NRP. And had voting. It then transpired that the true story wasn’t anything like she had painted.

She was told that she and her child were unreasonable and that she wasn’t doing the child any favours. And that she was pandering to the child and making a problem with her other children.

So she got the thread deleted.

I don’t care that the thread is gone but the deletion message is mildly irritating because she wasn’t in any way identifying

Ileanna · 27/12/2020 09:56

@MichelleScarn off topic but I love your username!

Original poster
MichelleScarn · 27/12/2020 10:01

Why thank you @Ileanna, its Threat Level Midnight so I've had to come out of retirement!

OP posts:
Ileanna · 27/12/2020 10:05

@MichelleScarn

Why thank you *@Ileanna*, its Threat Level Midnight so I've had to come out of retirement!
Threat level midnight is my favourite film.
heseesyouwhenyouaresleeping · 27/12/2020 10:07

but if there was a pile on, you can surely understand why a poster might want to remove a thread.

but I cannot understand why MNHQ humour them. If you ask a question, be prepared for people to reply. If you don't like the replies, hide the thread and move on.

Having the thread deleted just proves you are an unreasonable CF.

Most deleted threads can still be found elsewhere on the internet, that's the funniest part of all.