Banished dh to spare room

[marvelousmadmadammim]

I know I'm not but in DH's eye's he's been hard done by.

Start of lockdown my DH set up his office in our lounge, he got himself a desk and everything.
He works 12hr shifts so it basically meant that our Lounge is unusable for 6 days out of 10.
I have gentle prodded several times about using the spare room instead. It has a tv and recently a WiFi booster- we even had to move a sky box in there so that we could actually watch tv while he was working in the lounge.
His argument against was if people stay he'd have nowhere to work, I said if people stay we have nowhere to relax and have to spend all our time in the kitchen.
A recent work meeting indicated that they would be unlikely to be going back to the office in the foreseeable future. I again brought up the workspace and the kids popped up they think it's unfair we can't use the biggest room in the house, how we all have to sit in the spare room to watch tv while he has the whole front room.

He's decided today to move into the spare room. Cue lots of huffing and puffing, martyrd signing and under the breath muttering.

He's definitely sulking.

My DH lasted 3 days before I banished him upstairs to work! 9 months is pretty kind of you.

@Craiglang

YANBU. You have a spare room, I am baffled as to why he'd want to use the living room in the first place.

Same here. As you can't have people to stay anyway I don't understand why the spare room wasn't the default option in the first place. My office is in a spare room. I can shut myself away and not impact the rest of the household.

Also looking at this from a work point of view - due to space/living arrangements, many people are working in less than ideal conditions and because of the unusual circumstances we’re all very lenient when it comes to background noise, interruptions etc - even accepting that people will be less productive at the moment because everyone’s doing the best they can but dealing with distractions and uncomfortable working spaces.

If it suddenly turned out that someone I had been giving all this leeway to actually did have a perfectly serviceable private room that they chose not to use... I’d be extremely fucked off.

Dear God, DH wouldn't have lasted 24 hours taking over the living room.

There is a big difference between being tolerant and being a doormat....

His hours involve nights so it actually isn't that selfish that he works downstairs as the noise carries less from down there so doesn't wake anyone.
He didn't stop us using the lounge, it was just awkward with him being on calls and having to turn the volume off or pause the tv etc.

We've had a heart to heart and he is struggling with working from home in general.
I'm still going out to work, the kids go to school and he is home 24/7 with my ever increasingly crazy mother. Being 'shut away for 12hrs a day' is quite triggering for him apparently - takes him back to a shitty time in his childhood.

It hasn't been that bad but if there is no end to wfh then something had to change.