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Original poster

To ask if this would work?

38 replies

MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 12:54

Want to see DP desperately. I live at the moment with my adult daughter in another borough and he lives with his adult brother, adult son and young daughter. If the adult brother and son move out temporarily from DP's, can me and DD then take their place and stay with my DP ?
It's a tier 4 area and we would become DP's support bubble.

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Sirzy · 26/12/2020 12:58

Where would the people being kicked out of their homes go?

Cabinfever10 · 26/12/2020 13:00

No thats not ok. You can't switch support bubbles or households like that nor should you be going to another area. Also where and for how long would you expect his brother and son to move out?

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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 13:01

Move back into the brothers property. They only moved in with DP to provide company and childcare support. If we are there, we can then do that but also, are we able to travel back home in the new year? So many questions

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Xmasgrump · 26/12/2020 13:06

You would have to wait 10 days from ending one support bubble before forming another.

sirfredfredgeorge · 26/12/2020 13:14

There is no support bubble currently in place though, so the waiting 10 days is not required by law. So long as they do fully move out to become a new household then no law is being broken.

Meredithgrey1 · 26/12/2020 13:23

That would be fine, if they are moving back to their house.
House moves are allowed, and it would create a single adult household you could bubble with. You could then, technically, come and go from his house as you please.

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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 14:43

My understanding is we could come and go as we pleased as long as DP's adult brother and son did not move back in or meet him indoors anywhere?

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RedskyAtnight · 26/12/2020 15:22

Why did adult brother and his son move in with DP in the first place, if it makes more sense for DP to form a support bubble with you? Will this be leaving adult brother without support? Is DP fully supportive of this idea? What you can't do is keep mixing and matching support bubbles.

sirfredfredgeorge · 26/12/2020 15:29

Your understanding is correct in law.

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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 17:10

They were helping with childcare and they wanted to be together.

We are either going to stay until 1st Jan or go back when restrictions are eased which may be as late as April.

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Brighterthansunflowers · 26/12/2020 17:13

YABU

You have to wait 10 days between support bubbles.

Can’t believe you want to kick adults out of their home so you can pretend to be in a support bubble.

YABVVU

slashlover · 26/12/2020 17:46

"Son, thanks for keeping me company and the childcare support but my girlfriend misses me so can you fuck off back to your Uncle's so she and her adult daughter can move in instead? Cheers."

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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 17:48

I've never heard of this 10 day break?

We are in a committed relationship. Its a difficult situation and we will do what is best, working within the guidelines but we can't be expected to be apart until Spring when the restrictions are said to be easing.

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Brighterthansunflowers · 26/12/2020 17:53

It’s literally on the governments website

www.gov.uk/guidance/making-a-support-bubble-with-another-household

You must treat your existing support bubble as a separate household (by social distancing) for 10 days before forming a new bubble

Brighterthansunflowers · 26/12/2020 17:55
  • by social distancing and following rules about meeting other households indoors, which in tier 4 is not allowed at all
sirfredfredgeorge · 26/12/2020 17:56

The 10 day break is between support bubbles, (to stop you saying "I'm in a support bubble with X on sunday, and Y on monday and Z on Tuesday and X again on wednesday) because no support bubbles are involved here at all it's not relevant.

SwankySharky · 26/12/2020 17:57

No, You cannot switch bubbles when and if it suits you.

This is why the bloody virus is spreading.

SwankySharky · 26/12/2020 17:57

My mistake - they've changed that then!

Cam2020 · 26/12/2020 17:58

I think so in theory...but is that what your DP wants too?

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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 17:59

Of course he does. He is desperate to see us and everyone is happy with the plan. It would be lovely to see in the new year together.

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Crowsandshivers · 26/12/2020 18:32

I think this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read on mumsnet. You must be trolling right? Selfish, irresponsible and cf spring to mind when reading this.

Wheresmykimchi · 26/12/2020 22:29

Depending where you are , it's 14 days or 10 and then yes you can change bubbles. Ignore PP.

Wheresmykimchi · 26/12/2020 22:29

@Crowsandshivers

I think this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read on mumsnet. You must be trolling right? Selfish, irresponsible and cf spring to mind when reading this.
You must not read many threads Grin
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MiaMarshmallows · 26/12/2020 22:32

Yes. How dare I spend the second half of Christmas with my partner of 2 years. Hmm

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Sally872 · 26/12/2020 22:34

Going until 1st of Jan would be wrong. That is just a visit not a support bubble however you label it. If you are actually staying until April and don't switch routinely then that is different.