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To ask you why my DP won’t touch me in front of his DM.

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Christmasnamechange1234 · 26/12/2020 08:33

He’s usually very, very tactile with me. He’ll kiss me, hold my hand, stroke my hair, put his arm around my waist.

He is quite different in front of his family generally, which I assume is a respect thing on his part. In front of his dad, grandmother and sister, he will look me in the eyes and smile, hold my hand, sometimes put his hand on my shoulder.

In front of his mum he will sit away from me as much as possible. He won’t initiate any touch and if I reach out for his hand he’ll squeeze it and return it to me. I’ve noticed it more and more over the last year.

His mum is really lovely, he tells me that she likes me and I like her, very much. Oh, and he’s told her how he feels about me.

For information, he’s had a difficult relationship with her in the past. It sounds like she was the disciplinarian growing up and they would have shouty arguments. They’re fine now, lovely to each other.

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OP posts:
UnshakenNeedsStirring · 26/12/2020 10:51

So weird. Why do you want him to touch you in front of his mother?!! Jeez

RaisedbySloths · 26/12/2020 11:09

He won't sit next to you in the presence of his mum because you won't take the hint.

Glitterblue · 26/12/2020 11:10

BIL and his exes used to be all over each other when we were all at the in laws' house and it was so uncomfortable! I would never expect DH to be overly affectionate with me in front of others, especially our parents. There's no need.

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