Shouted on Christmas Day...

[GreyMary23]

Tried so hard to make this a good Christmas after the shit year we've had. Got up at 5:30 to open presents, morning walk, prepped lunch, ferried dc to and from their dads, got them back in time for lunch, cleared up. By which time dc are tired and emotional, shouting and fighting. Wouldn't switch off the games console and the tiredness of the day caught up with me and I shouted. Resulted in tears and hysterics because 'I'd ruined Christmas'. I can appreciate they are over tired by the day and kids don't appreciate the work and money that goes into making the day special. But I just feel guilty and disappointed now.

They've gone to bed happy at least. Please tell me I'm not the only one who has lost my shit at least once today...

Just shouted at Ds as bedtime was like wading through treacle. Then felt really awful.

Forget about it. It’s an exhausting day when you’ve kids. So you shouted? It’s not the end of the world. They went to bed happy. Forgive yourself. They will have already.

Oh we had a telling off and tears before bedtime too (diving around like a lunatic, resulted in a cracked head on the bathroom floor and a tantrum “it’s your fault mummy!”) so I got rather stern.

Totally 100% normo Christmas Day parenting.

Have a gin and let it go

You're not alone. I had the vision of a perfect day in my head. The morning started well, but when I helped DD (8) log
on to her new laptop (which I'd spent hours on prior to wrapping in order to set her account etc up) only to find we were locked out of it, I got very stressed, was shouting at everyone and basically took hours to calm down from the fact I almost chucked the computer through the window due to the process of logging on being so bloody annoying. I'm terrible with stress and am also really tired at the minute. My poor kids. Overall, the day was good, just not the perfect I had planned for.

Mum shouts at misbehaving kids...meh, worst things happen at sea.

Thanks all, as always MN gives me perspective. I think we just put so much pressure on ourselves to make it perfect that when the slightest thing goes wrong it feels like a big deal.

I shouted at my DD 7 today and then locked myself in the toilet to calm down. First I've raised my voice at her in months as well so typical it was today.

Should add she was being very hard work and cheeky, I didn't shout out of nowhere but still wish I could have controlled myself a little better on Christmas Day but these things happen and we're not perfect!

I didn’t shout, because the years have taught me it sends DS into the stratosphere (ADHD and poss PDA) but I did have very stern words. And came so close to losing it several times. I’ve stopped having any expectations of Xmas day and just take each moment as it happens. I’m far more relaxed since I decided that. And yes I accept I will have to get firm with him several times. I don’t see that as a failure or Xmas ruined anymore- it’s just part of the day of having DC at Xmas.

Ds 7 announced at around 8pm that this has been the worst Christmas day ever. Despite playing with toys and eating chocolate all day, happy as Larry. Went off to sleep fine with glow sticks. They all have their moments when they're tired. Don't worry about it.

MrsP, I think on any given day it should be a choice between coping with DC and coping with IT. Both at once is overload!

I yelled abit today, not at dd (6) but within ear shot. Only reason she didn't get shouted at was because shes been so well behaved all day.
I was so sick of the mess and boxes and washing up that needed to be done.
Doesn't help that I'm hungover 🙄Decided I'd have a drink last night as Im at work tomorrow so didnt want to have one today. Terrible idea I wont be doing that again. 😅It's made the day a bit shit as I just couldn't be arsed to do all the work that needed to be done 🤣 I did it, but was a frazzled mess by the end of the day and shouted at the hoover as it kept falling over and then shouted at some empty boxes that I was trying to ram into a cupboard. 🤣
I know I should unhinged but christ what a day! 😅

Gald I'm not the only one though it did make me feel bad as I wanted to end the day on a high note. 🤷‍♀️ oh well.

I haven't shouted, but I am standing in the kitchen drinking wine on my own because my husband is a miserable bastard who just wants to sit on his fat arse watching shit tv and not having a 5 minute conversation with me. At least you got rid of your ex OP. Oh, by the way, next year let him see them on Boxing Day. Christmas is no day to be ferrying anyone around lovely x

I think that children know perfectly well that if you shout at them you're the one who'll wind up feeling bad! If the need shouting off then do it and don't let them see you're upset with yourself.

I have very rarely had a Christmas Day which didn't involve some shouting. I'd let it go.

Nope. Not shouted. Not got cross, (other than on MN, but that's par for the course!!).

...then again I'm here alone 🤣

Definitely excess mess & i'm going to leave it until tomorrow & tomorrow I'll be cross with myself for doing that!!

They'll know their behaviour was unacceptable & they deserved to be told off AND they went to bed happy.

Forgive yourself, I'll bet they've forgotten about it already!!

I've cried 3 times.. hormones 🙄

and told me, apropos of nothing, that I occasionally smell horrible.

At least it’s just occasionally?

I tried my arse off to make today special, all the people we usually see are off limits and our normal rhythm is all to shit. Doesn’t help that I have had to include my grown husband as one who has found the changes difficult.

At 5pm, despite all efforts, youngest was crying, the eldest (THE most stoic child) fell apart and said ‘this is the worst Christmas ever.’

I lost my shit and pointed out I haven’t seen my own 98 yr old residential home-bound Nan in 9 months and I was doing my best. Other people would give their right arm for the Christmas we’ve had.

There were a lot of tears. We all agreed we are very fed up. Tomorrow is another day.

Don't try and pour fizzy pop in the living room take it back in the kitchen said several times in various forms (fizzy explosion) WHAT DID I TELL YOU WHY ARE YOU LIKE THIS (frantic sounds of adult daughter flushing toilet and grabbing towels) fortunately no harm done but FFS DS the whole planet must have heard me go off today

It's a hard rule for us that there is no gaming on Christmas Day. It's just not an option. I'm not having arguments over consoles and stupid games on Christmas Day.

Why did you get up at 5.30am to open presents and then go for a walk?

You could have got up at 8.30am and skipped the walk.

@jessstan1 we hadn't actually planned to do that but dc were up early through sheer excitement. Told them to go back to bed and not get up before 6am but by then I was wide awake so just went with it. And then the walk happened because the presents were done and dusted by 7 and it seemed such a long, long morning...

@BuggerBognor, thanks for the laugh. I can relate!