Shouted on Christmas Day...

[GreyMary23]

Tried so hard to make this a good Christmas after the shit year we've had. Got up at 5:30 to open presents, morning walk, prepped lunch, ferried dc to and from their dads, got them back in time for lunch, cleared up. By which time dc are tired and emotional, shouting and fighting. Wouldn't switch off the games console and the tiredness of the day caught up with me and I shouted. Resulted in tears and hysterics because 'I'd ruined Christmas'. I can appreciate they are over tired by the day and kids don't appreciate the work and money that goes into making the day special. But I just feel guilty and disappointed now.

They've gone to bed happy at least. Please tell me I'm not the only one who has lost my shit at least once today...

I shouted. Twice. Per child. By breakfast time. It’s life 😅

I think the idea that Christmas day should be some kind of perfection is wrong it is just another day yes you have gifts and some treats but there is no need for it to be "perfect"

OP don't worry just 'go with the flow'. Also WTF are you doing bringing dcs to their dad - one "rule " I had from day 1 is that is he wants to see them he comes over and gets them and drops them back... worth putting it in place. You do everything else so...…… Mind yourself tonight, hope you get some peace and quiet, and let them go to their dad's hopefully and get a bit of 'me time'. And fast forward a few years - had the loveliest day with ds and dd - santa present opened at 12, after they woke up around 11 lol...(oldest is 17 now and had to be 'called' for santa), but it was so relaxed and really enjoyable. I loved when they were small but xmas was a lotta lotta work for a single mum, so hugs (((()))))))

My day went a lot better than expected - having worked my tits off on a 12-hr shift yesterday (and tomorrow), I cooked Christmas dinner for 3 kids 14 (hormonal), 18 (just aced A Levels and got accepted for Law at Uni next year - has worked exceptionally hard) and 23 (got out of prison Monday, remanded for 15 months but sentenced to 4.5), my Mum (who lost my Dad recently) and my ex - what a day! Amazingly, it went swimmingly with me just so glad to have my son back in one piece and so changed (for the better) - I cried at some News item about a kid called Freddy who has run miles to raise money for his best mate who has cancer - It was bloody hard work but it was worth it.

Merry Christmas 🌲🙏🙈

You did well. I lost my shit by 9.30am after I had teen DS being downright rude and then DD sulking after I told her she had to eat her (special) breakfast before we would open presents.

I ate my breakfast alone upstairs. DH had words. All was fine

DH knocked the Christmas tree over, I may have shouted a bit.

There may have been raised voices here over board game rules and I’m generally a very un-shouty mum. Plus some frayed tempers between Ds1 (home from uni for the holidays) and ds2 (now used to having me to himself).
Also.. I’d stop running around for your ex. I take turns with mine.. whoever gets Christmas, the other gets new year’s, and the following year we swap. I definitely couldn’t deal with him on Christmas Day. I’d be too on edge and anxious. (I appreciate others feel differently on that one though.)

I think shouting on Christmas Day is a bit grim, try and be calmer next year.

I think it's normal, OP. Actually sounds like you put a lot of work in and kept your cool for the most part! I was a total ratbag on Christmas Eve, no shouting but I was blunt and grumpy and felt awful afterwards.

Really lucky in terms of who I was with etc today but I've been feeling guilty about last night, been at the end of a phone for others having a shit day, I've had PMS, I've been low level stressed and unable to switch off and Christmas has felt really weirdly flat. I'm amazed I haven't shouted- just from frustration.

Ah don't worry about it. I tend to find I shout more on days I try to make more special, probably because of a mix of putting pressure on myself, and wanting 'the perfect day' which from my experience anyway, does not exist. And kids are obviously excited and that also so..not a good mix.

There may have been raised voices here over board game rules
Monoply, is banned from our xmas for this very reason. I am surprised its not yet came to murder with our family and that devils game

@Northernparent68

I think shouting on Christmas Day is a bit grim, try and be calmer next year.

Ignore this bollocks. Clearly never lived in a house with other people ever.

That was a very long day.

You did your best and sound like a great mum.

Forget it

I try hard to stay calm on Christmas Day and not shout.

I thought I did ok but I just remembered that I shouted at DH because he left his leftover Christmas cake on the table and the dog tried to eat it!!! That really pissed me off.

Every parent has a "big shout" at least one day over christmas and often every day over the two days. Its stressful and you are all tired. My DS is an adult and I had a big shout on Christmas Eve and I nearly had one today. My DF used to always have a least one. Be kind to yourself

Sounds like a very traditional christmas

I’m shocked my the replies on this thread, is it so much not to shout on Christmas Day ? Is it ok for men to shout at their wives ?

@Northernparent68

Don’t do that. It’s reductive and does neither abused adults nor children being parented within entirely appropriate boundaries any favours.

DS's first ever time on the naughty step was on a Christmas Day. In my defence, he was being a ratty 2 1/2 yr old and I had a two week old baby born 11 weeks early and in NICU at the time, with possibility of losing her quite high. Not my favourite Christmas.

I shouted in to a cupboard after being asked for the thousandth time in four minutes to watch DS do something on Minecraft, whilst trying to get lunch on the table and engaging in Whatsapping greetings.
I try not to shout directly at the children on the Day itself....the cornflake packet took the verbal beating, God bless it