I would really like some advice as to whether I’m overreacting.
I’m spending Christmas with my partner. This is the first time in 7.5 years he’s invited me to stay over Xmas and have Xmas dinner with his family. I got to his on Friday as planned before Tier 4 was announced.
It turns out his parents are still going ahead with Xmas dinner, and there will 4 households mixing (partner, partner’s brother, grandma and parents). I’ve said that I won’t go because I don’t feel comfortable breaking tier 4 rules. This has been exacerbated by the fact that I’m a mature medical student and I’ve just finished doing a 2 month emergency medicine and acute care placement. During this placement I saw a few patients actually pass away due to covid complications on my shifts and it’s really affected me.
I’ve spoken to my partner about it, and he’s still going ahead and spending the afternoon with his parents and has said that I can stay at his.
I feel really upset, as I don’t feel like I’m his priority. It’s the first time we’ve spent Christmas together (previous years, him and his family have not invited me/he’s refused my invitation, despite his younger brother’s gf getting invites etc).
Also before I came, I got covid tests done at uni, as his family were insistent that i could only come if I test negative. Which I had no problem doing, however they’ve been flouting all the rules in place and none of them have got tested. I know obviously I’m a higher risk, having been in London and in ICU/A&E etc. However, it just feels a bit hypocritical.
I’m just sat here on Xmas eve crying and wishing that I went home to my parents instead. I went out earlier and I’ve got the ingredients to make my own Xmas dinner/lunch whilst partner is spending the day at his parents