To ask if you’ve got a name people say wrong do you correct them

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My two both have Arabic names that are often said wrong. I’ve asked them why they don’t correct people who say their names wrongs they have said they can’t be bothered anymore. Is this common that people give up correcting people? I have a name that’s very common so have never been in that position.

I have a name that is usually mispronounced and I could get arsey every single time which would be the MN thing to do. But often I think, oh well WTF.

My surname gets pronounced incorrectly. It's my married name and to be honest I agree with the incorrect pronunciation, so I don't correct it.

No

When I started my current job the tea lady (it was awhile ago) called me by a completely different name. Think it was about 6 years before she caught on.

I am a teacher and I really encourage and praise children in my class for correcting people who say their name wrong. I make a big deal of it at the start of the year when I am name learning and say how your name is so special and part of you so it is really important you aren't afraid to tell someone when they say it wrong.

I think it is such a key part of respect and embracing cultures, differences etc. There are lots of 'tricky to say' words in the English language but we all get there eventually with a bit of effort so there is no reason we can't learn someone's name.

I have married into a surname that’s often pronounced wrong, I don’t bother correcting any more.

All my DC have Arabic names but only my youngest Dcs names gets pronounced wrong. She's only 15 months and sometimes I wish I'd gone with the other name choice we had which was more unique and not one which could be said wrong.
I do correct people but mostly think it's laziness because it's not actually a difficult name to say and the version that it is mispronounced by has a completely different spelling.
Its like Marie and Mary, both have their own pronunciation and you wouldn't normally mix them up

My identical twins stopped correcting people... drives me mad! What hope do other people have of learning their names if they answer to each other’s?!

I have a surname which is mispronounced 99% of the time. It's a single syllable, but totally throws people. A lot of people ask how to say it. A lot of people expect me to be Chinese (I'm not) and a lot of people ask me where it comes from. Given I've traced that line of my family tree back to the 1500s and everyone was English... that's my answer!

Weirdly, people always extend my name - for example, my official name is Elizabeth, I go by Beth, but they insist on calling me Bethan. I don't correct, I just hope they'll pick up the right name eventually.

DD has an unusual name though (Welsh) and I do correct people for her if they're way out and if they are likely to see her again (she's too little to do it herself). Partly I do it because it's part of her heritage, and I think people should make the effort!

I’ve given up. Unless it’s someone I’m likely to be friends with or see regularly I don’t bother.

My name is really unusual, never met another one and even after telling someone how to pronounce it they often go back to how they think it should be pronounced. I correct people about half of the time when I can be bothered. If I am never going to see the person again I often don't bother as too much hassle to correct it over and over. Saying that there is someone who I didn't bother to correct as saw them very infrequently, they then moved near me and I see them pretty much every day and they say it wrong all the time, as I never corrected them when I first met them and left it at the time feels way to awkward to do it now! Saying that I like having an unusual name.

Someone who was my boss for FOUR years still managed to call me with an incorrect name. My name ends in silent E but she would always end it with an A. It isn't an unusual name nor is it massively common. She must have seen it hundreds of times in written form and heard others in the office say it😬

Yes. Always. In all circumstances! I have a short, simple English name which has two spellings and two corresponding pronunciations. My parents mixed them, so I have been mispronounced and/or misspelt all my life!

Usually depend on who it is. If I am going to have frequent contact with them then yes as it would bug me. But just a once passing thing then not worth the effort.

Normally, yes, it’s reflexive.

My parents gave me the wrong spelling for the pronunciation they wanted. This means my name is often spelled wrong (i.e. how it's pronounced) or pronounced wrong (i.e. how it's written). I CBA correcting spelling, but I always mention very matter of fact that "it's actually pronounced Y, even though it's spelled X" if it's mispronounced. I do it immediately, even with people I might not meet again, as waiting just makes it more awkward when it eventually does come out.

My first name and surname are commonly misspelt/mispronounced. My first name is mostly misspelt due to autocorrect/a famous person with a similar spelling so that doesn't bother me too much but my surname is one letter away from a more common surname and I always correct people on that.

I am terrible at getting names wrong. Particularly if I get it wrong once I almost never will be confident in remembering it. I am pretty dyspraxic and this might have something to do with it coincidentally l also have a name that is very easy to get wrong. I often can't even hear it when people say it wrong (think Maria Vs Mariah)

My first name is very common, but gets pronounced wrongly all the time, especially with some regional accents, which naturally drop a letter. - that really doesn't bother me and I would never correct.

It's more irritating when both my first name and surname (another common english word) is repeatedly spelt incorrectly on work Emails. My full name is my Email, and my full name is on the signature. It's a bit thoughtless really.

If it’s someone I’m going to see a lot, I give them my initials and say ‘Call me this’. I’m very keen on ensuring that I call children the right name and the right pronunciation. As a teacher, I think it’s extremely important to say their names correctly.

I have a name which is common in one of my countries languages, but it’s very much now a dying language so in normal life nobody knows how to say it.

Everybody I’ve ever encountered gets it wrong unless they know someone else with that name already (v rare). People who hear it assume they have heard a different - similar -name and run with that, even when I’ve just said it my way two seconds before. Very very often people correct me and say, ohhhh, you meant ‘X name’ as though it’s genuinely likely I had forgotten my name or gotten it wrong. People who read it rather than hear it inevitably have a slow panic in front of me as they try to sound it out and fail (its not English).

I never correct if I won’t see them again. Just smile politely and avoid awkwardness for them.

I correct - but I hate it for how it makes people feel- if I’ll see them again properly.

My least favourite is when someone who has used my name correctly for months or sometimes years reads it for the first time somewhere and starts calling me something else assuming they were wrong the whole time and I’ve never liked to say....

My kids have ‘normal’ names.

Dd name is a really common Ghanaian name that most people are familiar with, but we chose a variation that has became popular recently in Ghana and it is really difficult for British people.

Like Nathan being replaced with Nathaniel.

In the end we just let people use the really short version (ie Nat) and anyone who put the effort in to say her full name is on our Xmas card list lol.

My name is often said incorrectly. It is a variant of a more common name. When I was younger, I used to correct people all the time. Now, I don’t bother. I know who I am, my family and friends know who I am: that is enough.

I have a fairly common easy first name which gets misheard as a similar sounding common names. My maiden name was fairly unusual and I got into the habit of just mumbling it and then spelling it out very rapidly. Married surname is a very common first name. Mil told me I had to pronounce it in a posh accent overwise it gets misheard as the female version. Weirdly this really does work. Probably outed myself there.