To ask if you’ve got a name people say wrong do you correct them

[Tellmelies65]

My two both have Arabic names that are often said wrong. I’ve asked them why they don’t correct people who say their names wrongs they have said they can’t be bothered anymore. Is this common that people give up correcting people? I have a name that’s very common so have never been in that position.

Last name. Friendly people I make a joke and help or just ignore; when people are just being rude / racist then I passively aggressively correct very slowly.

I don't correct people that I'm unlikely to interact with again unless it matters e.g. at the bank

My surname is Arabic and always mis pronounced

No one gets my name right. I don't bother correcting them.

I can't be arsed anymore with my first name- I also have a dodgy surname 🙄🙄

Nah, if you say something that sounds even remotely like my name I'll answer. People don't say the right name after you correct them it's just awkward.

On the phone I just say my name with as the english version (which I don't like). In person I shorten it.

My surname is very difficult to pronounce. I only correct people who I will be in contact with frequently otherwise I just think, ah that’s close enough.

My first name is unusual to the point of being the only one in this country (uk) to have it. It is difficult to pronounce and usually takes 3-4 goes to get it correct.
My friends have always simplified it and slightly shortened it to a similar common name.
I really like my name but can’t be bothered to correct.
It’s their name and their future. You gave it to them.
Hopefully they are comfortable with them!

Both my DC have long names (from DH's language) that we picked so that the shortened versions were very easy to pronounce by others (2/3 very easy syllables, like 'Ta' 'Di 'So' etc) . But people still mispronounce them anyway as the names are unusual. DS1 corrects them every time. He also pronounces the last syllable wrong though . We just leave him to it, but we say it correctly when addressing him.

I have a first name that can be pronounced 3 different ways and mine is probably the least common, so most people meeting me for the first time will pronounce it differently to how I do. I've always been quite shy and find it awkward to correct people, but I am getting better at it. The situation just doesn't work sometimes though, e.g. in a meeting when someone is saying my name wrongly mid-sentence before moving on to something else, and it feels rude to butt in and correct them, but then it's even more awkward to ever correct them as if you do on a later occasion some people are that you didn't the first time! I've also had people tell me I'm pronouncing my own name wrongly, that I should change it by deed poll to the 'correct' pronunciation and "but your name is really".

@PishFood : Apparently known as a " pharyngeal fricative" - who knew? - I've just Googled it - I'm not clever but I do have a relative with an Arabic name which is mangled by most of us, other than his dear wife.
Accents do impact how words are pronounced.
DH, for example, is Scots and that "r" rolling thing that is inherent in a Scottish accent makes him pronounce relative's name better (though still not as it should be) than the rest of us.

I'm frequently mis-named by folk.
My name isn't difficult to pronounce, but is old fashioned, so not too many of us about.
A bit like the "Kayleigh" /"Katie" example as a pp.

I don't correct if I'm not going to have regular contact with the mis-pronouncer.
It's not important to me, though, I accept that others may feel differently.

My name without one letter is a different name. Rarely used by mistake but I always correct. Same if it gets shortened....

If it isn't your name why would you accept it wrong?

@omg35

I don't correct people anymore. I tend to go by a shortened version of my first name that people tend to find easier and name my children names from the top 100 list so they won't have to struggle

Exactly the same for me

I've got an English name that is spelt very similar to another name and even when I introduce myself people often pronounce it the wrong way.

In often can't be bothered to correct and if it is someone I don't think I will see again I don't bother but sometimes people I don't correct end up in my life and it then becomes so awkward when they keep calling me the wrong name.

I have an Arabic name

It’s often mispronounced, it’s not deliberate

It doesn’t bother me (it does bother my mum) Only time I correct it is if it needs to be so my name is spelt correctly

Names pronounced differently with the same spelling make my brain hurt. Think Louis for example. I'm a teacher and find it so hard to link the spelling to the sound depending on the child.

It's the same with names where the letters don't seem to say the name. I taught a Leah who I expected to be Lee ah, but she pronounced it lay ah. Every single time I forgot for the first term.

I tell students to correct me as I need the reminder!

Yes. All the time . If it's a passing person (call centre etc ) then I won't correct them . If it's someone I will see again then I will .

My husband has a very long trick Arabic name which we shorten in the UK as impossible for many to prononce. Makes life easier and less awkward

Nope i correct them. every. single. time. I just instantly say it properly as soon as they say it wrong and people usually just apologise and we move on. It’s just an automatic thing now, I don’t even think about it.

And because I have an unusual name I’m really careful about making sure I pronounce others properly and always check if I’m not sure. To me it’s basic manners in a conversation to not only call people the correct name but to let them know if they’ve made an error

I get called Charlotte most of the time. I used to correct people but I don’t bother now.

I go by a shortened version of my name because some people not only mangle it but call me a completely different name that barely resembles my name despite me telling them. Only two people actually call me by my first name, a friend from secondary and another from uni so both I’ve known for over a decade. My parents and relatives call me a different shortened version than what others call me and how I introduce myself.

At this point, what someone calls me is the level of familiarity they are to me. I still get shocked when strangers actually say my first name correctly and that’s usually means it’s an important call like from the bank or doctors.

My name is constantly mispronounced and sometimes I correct other times I don't care

I do ask people how they pronounce their name even if it’s common because I know there are different pronunciations. I notice people smile when I do that.

I will admit naming our children was difficult because I’m from the States and my husband is a Geordie and the way I say names are softer than how he and his family said them.

When I was married the first time I had an Italian surname. Not difficult to pronounce, you literally say it the way it is written. I regularly had to correct people and the amount of mail I'd get with wildly incorrect spellings, even after spelling it out to people, was amazing! Got rid of the name before the ink dried in the divorce papers!