Am i over reacting to this message to DS

[Peanutbutterjelly10]

Me and ex have been split 4 years. DS is 4. He has my old phone with no 4g just WiFi which he can contact family members through WhatsApp. His dad sent him a voice not earlier about his dad " kicking a smelly cat over the fence"
I sent him a text saying can you please not say you're going to do that, our DS thought it was funny because you did and might think it's OK to kick cats.
He's saying I'm over reacting and I have no place to tell him what he can and can't joke about with our son. Apparently in taking it too seriously.
Far enough if it was an adult saying it to another because it would just (hopefully) be said as a joke. But our DS is 4 and impressionable. He's not to know it's suppose to be an actual joke is he?
Who's being unreasonable me or him?

Your 4 year old has WhatsApp 😄 you have bigger issues than this cat message.

It was a stupid thing to say but maybe you're taking it more seriously than he meant it?

I have to say, why the feck would a 4 year old have a phone??!!

uh yes YABU to say your FOUR year old has filtered access to his mobile ( ) as he heard a message you didn’t want him to. How’s that filtered? You know anyone could text/ send voice notes and photos to that number right? Unbelievable

This has got to be a wind up. Nobody in their right mind would give a 4 year old a phone.

Yeah sorry 4 year old with a phone is a no from me.

Filer ie delete idiotic messages like that. Get in the habit of clearing the chat so it doesn’t look odd.

He has his whole life to be using technology. A four year old needs to play. That’s the way they learn about life and their place in it. It’s how they make sense of their world. A phone has no place In the life of a four year old. Even for just WhatsApp. It was an unpleasant message for sure but that’s not the point.

[quote Peanutbutterjelly10]@rattlemehearties the only contacts on the phone are my parents, Dsis, me, his dad and his dad's parents and sisters. He can't spell yet so it's voice notes. Which i listen to. So it's not unfiltered.

Maybe I just fill annoyed at ex because I just know he's not a nice person and his morals are rubbish. I would hate my DS to be anything like him[/quote]
So it's not unfiltered

It seems to be if you didn't hear this first ....?

I would take the phone off your 4 yr old. He’s too little for access that hasn't been vetted through you. Your ex is an eejit.

This must be a joke....

A phone? At FOUR????

Giving a 4 year old a phone is ridiculous.

YABU for giving a 4yo a phone 🤦‍♀️

Bin the phone. Are you 17 or something. Wait 7 years. Take a parenting class. Get him a phone then for secondary school.

I sense bullshit. No sensible adult would thinks it's ok for a 4 year old to have a phone.