DH says I'm being petty;but am I really?
He won't make the bed and it drives me insane because he trashes it.
He is in general a lazy inconsiderate turd who considers housework of any kind to be woman's work and beneath him.
He works several nights a week on a night shift meaning I have the bed at night,him in the day.I get with the kids,I make the bed because it was drilled into me by my mum.I also feel it's quite welcoming to come to bed to a made bed.
I come to bed most nights to an absolute mess.
*duvet chucked on the floor/half hanging off the bed
*The duvet in a ball at the bottom of the duvet cover
*both the sheet and mattress protector half pulled off and in the middle of the mattress;I have deep sheets/mattress protector that are tucked right underneath
*pillow cases pushed slightly off pillows
*My pillows chucked on the floor or piled on top of his (I don't like him using my pillows as he smokes and I don't and he leaves the smell of cigarette smoke on them)
Going to bed most nights is a chore as I have to remake the bed.I hate it;it really irritates me.
When I asked him to not leave the bed in a mess he denies doing/says I'm whining/nagging him/I'm being ridiculous/petty/he doesn't see what my problem is
It's not me is it but it's not normal to leave a bed in that state?;even the kids leave a tidier bed than him;he reminds me of dog in its bed with bedding strewn everywhere.