To not want lingerie for Xmas?

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Would you be happy to get lingerie for Xmas if you hadn't asked for it?

DH went off sex 10 years ago. I’d be fucking delighted personally (and very surprised.

I wouldn't want lingerie, would rather choose anything like that myself. But I would be really pleased with lovely pyjamas or a posh dressing gown. Not sexy ones though. Like Toast pyjamas or similar.

dh bought me undies once. they were itchy and scratchy and i actually couldn't wait to get them off.

he's bought me vouchers since for local department store which sells undies, so i can go in and choose my own. usually end up with practical every day bras but its nice to not have to spend out myself.

If its bedroom underwear I think the person wearing it should be the one buying it.

When first together dh then db got me some lovely underwear. This year I'm getting two lovely exercise bras I've bought (and tried on 😂). How times change.

Cosy or cute things yes , sexy uncomfortable porn like stuff, a big no-no.

Nope. I'm safe enough, DH wouldn't have a clue what to buy.

Would depend on the lingerie and how it was done.

If it was nice quality stuff which I could wear for me, and was one of several presents then yes I’d love it.

If it was very porny looking (red/crotchless) and was followed by winks and questions about when I was going to wear it it wouldn’t see the light of day.

Wow, I'd be astonished at any man being so sexist as buying lingerie as a present - it is for their serial pleasure & reduces the recipient to satisfying the givers sexual drive.

No, as it would be a present for me it would be for him. If I need underwear I buy it myself and it needs to be comfortable and practical.

Laughed at wireless bra up thread....sound like it's part of the internet of things.

Stripey My bras are north of £70, so having one in a new colour for Christmas is fine. I chose it, ordered it, and dh has paid for it. It's wired, so keeps everything where it should be, and at 54, if that's what I want for Christmas, that's what I'll have. It saves him having to think about what to get me, and I have jewellery and perfume already.

As long as it wasn’t my only present. Like the others, it’s more of a present for him. Wouldn’t say no if it were an extra present though.

Do men actually do this other then in terrible films?!

My DH would never buy me sexy underwear I would tell him to wear it himself if he wants some sort of parade! He has bought me thermal underwear/base layers for skiing on my ask though! thermals and ski socks is a hot look I reckon

No. Not for Christmas. Because it just shows the guy is mainly thinking about himself...even on that one day of the year.

Unless it was something I had particularly requested I would not be pleased

Well lingerie doesn't necessarily mean sexy underwear, so if it's just nice, good quality knickers or bra that can be worn all day, it's not just a present for him, is it. Saying that, the chances of randomly buying a bra that I like and fits well are pretty slim.

I wouldnt mind, but to be honest I doubt DH would get the size right. I unexpectedly had to stay in hospital after DD was born and asked him to buy me some new pyjamas to cheer me up. I kid you not, he rocked up with fucking hot pants. You can imagine how amazing they looked on a woman who had just given birth with the mattress sized sanitary towels you need.

Midwives found it funny though. The daft git.

I've bought my DH lingerie for me. He asked for it 🤷‍♀️ but I'd be a bit if it was bought as a present for me

No. That gift is not for you. Would be selfish.

It depends if you LIKE lingerie or not.

If you don't, it's a shit gift. If you do, it's a great gift.

I like fancy lingerie but it's not something I often have the money to prioritise buying for myself so I'd be pretty happy!

I think it’s a shit gift, only because I don’t wear sexy undies, maybe when I was in my early 20’s but not now, it’s something you wear for your partner so it would seem wrong to receiving it as a gift, you wearing it should be the gift to him (if you like that sort of thing).

I have a male friend who seems to think the most romantic thing is buying underwear for random women he fancies without finding out their size. I would find it really offensive if someone bought me underwear in a smaller size than I actually am and from a tacky place like Anne summer.

Depends who it’s from I guess! I got some edible underwear as a secret Santa gift at work (medium sized, very close all female team) which I found absolutely hilarious! If my long term partner bought me the same gift, I would not have been impressed!

Tasteful wearable nice bra & pants sets etc yes BUT subject to seriously getting the size right. DH has form for failure to appreciate Im 35 with two kids and buying the size I wore at 23/size 8.its mortifying when something simply doesnt fit.

I'm an asshole.

It's not lingerie. It's PJs, which I've been moaning about not having for ages.

In my defense, I have about 200 items of lingerie (almost all unworn; tiny lacy scraps that don't fit and feel like they've turned into bees when you put jeans on over them) that DH has bought for me over the past 5 years, some of which come from the same shop, so I had reason to jump to conclusions.

Oooh I hope they're satin