To not want lingerie for Xmas?

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Would you be happy to get lingerie for Xmas if you hadn't asked for it?

It depends on the lingerie. If it was 1) the sort of thing I'd wear "everyday" eg an Under Armour sports bra or merino wool base layers, and 2) was the right size, then OK. But if it was "sexy" I'd be cross because, as PPs have said, it's a present for him not me (not that I'm adverse to sexy lingerie per se).

My husband has bought me something that is not suitable to be opened in front of the DC..........and I think a Ninja.

I wouldn’t have a problem with it, but I love nice lingerie so would think it’s a thing for me as much as my partner. If it didn’t fit right or I didn’t like it, I’d just exchange it though as most stores would have something to my taste. I’m genuinely shocked to find so many women who wouldn’t regard this as proper gift and think it is only for their partners, I wear nice underwear for myself and always have (even when single for years on end and not just for nights out but always).

As long as I had stuff that was for me too, I would be happy.

It's a gift for him, not for me.

YANBU if that’s not something you enjoy. I’d love to receive some. I wear nice underwear for myself more than I do for DH, plus being a stupid size makes my bras expensive!

Not if I didn’t want it - but if someone bought me a lovely wireless bra with some matching comfy pants I’d be happy.

No,, but have run out of tights,and the village shop don't sell them.!

Yes as long as it's an extra gift and not my main one, as really it's for both of us!

Yes. For Xmas eve gift if he cooks dinner etc

It’s never happened, being bought undies, but I wouldn’t mind if it fit. I like nice undercrackers even the fancy bed ones 🤷🏻‍♀️

I usually get some nice lingerie - usually something sexy but more than I’d usually spend. It’s not either of our gift, though... whoever chooses and buys it wraps it up, but it’s an extra present to us both. Like the Christmas wine or a new board game or whatever!

I like it. He pays good attention to what I like and what fits... I think I’d be annoyed if it was my only present though. It’s not a present for me, it’s a present for us.

I'd be happy if it was nice, high end stuff that he knew I'd like. I rarely buy myself nice underwear.

If it was the only present or cheap shit, I'd be annoyed.

I'd love to get some sexy underwear as a present. I'm single though so I have to buy my own which is a bit rubbish.

I think it depends on the person. Sexy underwear as a present would be a terrible idea for someone who has issues with their body whether it's body dysmorphia or just lack of confidence and self esteem. Also a terrible idea for those who prefer big Bridget Jones knickers.

No I never wear “posh/dressy” lingerie, it’s all functional here. DH wouldn’t have a clue either so it’s just not something I worry about.

What I don’t get is how someone thinks that it’s ok to give such an intimate item for Christmas. It’s not exactly what I would want to open in front of the children or in laws.

No

Also, I like wearing nice underwear, it makes me feel better about myself. I buy it for myself and wear it for myself. I'd never wear it just for a man. If a man ever bought me underwear, I wouldn't view it as a present for him unless he was the one wearing it?!

I'd probably be a bit at crotchless knickers or a peephole bra but a nice lacy set from my favourite brand would definitely be a pleasant surprise. A nice bra and knickers set is something I consider a luxury for me, OK I'm sure DH would appreciate it as well but I definitely see it as being for me and not him.

After I started going out with my boyfriend (now husband) my brother told him he should get me some lacy lingerie for Christmas as that was tradition. He was away for Christmas and when we opened presents at home my mum gave me his presents, all very nice and then handed me a soft wrapped package from him. Could have burnt the house down I was so red. I had to open it in front of my parents and brother. The label said 'as 'Mike' says its tradition. I was dreading it but opened the package - a thermal vest and thermal pants (correct size). We did a lot of outdoors stuff and I was always cold. Family thought it funny but I must say they did make a difference and I bought some more sets myself.

Apart from that time he's only bought new underwear for me when I've been in hospital and it was functional rather than 'intimate'.

Nope. I’ve told DH never to do this because it’s definitely a present for him rather than me and he knows it.

In the unlikely event he picked something comfortable that fit well I'd be delighted. I don't think he'd risk it though. Too much chance he'd get the wrong size. He'd be more likely to get me a voucher so I could choose for myself.

If my aunt bought me a multipack of my favourite knickers from Sainsbury's I'd be delighted!

I’d be furious at that for my Christmas present. Nope! I want something luxurious that is a genuine treat for me as a person. Nothing that’s either for practical use OR for sexy time.

If he bought it as an extra surprise for us to enjoy then I’d happily model it for him though! We do buy each other little gifts, flowers or nice bottles of wine randomly throughout the year to enjoy together, it’s just a nice thing to do in a relationship.

I'd be delighted to receive it from anyone. It's my very favourite thing

Generally no. It's a minefield of a present. Only for buyers who really no their stuff.

...KNOW their stuff