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I Nearly Murdered DP This Morning...

52 replies

MitziK · 23/12/2020 11:37

I'm glad I didn't, obviously, but Fucking Hell.

For context, Stuff Happened in my past (a lot of Stuff ) and combining that with Christmas, working in a plague infested school, a couple of attempted break ins that failed in the last five years, no more than 4-5 hours' sleep a night since September, knowing I'm CV, etc, etc, I sleep the sleep of the Dead once I finally drop off somewhere between 1 and 3am until 5.45am. Dreams? Nah, I'd have to sleep long enough to remember having them.

Until I ended up not having to go to work because the school closed early (yep, Plague again). So I'm sort of sleeping longer and getting a few not very nice dreams. Suppose my brain's got to try and process all the shit at some point and six hours is long enough for it to start happening.

DP woke me up at about 5.30am getting up for work (not deliberately) and I went back to sleep (for a change, as that's when I get up for work normally). Cue one particularly lengthy and unpleasant dream with stuff from the past mixed in. All in Glorious Technicolor and with physical sensations. Marvellous.

At just past 9am, I wake up from deep sleep to what sounded like somebody forcing the front door. After enough time to be properly conscious, it wasn't another Amazon Man unleashing his inner 'I'm in The Sweeney' police raid knock, and it sounded as though they were ransacking downstairs. Only one thing to do in this situation, right? Deal with them by giving them the biggest shock of their life so they run back out of the front door.

I get up, grab the first thing to hand (folding music stand - don't ask) and silently pick my way around the creaking floorboards to the stairs. As I look down them, somebody dressed in all black emerges from behind the spare room door to my right. I howl like a Banshee's pet cat and, brandishing the folded up lump of steel, leap back, ready to smash the stand into the assailant's temple and shove them down the stairs - to see DP with his life currently flashing before his eyes.

He's come home from work as he isn't needed, faffed around opening the front door, clattered around like an utter twat so as to not wake me up and then didn't notice I'd got up because I apparently move like a sixteen stone Fucking Ninja in the house and he was obviously making more noise than usual because he was trying to be quiet. He most probably had his earphones in with Punk Music on at ear destroying volume downstairs anyhow

He got a very lengthy, loud and profanity strewn explanation of what I had thought was going on and what I thought of him for doing it. Had there been a bloke from the Beeb recording it, it would have sounded like I was speaking in Morse Code (I swear on here, not in person, as a rule).

He made me a (too strong) black coffee, brought Paracetamol as my head was banging from being woken up plus some toast and is now hiding upstairs being far more quiet than when he was trying to not wake me up. I'm not sure whether he's up there because he feels guilty about genuinely scaring the crap out of me or because I scared the crap out of him.

Anyhow, the AIBU;

Do I;

YABU: Apologise for scaring and swearing at him (he'll say it's fine)?

or

YANBU: Adopt the DTwatCat's method of dealing with anything vaguely undignified or potentially incriminating and pretend nothing has happened whilst becoming suddenly fascinated by the birds on the feeder in the garden?

I do recognise, of course, that had he come into the bedroom, I might have been equally alarmed, but at least I would have seen it was him instantly, rather than just as a dark shape moving towards me from out of my blind spot.

By the way, it's sort of lighthearted, but I genuinely thought we'd been broken into and I was in danger. Just not as much as he thought he was at the top of the stairs.

OP posts:
MistleTOEboughski · 23/12/2020 11:45

Hahaha you should definitely go the cat route and act like nothing out the ordinary has happened. Maybe a small medicinal brandy in the next cup of coffee?

Chanandlerbong01 · 23/12/2020 12:04

Ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha this is my favourite post! I don’t think an apology is needed though? Maybe if you had killed him you could have whispered a quiet sorry. I would mention you were defending the house for both of your sakes so you are therefore a hero!

HoomanMoomin · 23/12/2020 12:09

I would probably talk to him and apologise for nearly killing him. But not for swearing. He deserved the swearing.

UghNotThisAgain36 · 23/12/2020 12:11

I nearly killed my exH with a hammer once. He came home early from work and the kids were napping in the living room. I was in the garden shed and heard the frong door go. My claw hammer was the closest thing to hand. As I went through the back door he jumped out on me from the downstairs bathroom. He was apologetic eventually.

UghNotThisAgain36 · 23/12/2020 12:12

*front door

giantangryrooster · 23/12/2020 12:21

🤣

It's all his fault isn't it? So neither option, go for attack is the best defence (when you are a little to blame as well) as act offended and hurt Grin.

warmandtoasty2day · 23/12/2020 12:22

totally gob smacked by the scenario op can just picture it happening Grin

Nottherealslimshady · 23/12/2020 12:28

I would have done the same.

DH knows to announce his presence because the dog and I will attack.

He came in from a night out once without turning the light on or shouting he was here. Dog woke up and didn't recognise him because he smelled of other people and it was dark. She was at the top of the stairs barking, hunched and baring her teeth, (rottweiller, you wouldn't take your chances) he was at the bottom with his sweetest voice on saying "puppy it's me, its daddy, its daddy." I had to go turn the light on and tell her it was daddy, she got lots of praise Grin

HaudMaDug · 23/12/2020 12:29

I too have been the half naked bampot at the top of the stairs wielding my massive Maglight (that I keep under my pillow), threatening the poor guy I had staying over when all he did wrong was pop to the loo.

Dizzy1234 · 23/12/2020 12:43

I'm fucking crying here 😂 sixteen stone ninja 😂 you tell a funny story OP, cheered me right up.
^don't apologise tho, it's a sign of weakness 😉

LucyRipley · 23/12/2020 12:45

OP you are my hero!

VulvaPerson · 23/12/2020 12:46

This is well written, and am smiling despite it clearl being a stressful situaton for you!

I would apologise, but also expect an apology back for the reverse creeping jesus thing as he scared you as much as you scared him.

DSD is a creeping jesus, and she has scared the shit out of me multiple times by just seemingly floating to the spot right behind me, then I turn round and crap myself Hmm

Xmassprout · 23/12/2020 12:48

Sorry that did make me chuckle. I would have reacted in exactly the same way. My husband has learned the hard way he either needs to be quiet enough not to wake me, or be loud enough that I know its him. I used to work a lot of night shifts so there's been many a learning opportunity Grin

mbosnz · 23/12/2020 12:50

I believe that DH ought to be thanking you for the learning and personal growth opportunity you have provided him with. . .

Tal45 · 23/12/2020 12:51

I think you should discuss moving house! Sounds like an awful way to live x

Almostslimjim · 23/12/2020 12:57

I'm sure you'll both see the funny side, but yeah, I'd apologise with a stern DO NOT TRY AND NINJA YOUR WAY IN TO THE HOUSE AGAIN!

LH1987 · 23/12/2020 12:57

You should apologise but it’s fairly understandable your reaction. If you ever go to kill someone, probably need a little apology 🤣

Bubble20203 · 23/12/2020 12:59

I howl like a Banshee's pet cat and, brandishing the folded up lump of steel, leap back, ready to smash the stand into the assailant's temple and shove them down the stairs - to see DP with his life currently flashing before his eyes.

You're not the only one howling OP, this is brilliant just not for your DP Grin

You have my sympathy regarding the sleep/bad dreams, I have had a week of awful ones that affect me for the rest of the day Flowers

Canwecancel2020 · 23/12/2020 13:00

You should write sitcoms Xmas Grin

FooFighter99 · 23/12/2020 13:02

That's by far the best thing I've ever read on MN

I do hope you're ok though OP - I've had a few dreams like that, and I've been frozen and then woken up sobbing - so I know how scarily real they can feel

I'm sure DH doesn't need an apology, but if you're still feeling guilty, make him a brew and give him a cuddle

BloggersBlog · 23/12/2020 13:12

I hope you are an English or drama teach in the plague school - you are wasted otherwise! Brilliantly written Grin

BloggersBlog · 23/12/2020 13:12

teacher need lessons myself

MitziK · 23/12/2020 13:14

Thank you, everyone - he's come down (after being strangely fascinated by the activities of the birds in the garden, apparently Hmm ) and, after putting out some fatballs, this time picking his way through the plants like the Childcatcher, he's brought me tea in my favourite mug, given me a hug and apologised.

So I apologised, too. Seemed only right as he conceded first.

I wonder if this why US sitcoms have people calling 'Hey Honey, I'm home' from the front door - so they don't get themselves shot?

OP posts:
Mustbe3ormorecharacters · 23/12/2020 13:15

I understand this is light hearted and well written BUT you do realise you can’t kill someone for stealing from you? If he had been a burglar and you had killed him you would most likely be arrested.

Bathroom12345 · 23/12/2020 13:15

I am interested in the rottie. They are very good guard dogs and ours who has now gone to Rainbow Bridge only really barked ONCE when someone was in our front garden looking into the car.

My DH rushed out with her shouting 'rottweiler loose, run for your life'.

Bar that situation she didnt make a sound, the postman didnt think we even had a dog. She wouldnt bark at the door bell although any visitors would come and and turn around she would be silently behind them!

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