to ask the boy who is now a man who smashed my front teeth out when I was nine to pay for the dental work I now need?

[hunkermunker]

I know I'm being unreasonable.

But I really, really would love to present him with a bill for it.

are you still in touch with him then?
was it done deliberatly?

do you really think he would pay?

How old are you now, Hunker? Difficult to know whether to try the prisons or the YO service first.

Oh, I know how to find him.

But it's not reasonable, is it?!

He was giving me the bumps on a seesaw and I was shouting at him to stop and then I lost my grip and went over the hand grip thingummy and landed teeth first on the seesaw

well, resonable is as reasonable does. Reasonable to want to, certainly. If he is loadfed, reasonable to do so too.

Oh now then, that was an accident. Y ou have seen first hand the results of Boyful Exuberence

I've since had two lots of teeth being built up (with pins shoved far into the pulpy bit in the middle to build up around iyswim), root canal work and, when I was old enough, crowns, which sorely need replacing.

Well, yes, it was boyful exuberance. I did say it was unreasonable

Bill him. Git.

Was he sorry at the time?

Sorry Hunker. Irritating I know.

Might he not have been below the age of criminal or indeed any other form of responsibility?

I often fantasise about writing to the dentist who informed me, when I was an impressionable young teen, that he could make my teeth look prettier if I allowed him to cap them. I din't realise up to that point that my teeth were ugly and nor did I realise that it meant grinding off two healthy teeth down to witchy spikes then putting false ones on top which are ill fitting, never the same colour as my real teeth and keep coming out to need replacing. Also my gum is receding where the caps are.

I got two veneers and a crown done when preg with dd2.

Thank feck it saved me a fortune.

It is a pita. I smashed the top one (2nd one from the middle) playing british bulldogs (promptly banned ) then middle two I killed the roots and they went grey and leaned backwards. 3 sets of root treatment, one hospital surgery to treat an infection in the crowned one. Veneers so thick I ended up with a slight lisp.

I don't even know who pushed me .

YANBU

I don't know if he was sorry at the time. How strange. I was probably sobbing too much. I still remember having the pathetic little bits of teeth in my hand and feeling the horrifyingly sharp edges where my previously smooth just-grown teeth had been.

Spider, I am livid on your behalf! How dare a dentist do that?! I'd speak for you in a court of law should you decide to murder him.

Quattro, dunno!

Icarus - omg, you poor thing! I would've had mine done when I was pg, but I was too scared of the dentist. I've been trying to pluck up courage since 2003 to go to the dentist... Actually, it was this whole incident that gave me my dentist phobia, so even more reason to send him the bill, eh?!

I reckon a bill would teach him about how actions have consequences, even if he's in his thirties now.....

It's never too late to learn that lesson.

Alternatively you could bill his parents for not teaching him that he shouldn't torment little girls.

project icarus, are we allowed to do that when pregnant? isn't it cosmetic?

I apparently broke the nerve in half. i was carted into the school screaming. Both in pain and "I've got a performance tonight" (childrens theatre lol!)

I made so much noise the headmaster called my mum to say he would just bring me home rather than waiting for her to come up . Apparently he rang the doorbell and when my mum answered it he smiled lifted me in and shut the door behind me . I think I was about 10.

It took about three years for the full damage to become visible. I was 13 had v thick glasses, skinny and had a bad haircut.

My dentist suggested braces (for about 3 years and still wouldn't fix the discolouration). I promptly howled the place down while indicating my various teenage defects. The lovely man(who happened to be quite young, red haired with thick glasses) promptly did crowns and veneers instead - no charge.

I looove dentists!

How funny - usually when people post in this subject, they don't think they are being unreasonable, yet they're often told they really are.

Yet I started this saying I knew I was being unreasonable and I have people telling me I'm not!

Apparently so Aitch . In my defence they did need replacing.

I did pay for the bleaching on my other teeth though so I could get nice shiny whiter ones.

you were pg at 10?

Aitch, I did have a fleeting "hmm, three children might not be impossible..." thought at Icarus's post re pregnancy dental work!

Icarus, my dentist proclaimed my new crowns a superb colour match (they weren't) and said how pleased he was with them (despite there being a small, visible hole at the top margin of the left one). He was a twat.

i had my porcelain cap thing put in when i was 10 and it's rubbish but it's never budged over 25 years.

Yet more coincidences, Aitch (linked your blog today, btw, on wordpress).

why do they need replacing? on what grounds?

I mean in a comment on another blog, not just mine.