I was born in the 1960's in the post industrial Midlands...I was in the top stream at school but there was no suggestion of higher (or further) education, as it was the 1980s with 1 in 10 people unemployed.
I'd imagine it was different in better off areas but women still had to leave jobs upon marriage and couldn't access finance independently.
You don’t say when in the sixties you were born, but let’s say it was 1965. You would have been sitting your O Levels in 1981. If you were in the top stream you’d have been entered for O Levels rather than CSEs.
It’s very likely that the school you were at was a comprehensive rather than a secondary modern.
I’m sorry, but I don’t believe that any comprehensive school in 1981 would not have told a bright pupil about higher education. The information was everywhere. I was born in 1971 and went to a comp in a poor part of Manchester. I was bombarded with information about university from the age of 15. It’s the same story for most of the people I studied with, and later worked with, who came from from similar backgrounds.
The bit about your not being told about higher education ‘because it was the 1980s with 1 in 10 people unemployed’ doesn’t make sense. The first does not logically follow the second. In fact, in the early 80s unemployed people were actually encouraged into further education.
As for your last paragraph: what era are you talking about, when women were forced out of jobs on marriage? That certainly wasn’t the 1980s. As a PP noted, the marriage bar was legislated against in the 1940s.