Resignation regret

[Noidontwantmootard]

I’m so upset with myself. I have no child care other than my teen dd to babysit who just leaves tv on all day. I feel deep sadness that I resigned without thinking it through . Now I want to cry. AIBU to try and take it back? Or is tv baby sitting actually a good reason to resign?
Yes resign is best
No you fool tv all day is ok 🙄.

What age are the dc that your teen is sitting for?

7

& 3. Pressed send too soon

It’s pretty unreasonable to expect a teenager to look after her siblings. Occasionally is fine, but it can’t be your main childcare arrangement. You’re responsible for caring for your younger children, not her. If that means you can’t work then unfortunately that’s the way it is.

Hopefully you can find another job which is more compatible with caring for your children.

Is she just taking care of them for an hour or two between school/nursery finishing and you getting home? In which case it won’t kill them, and if you need to work you need to work - just keep eye out for something better.

It depends, can you afford to resign?

You are expecting your 7 year old to look after your 3 year old?!

Read that wrong! Too early!

No - she has a teen daughter who is expected to look after the 7yo and the 3yo.

Your post is very unclear. Is your teen your only childcare? Do they go to school? What was your contingency plan for after you resign?

How old is your teen and are you paying her?

What is your normal school holiday childcare arrangement? What did you use for childcare when the 7 year old was pre school age?

We need more information.

A few days of TV as a temporary solution to an exceptional situation isn’t the end of the world and certainly not worth resigning over. But using your teenager as a regular form of childcare is absolutely unacceptable

Are you single or is there another salary coming into the household?

Why do people post such scant and difficult to understand OPs?

Does the teen have 3yo all day? Is this during school hols? As pp said how old is teen and whats the times that they are doing childcare

As others have said- how long is this for? Daily and all holidays? Can you afford to be jobless for the foreseeable future, as holidays will always be an issue?

Like others said, it depends on the situation (and how old your teen is). I know how hard it is (I'm a single parent too).

Is your teen 13 or 19?

Could you get a childminder?

Is your 13 year old kid also your main source of childcare? Cause that's reallllllly not ok, OP.

YABU - not for resigning but for ever thinking a 13 year old could be your only childcare.

I don't think it's fair to make a teen sibling babysit, unless it's a one off evening or something.

You cant work without suitable childcare provision.

Instead of resigning could you have afforded a childminder?

As others have said its not fair to give a teenager responsibility for your two littlest. And not fair to complain when they put them in front of telly. They arent childcare professionals.

Whats your job. Can you call them to explain you resigned as you have no childcare and see what help they suggest.

@turnthebiglightoff and @DivGirl Op hasn’t said she has a 13 year old who babysits.

What is it with people not reading and adding their own bits of detail

YABU to expect a teen to be your main childcare. She needs to have a normal teen life too.

If you're still serving your notice, you could try to work out some alternative childcare options and have a discussion with your boss to explain that you'd had these issues but you think you've found a workable solution so would like to keep working for them..? The worst they can do is say no, but if you do nothing then time will pass and your job will end anyway.