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Meeting up with someone - Covid symptoms

34 replies

Skyshale · 19/12/2020 09:32

DH and I had arranged to meet my B & SIL tomorrow, for a socially distanced walk somewhere in the country.

However last night we got a text off BIL to say he has Covid symptoms and is awaiting test results.

We have cancelled them, which I feel dreadful about as we haven't seen them since early March. Our children were really looking forward to seeing each other again.

I can't help but think we could have met them, with it being outside? If we didn't hug or anything?

We have no plans to see them now but I feel a bit miffed really.

Was I BU to cancel or would others have carried on with the arrangement as planned? There would have been no physical interaction or meeting indoors.

OP posts:
Fairymad · 19/12/2020 09:33

You would have been very unreasonable to meet them especially outside seeing as he should not be outside, isolating with symptoms means not leaving the house!

Original poster
Skyshale · 19/12/2020 09:36

@Fairymad thanks for the head wobble. As I said, there is no plan to go ahead with the arrangements. I was curious to see what others would do in this situation.

OP posts:
BigPlanes · 19/12/2020 09:36

No meeting them would have been ridiculous.

This has happened to us several times, joys of small children!

eeyore228 · 19/12/2020 09:37

I wouldn’t. He shouldn’t be out until he gets his result. So not even something that should be a problem for you x

CodenameVillanelle · 19/12/2020 09:37

You would be ridiculous to meet someone with actual covid symptoms. They shouldn't be leaving their house for one thing.

nellyburt · 19/12/2020 09:38

Of course you shouldn’t meet. Your BIL has been sensible.

Original poster
Skyshale · 19/12/2020 09:38

Thanks everyone. I agree, just wanted to see if I was being overly sensitive.

OP posts:
Diddlysquatty · 19/12/2020 09:39

You shouldn’t have cancelled them.... he should’ve cancelled you because he’s not meant to be going outside even for exercise until he gets the test results.
What a weird thread!

MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 19/12/2020 09:40

He shouldn't even be going out apart from to get tested so it's a no brainer really.

londongirl12 · 19/12/2020 09:41

Yes don't be ridiculous. Of course it's right to cancel

Neverbeme · 19/12/2020 09:43

Eh? You know someone with symptoms can’t go out and meet people.

CodenameVillanelle · 19/12/2020 09:44

@Skyshale

Thanks everyone. I agree, just wanted to see if I was being overly sensitive.
Literally how can anyone after 10 months of covid think it might be overly sensitive to cancel plans with someone who has symptoms? How??
Hidethecrisps · 19/12/2020 09:45

Of course cancelling is the best thing to do. However, he may get a negative result back today so perhaps keep your fingers crossed and if that is the case maybe you can go ahead? What's the current timescale on tests in your area? If he has a positive or no result back you must not meet though obviously he needs to stay inside and isolate.

1FootInTheRave · 19/12/2020 09:53

Is this a joke?

InTheDrunkTank · 19/12/2020 09:59

As others have said OP you definitely can't meet them and I'm glad you immediately accepted that (I hope we won't have pages and pages of people who haven't seen your reply).

Could you do something else instead though? Maybe a game of shirades or pictionary over zoom?

rainbowstardrops · 19/12/2020 10:01

Would your brother and SIL have still been happy to meet up???
If so, this is why we're all in the shit.

Houseplantmad · 19/12/2020 10:02

This new strain is particularly virulent and much more contagious than the original (according to a virologist I heard interviewed last night) so your BIL shouldn't be going anywhere.
I can't believe the spread in our area in the past two weeks. Previously I'd only known of a handful of people with it since March, now we know of so many families who have it. It seems to be spreading like wildfire and very easily.

agapanthus1979 · 19/12/2020 10:06

Why are people even having to question the idea of not meeting someone with bloody symptoms??There is nothing to debate or ponder here. I'm sorry, I don't want to sound harsh, but I am flabbergasted that you would even think for half a second of doing anything other than cancelling.
This makes me despair. No wonder we're in the shit....

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 19/12/2020 10:12

I despair that you even questioned this!
Corona threads the last couple of days have made me realise it's stupidity, not just government incompetence that's getting us nowhere!

agapanthus1979 · 19/12/2020 10:33

@Thehogfatherstolemycurry
Yep.

SomewhereEast · 19/12/2020 10:47

I'm very not Corona-anxious, but avoiding socialising when you have possible symptoms does seem a bit of an obvious one to me!

nosswith · 19/12/2020 10:48

You have made the right decision to cancel.

LaceyBetty · 19/12/2020 10:49

I would never meet someone with symptoms anywhere.

Brighterthansunflowers · 19/12/2020 10:51

How the hell is this even a question after 10 months???

He has symptoms. He needs to isolate and not leave his home and not meet up with anyone. Everyone in his household also needs to isolate and not leave the home and not meet up with anyone.

HikeForward · 19/12/2020 10:53

Meeting up would have been very silly and irresponsible (and illegal as I think they have to isolate if he’s awaiting a covid result).

You did the right thing to cancel!