To be scared of a refuge

[Chickencuddle]

I may need to go into a refuge.
But I feel like a fraud and that I dont really need one. I want to get out of this relationship as husband sexually abuses me by previously forcing me to have sex many different times and then recently touching me when I'm asleep.
Does things I dont like and have explained I dont like. Such as grabbing my fat on my stomach.
Trying to be sexual around the children. Not in full view but nearby.
I think he can be unfair to children and not listen to them. He can be rigid and inflexible but not sure if anything is abuse with them. But I definitely dont like the way he parents.
I feel like I'm no an emergency but dont know what other way i can leave
Womens aid have offered me a place in a refuge when I'm ready.
I'm scared for the kids will they be traumatised. We will have to move quite a way away. What about school?
What happens next?
What's the right thing to do

Well can you get this sorry piece of shit out of the house

Why do the women always need to go

Why was I bloody homeless with a7week old while he had a warm safe clean apartment

This side of DV makes my blood boil

O p I feel your pain
He is doing awful things to all of you i am sorry if I sound harsh

Could you rent somewhere possibly? Take a short term loan for some of the rent and maybe qualify for benefits ?? Sorry just throwing out suggestions

Anyone else got any????

Your children don’t understand the context of why is happening atm, but they will know the way it makes them feel. You need to protect them from that.
It’s not easy to stay, or to leave. But at least your life will be your own. You can have sex when you want not when someone just takes it.
He is controlling you, you probably comply to keep the peace. That is why you feel it’s not “dramtic”. What about when you decide you’ve had enough and say no?
I lived in a rufuge, it’s a safe space for women and children to get back on their feet. Is your home a safe space?? Everything else in your life means nothing if you and your dc are not safe, emotionally and physically.

@Lemmeout 100 per cent yes

Poor you !!

Plus these innocent kids seeing this

When are you able to get out?
If memory serves me correct I'm not that far from you

I can try to help!?
Please don't leave the pets

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Thank you all so much for suggestions and dublin girl for saying you can help. That's so kind I just dknt know what to do atm. Going to take some time to think and my WA support worker is back in work in a few days I will talk to her too.

Ok

Just remember it won't get better

And the longer you stay the harder it can be to leave

It is not fair on you or your kids !!
How dare he !!!!