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To really dislike Xmas cards (well any cards)

61 replies

Blendiful · 17/12/2020 19:42

People keep sending us Christmas cards. We don’t do Christmas cards, or any cards. And most of the people sending them know this, as they don’t get any from us!

Sometimes do a hand made card from the kids if someone particularly wants one. But generally no. I find them a huge waste of money, example a birthday 15 cards averaging £2 each, £30, in the bin the following day. I would rather have the £30 to put to better use, or people keep their £30 Thankyou very much.

I know some people love them, but it’s almost like people think I might be offended if I don’t get one. But genuinely it would be absolutely fine.

Is it just me?

OP posts:
speakout · 17/12/2020 19:44

Each to their own.

I think it's a lovely tradition.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/12/2020 19:54

I like them - they are a part of my Christmas decorating. But each to their own.

ChalkDinosaur · 17/12/2020 19:58

Yanbu but you should tell people - I like sending cards but would happily not send them to people who don't want them - but only if I know!

WankPuffins · 17/12/2020 19:58

I'm with you. Never send any apart from to elderly relatives who find it terribly important.

I hate getting them. Waste of paper and money.

Ghostlyglow · 17/12/2020 19:58

I'm not keen, either. I'm quite surprised how many people see them as quite a big deal.

Kittykatmacbill · 17/12/2020 19:59

Absolutely love them! But I don’t spend as much as that on cards! Maybe £3 for ten at most.

BoyTree · 17/12/2020 20:00

You're spending too much on the cards you're not buying!!! £2 each?! That is madness!

Maireas · 17/12/2020 20:04

Just post on social media and/or have cards printed and sent out on black card :
NO BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS OR CONDOLENCES CARDS. EVER
That may stop it.

Freixene · 17/12/2020 20:07

Who’s spending £2 on a card?!
10 for £1 at the card factory or the Works!

NaughtyButNice · 17/12/2020 20:08

I also dislike all cards but I have told those people in my life who may want to send me a card so I don't get any through the year. I do appreciate others like to receive cards and I will give birthday cards but refuse to write out Christmas cards.

speakout · 17/12/2020 20:08

Waste of paper and money.

You could say the same for the whole of christmas.

Why bother at all? Waste of money.

Sparklesocks · 17/12/2020 20:22

If it’s not your cuppa it’s not your cuppa. Some like cards, some don’t.

Winterwoollies · 17/12/2020 20:23

I really love getting and sending them. Festive and cheerful and full of nice messages. And I reuse them for gift tags the following year.

maras2 · 17/12/2020 20:29

You miserable sod Xmas Sad

june2007 · 17/12/2020 20:29

I don,t send to people locally so much, but I send in the post and recieve some times it,s nice to here from people i don,t see much these days. Peticularly this year when I can,t see them anyway. (Or one can but not really advisable.)

MadameTuffington · 17/12/2020 20:34

@Blendiful Hell no - YANBU - I pretty much know my whole town and worked at the local secondary school for 14 years - Christmas cards became a massive stressful event and I figured why do I continue to do this silliness - I bake biscuits and cake for neighbours and friends, sometimes I get festive plants - I only buy presents for kids and parents now - Xmas so much better.

I’m a w**ker as I also don’t do birthday cards, just pressies - it’s a big fat waste of effort, time and money! I send Touchnote personalised cards for other special occasions.

I am a wierdo and my eldest daughter makes a point of loving cards as does my Mother.

Each to their own! But ... they all get thrown away or recycled - I just don’t get it.

Merry Christmas 🌲🐪🐪🐪🍹xx

FuzzyPuffling · 17/12/2020 20:36

I love getting cards.

BackforGood · 17/12/2020 20:49

Seems a bit invested to "really dislike Christmas cards".
I mean, if you can't be bothered to send them yourself, that's one thing, but try and be gracious enough to appreciate receiving them.

My MiL sends cards for all sorts of occasions I don't / wouldn't send cards, but I can't work up a "dislike" of them - it's just her 'thing'. It is quite nice tht she has taken the trouble in one way.

I rather like both sending and receiving cards from people I don't see regularly, and catching up with news / keeping in touch with people who, for whatever reason I'm not able to see in person very often. Totally respect that you don't, but 'really disliking' seems a tad strong.

speakout · 17/12/2020 20:53

Seems a bit invested to "really dislike Christmas cards".
I mean, if you can't be bothered to send them yourself, that's one thing, but try and be gracious enough to appreciate receiving them.

I agree- people send them with good will, a friendly greeting to wish well of others.
What is to "really dislike" about that?

Precipice · 17/12/2020 21:00

I don't mind cards where at least a little thought has gone into the message, but those which contain only a pre-printed message to which someone has added a 'To X' and signed off 'Y' are a waste of space and even saddening.

I don't care for Christmas cards because I don't do Christmas, so getting one that seems like someone's just sending me one for the sake of sending one and it's taken them 1 minute total to have it done and ready to send feels especially pointless. It's already annoying this time of year to have "Christmas!" blasted at you from all over for at least 1.5 months without getting something coming into your house that's so blatantly about checking you off a list. Getting one from someone who does care about Christmas and contains some message or wishes that are actually from them is more like a general message you could get at any point in the year.

Ginfordinner · 17/12/2020 21:01

I guess you are very young and don't have elderly relatives who would appreciate a card. IMO you sound rather joyless.

I send far fewer cards than I used to, and send them to friends and relatives that I rarely see. A card with a letter or lovely personal message is very much appreciated by the people I send them to.

Why not put a message on Facebook telling everyone that you don't like Christmas and birthday cards, then people needn't waste their time and money sending you them.

Cheeseboardandmincepies · 17/12/2020 21:05

Okay grinch. Might as well not bother with Christmas at all, wrapping paper is a waste too.

Countdowntonothing · 17/12/2020 21:06

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BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze · 17/12/2020 21:09

I don’t really like cards as they make surfaces look cluttered and I don’t like having more stuff to move when I clean. 🤣 At Xmas we only send a few cards to elderly relatives who really like them and insist on sending us cards. We tend to call or text instead and send a present.
We’re 40 ish and most people we know our age and younger not send cards and tell us not to bother. I think it’s a dying tradition.
I’m happy now my youngest child has finished primary school as kids don’t seem to send cards at secondary. I remember when both kids used to have about 50 cards from school each. 😬

GlowingOrb · 17/12/2020 21:10

I just finished a stack of cards for hospitalized veterans. Does that do anything to temper your bah humbug attitude? Xmas Smile