Declarations about not giving cards out

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Prepared to be told I'm BU but am I?

Why do people feel the need to announce they're donating to charity instead of giving cards?

I'm not talking about people who will be saving a fortune on postage, this includes neighbours. Is it to explain why you won't receive a card from them? AIBU to find it annoying?

@TheDizzyRascal

The best one I saw last year was "Joe and I won't be sending Christmas Cards this year, instead we're going to have a Chinese"

I'm fine with this kind of honest approach. It's people who quote charity and the environment while being car owners, having multiple children etc. The hypocrisy is unbearable.

I usually post a festive scene, and wish everyone a happy Christmas and say that I don’t send cards because I can’t be bothered and they’re a waste of money. I bin mine straight after opening.
I give to a few charities by dd every month so don’t feel guilty about it

Urgh. One of my team have declared they haven’t sent Christmas cards but donated to charity instead. The email is in BOLD and thoroughly excruciating. I’ve tried to read it twice now but can’t.

I wonder how many of the people not sending cards 'for environmental reasons' are keen eco-warriors the rest of the year? Do they never buy a newspaper, journal or magazine, a birthday card or other greetings cards, coffee in a paper cup, paper napkins, a paper calendar, printed photos, paper/card diary, booklets or books they could have read on Kindle? I may be cynical but I suspect a few people might be using 'the environment' as an excuse for not bothering with cards. Just say 'I can't be bothered' instead

It's people who quote charity and the environment while being car owners, having multiple children etc. The hypocrisy is unbearable.

So unless we are all perfect in our environmental endeavours and our charity work, we shouldn't bother?

I wonder how many of the people not sending cards 'for environmental reasons' are keen eco-warriors the rest of the year? Do they never buy a newspaper, journal or magazine, a birthday card or other greetings cards, coffee in a paper cup, paper napkins, a paper calendar, printed photos, paper/card diary, booklets or books they could have read on Kindle?

I can genuinely say I have not bought any of those things in at least a year, most even longer.

I do drive a car, but it is statutory requirement of my job (well, to be within 30 minutes of the hospital is, so unless I want to move every 2 years, I need a car.

I announce it because this year I’ve had cards from people and I don’t want them to think I don’t send them and am a meany.

I give a donation to a charity close to my heart and I can assure you I do give the £50 I say I will.

The reason I don’t send cards it’s environmental, it’s because I’d spend £35-40 and have to trail to post them and the money is better given to a charity.

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It's people who quote charity and the environment while being car owners, having multiple children etc. The hypocrisy is unbearable.

This is such an obviously inane attitude I'm surprised people are still trotting it out. Are you seriously suggesting unless you're perfect you can't take any steps to improve the environment?

You'd have a point if the person was berating you for sending xmas cards while being unenviornmental in other ways themselves but they're not.

So unless we are all perfect in our environmental endeavours and our charity work, we shouldn't bother?

You shouldn't announce it on the pretence it's for the benefit of others, because all you're saying is that you are happy to cease an act of altruism that requires effort on your part(sending cards), but you don't care sufficiently to exercise self-denial. That's not something to shout about. Just say you're not sending cards. You don't have to give a reason.

I hate this. Just do it quietly, or better still, post cards and donate to charity if you can. It might make all the difference in the World to a relative or friend who has been struggling this year to receive a card. Stop the virtue signalling, no one is impressed

@SantasBritchesSpelleas

God don't be so ridiculous. They're stating a simple fact, they're not sending cards and they'll be donating to charity instead. They're not claiming to be a paragon of virtue as a result of that. MN is utterly ridiculous sometimes. We have entire threads about people binning cards the second they get them or only enjoying certain types of cards, therefore it makes total sense to donate to charity instead of wasting cardboard on cards. It makes sense to explain why they're doing it because otherwise some other moany MN person will start a thread moaning about it.

They're stating a simple fact, they're not sending cards and they'll be donating to charity instead

But why is there a need to state they are donating to charity? The only possible reason is so that people will think well of them.

By the way I don't even do this myself. I send a few cards to people I know appreciate them (usually older relatives) and don't make any other statement about it but I just can't believe you've managed to get yourself annoyed at people doing something totally normal and appropriate.

I tell people I’m donating to charity because I don’t want people to think I’m a meany miser.

I don't mind what people do or don't do with their cash, but if your not doing cards because you can't be assed or want to donate instead fine, just tell me and I won't send one either.
If your on the bones of your ass or too frail I'll still send you one and hope it brings you some cheer!

I will be going through my list this year and if you've not sent one you ain't getting one next year.

I would rather people wouldn’t send me cards but some new friends have sent me this year, hence doing the message.

But why is there a need to state they are donating to charity? The only possible reason is so that people will think well of them.

Because they're expaining why they've stopped doing cards. Some people like you apparently get pissed off with something so trivial they might feel they have to justify themselves. It also encourages other people to do the same and it promotes a charity which might be meaningful to them. If you don't want to think well of them don't - why not just get on with your life without getting offended by it? Clearly you don't like other people doing something they might get credit for but that's your issue.

Some people like you apparently get pissed off with something so trivial they might feel they have to justify themselves

I'd have no problem if they simply said 'I'm not sending cards this year.'

charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up - I'm an agnostic, but I agree with the Bible on that point.

So far I have only had 1 e-card with a message about donating to charity (didn't say which one) instead of buying a card. Fine by me.
All other cards (and the ones I have sent) have been normal, pretty and benefitting a charity.

@SantasBritchesSpelleas

They're stating a simple fact, they're not sending cards and they'll be donating to charity instead

But why is there a need to state they are donating to charity? The only possible reason is so that people will think well of them.

Like I said in a previous post, it raises awareness for charities who have lost so much this year

I do donate to papyrus!!! And I do explain because I don’t want people to be offended that they haven’t received a card !
Most people now don’t expect a card because I’ve done this for many years !
Plus writing cards for me is different I have PSA in my finger joints and I find cards wasteful ! Mwah 💋

@TheDizzyRascal

The best one I saw last year was "Joe and I won't be sending Christmas Cards this year, instead we're going to have a Chinese"

I like this a lot. I also don’t mind if someone says something along the lines of they’ve just run out of time and didn’t get round to it.

The thing is, sending cards IS optional. But it is a part of Christmas in the way that eating turkey and having a Christmas tree is. If you are someone who sends cards, it feels quite sad to only get a few back.

*I'd have no problem if they simply said 'I'm not sending cards this year.'
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God you're really not getting it are you. People can promote charities. That's a good thing. Charities have been hit hard, giving money to charity and encouraging other people to do the same is a good thing. Clearly you're a scrooge who doesn't like other people getting any credit, that's fine YOU don't have to think the people who write these message are doing anything good but you're being ridiculous to object to them stating a simple fact of why they're not doing cards and what they're doing instead.

I did this and announced it on FB, as I wanted people to know that they wouldn't be getting a card from me this year. It wasn't virtue signalling, I just didn't want people to think I'd forgotten about them or was being rude not sending a card. And Yes, I have bought for my chosen charity, they have a wish list on Amazon and I bought something off there.