My mum is retired and a carer for my dad who is classed as vulnerable because of his long term health conditions. After the second lockdown she found out that she was entitled to form a support bubble with another household as she is a carer. She chose my brother and his family apparently because they live slightly nearer. She already has a childcare bubble with them so could have made a support bubble with me and my family but for some reason she chose not to. Perhaps being cautious because of my dad I don’t know but I’m sure she had her reasons. Despite this, it feels horrible to not be chosen.
I know logically that we are all in difficult positions and people are having to make terrible decisions that no-one should take personally. But I can’t seem to get my head to control my heart. It feels horrible not seeing her, my children miss her and when I phone her I have to listen to all her stories about my brother’s children. She looks after them a lot despite having my dad to care for too. It’s starting to really upset me and it doesn’t help that my mil is over here a lot and she’s a difficult woman to get on with. It seems to make me miss my mum even more. I know the way I feel isn’t rational or right but if anyone has any kind pearls of wisdom that would help me deal with this I would be so grateful. Thank you.